I'm currently 20 and had borken up with my ex boyfriend at 18. He is 8 years older than me so he is probably ready to settle down. I've been thinking so much about him for the past two years and horribly regretting letting him go, but i was immature and not ready for a serious relationship then. I know that he still does care for me, but he never seems to want to talk or hang out as friends, unless i call him first. I honestly know I love him and could see myself marrying him, but I'm not sure if I should let him go or try to get him back. Since I am still young I don't want to make any quick decisions, but I've been tihnking about him for 2 years now. I'm afirad I might lose him.
2007-06-03 02:03:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've talked seriously to my best friend about how I feel, since she is also friends with my ex. She's explained that I should make sure I know how I feel and supports me. So I have her support in all of this. And I'm not saying he would want to get married now. But I would like to someday and I'm sure I'd be ready in a few years. any other guy I seem to meet I do eventaully start compring to my ex and they just don't seem as good. I know this may sound cheesy but being around my ex gives me that little fluttery feeling that i've never felt around anyone else...like a surge of excitement in my heart. I've been with other guys just as long as him before and I still only feel it around this particular guy. I know I love him, but I think to know how much I really love him (if it could be forever) i'd have to try and commit to a relationship with him and be with him. I don't want to hurt him though. He's the sweetest guy in the world. i'm so confused.
2007-06-03 05:56:43 · update #1
well, first off, don't jump the gun on him. you have no idea what he really wants unless you talk to him. he may not want marriage. age has nothing to do with decision to want to settle down. he may have already let that ship sail. if your going to talk, do it soon. but before you do, be honest with yourself on what you want to do. he may already be in a relationship with someone else. when people fall in love and its a deep love, they generally still love each other no matter what, even if they moved on. i still love my ex. always will, but it just didnt' work. talk to people about it. be honest and dont' convince yourself you want marriage just so you don't lose him. that would be like....keeping that door open just in case you might want it later. thats not fair to him. so talk to mom, or aunt or someone who will give you honest feed back. when you do approach them to bounce it off them, tell them to be 100% honest with you about anything they may see. that way at least your making a clear decision and not just in panick cause you don't want to lose him.
2007-06-03 02:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you shouldn't make any quick decisions about marriage because it's forever until death do part (will to some people). you don't went to make the wrong decision either and then regret it later. what you need to do is think about what you went first, then talk to him and see what he wants too. he might not even went to be married anymore or he might have moved on and have a new girlfriend. so if you don't talk to him you will never know. since you are young you can also go to your parents and ask them for their opinion on what you should do. but don't make a choose you will regret later in life. but also know you still got your whole ahead of you too. marrying someone isn't going to keep you from losing them. marriage is a two way street just like any relationship. one can not work with out the other. if you do decided you went to be together that's great and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-03 04:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we love someone, we must think of the future. do you still love him until forever? even you already get married with him and know all the bad habits that he had. married is difficult, and if we choose the wrong spouse it will make a second hell in the world, but if you can answer yes, i will love him forever and i love him very much and don't want to lose him (since he will get other girl) then you have to take a risk to have serious relationship. you will became more mature as the time passing by, but if you like not love. leave him and seek others to became your soul mate.
2007-06-03 02:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sylvia R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be happy. More importantly your happiness shouldn't be validated by someone else. Only you.
When people refuse to move on they usually don't have much going on for themselves in life at the moment. You have to get your self together and start doing things for yourself. Learn to dance salsa, take up a new hobby or recreational activity, meet new people.
Your inactivity makes you want to live in the past and identify moments that you can remember where you were relatively happy. Getting back together with your old BF won't necessarily make you happy. What if he dosen't want to get back with you? What will you do then? If you're not happy with yourself, how do you expect him to be happy with you?
2007-06-03 02:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by BK Professional 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two years, you have already "lost him". You are just in love with the idea of what he might have been. You are becoming more mature, and should start looking among your own friends for a relationship.
2007-06-03 02:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for it. If you are having thoughts about him maybe he is the one.
2007-06-03 02:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Good News 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-06-03 02:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋