2007-06-03 01:08:22 · 7 answers · asked by Tessa 3 in Social Science ➔ Dream Interpretation
My husband and I met one night at a party and had what should have been a one night stand, but the next day we decided to meet again, only for sex, and we kept doing so for a while, then once he asked if I wanted to come over the next weekend, I assumed for sex, and said no it's that time of the month I don't want to have sex, and he said: "We don't have to have sex, we can just spend the night together and watch a movie." Married for over a year now and we very happy.
The point is that sleeping with someone wont make them fall in love with you, cause love takes time, but that doesn't mean that you need to keep a whole relationship on hold cause if a man doesn't want a serious relationship or if he doesn't plan to settle down, he wont change his mind whether you sleep with him or not.
2007-06-03 01:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anria A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's always the case. Obviously, if he's only contacting you for booty calls then there isn't much romantic, long-term interest there, but I had a sex on the first date with a man because we spent the whole day together, got along amazingly well and it just seemed "right". We started a relationship that eventually didn't work out, but we are still friends and keep in touch...so I got a lifelong friend out of it!
2007-06-03 01:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by sonrisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't condone sleeping with someone on the first date. In my opinion, sex belongs only in marriage. I was a virgin until my wedding night. (I'm a guy, by the way - and not very religious at this time in my life, either).
That being said, though, what you're saying isn't universally true, or at least it wasn't. I don't know about today. My mother-in-law is not very bright, but the one skill she did seem to have with her husbands was to have sex with them right away, get knocked up, and then turn them into successful relationships. Both of her husbands were killed in accidents. She met her second husband at a party and she slept with him that night and got knocked up with twins. They married a few months later. They had their rough bumps, especially at the beginning, but they were married for probably around 30 years, and if you ask friends and family that have known them for decades you're probably get a consistent response that they're one of the happiest couples they'd ever seen. They'd remind me a lot of Archie and Edith Bunker. They'd argue and fuss, and were complete opposites, but they sure loved each other and had a lively romance that was cut short by his death a few years ago. So........no. It's not a cut and dried rule that if you sleep together on the first date it can't become a long-term relationship. Still......I think it's a very poor idea. Sex is for marriage.
2007-06-03 01:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all the time, but most of the time...if you sleep with someone on the first date you will lose the respect of that person. If you have no respect in the relationship you have no relationship.
2007-06-03 01:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could lead to a relationship,but just one based on sex.
2007-06-03 01:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Candi Apples 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time this is true. Why buy the cow if the milk is for free.
2007-06-03 01:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Stev 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I did it.
2015-07-17 18:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋