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i had left my home b/c it was abusive and full of anger. i went and i lived with my aunt for about a month. just over a week ago, she kicked me out. i am now back in the abusive house and don't know what to do. i am grounded for leaving and am not allowed to do anything. i was always a good kid, i've never done drugs, i don't drink, and my grades were usually decent (until recently- it's hard to concentrate). now i can't take it anymore. i've snuck out twice since i've been home and came back both times. both times were to see my boyfriend, that i rarely see now because of the restrictions. we are in love with eachother, and i hate when ppl say that we can't be b/c we are to young. we are. he's 18, i'm 16. he cares about me more than anything. he offered me to stay with him if things got too rough at home. the second time i snuck out, i came home and was forced to move my room in with my brother. it is now so cramped in there that i have to suck it in to move around.

i was taken out of school early- like 11:00 am. when i got home, i was doing chores until 10:00 pm as punishment (ontop of the moving in with my brother). my step mother forced me to give her my boyfriends last name and address, threatening to beat me if i didn’t. my father, who usually sticks up for me when my step mom hits me, came up and grabbed my hair, pulled my head back and told me that he should beat the **** out of me. i would move in with my boyfriend, except they now have his address and threatened to hunt me down and bring the police the next time i left. since i am 16, i can live where ever i want, so this would normally not be a problem, but my boyfriend’s aunt would never allow me to live there. and i don’ t want to get my bf in trouble. i don’t know what to do... help?!?!?!

here's to answer some questions i've gotten when i asked this b4: my boyfriend had problems with his aunt b4 i ever even knew him... his aunt doesn't even know about me. now my aunt kicked me out right after she found out she would not be getting temporary custody of me and therefore would not be getting the social security check that i get every month (b/c my real mom died). she made up a bunch of reasons like i was turning her whole house upside down, and i was manipulating my father against her. that is why i was kicked out.

ummmm.... actually i can live where ever i want legally... when i went to live with my aunt, my parents couldn't force me to come back b/c i am 16, and by law can live where ever i want... i have had this explained to me several times by police and judges... etc.... so stop telling me i can't when i know for a fact that i can.

i don't have an "oh-poor-me" attitude. i've dealt with my abusive step mother since i was 6 years old. she has beaten me on multiple occasions for ridiculous reasons. my dad and my mom haven't been together since i was 2, so he wasn't that grieved when my mother died, he just felt bad for me. i would go to school and have black and blue eyes and have to lie when ppl asked where i got them from. i would say i got hit in the face with a basketball or something. i was beaten one time for locking the front door when i was home alone at night. my step mom thought i was trying to hide something and lock her out so she beat me and then made me clean up the blood afterword. so don't try to tell me i am a horrible kid that expects to get away with everything, b/c i am not. i do expect punishment, just not like this. i am so sick of my step mom, and i didn't stand up for myself and start doing this stuff until like a month ago.

Answer 1

I feel for you sister. Calling the police would not be a good idea unless you don't mind going into a foster home. What you wanna achieve is to have your own place to live. Where you are free to come and go. You need to get EMANCIPATED. Call Social Services (Welfare). They would help you file the paperwork. I would call them and ask how to get emancipated from your parents. Just simply say " I'd like to have my own home." there may be a way to get emancipated without becoming pregnant. You mentioned you have good grades. Look into internships and overseas exchange programs. That would get you out of the house for months at a time. Talk to a pastor or priest and ask for help. You never know what they might offer. A summer job in the convent, stay over required. They'll think you're working for them. But you can learn about religion and meet kind and exciting people. Convents have nice gardens and homemade food. Please don't lose hope. Find a creative way to get away from them. Please try hard to concentrate in school. That's your ticket for a scholarship for college. Talk to your teachers now! Tell them you want to apply for scholarships and that you plan on going far away. They can help you get in with reccomendation letters etc. Are you into music or writing? Many colleges for music and creative arts have live on campuses. I hope this helps. your parents are mentally ill and it's not your fault. Pulling your hair and beating you is Cruel and abusive. Get away fast before they hurt you worse.

God bless you sister

Answer 2

Ok, I would get a phone, one with a secure line, call child abuse in your local area, then tell them your address, then they will come and arrest your Step mom and dad. and I am really sorry this is happining, my dad can get that way sometimes to, but not as bad... I say just go out and move in with your bf and move somewhere else like Michigan, and then you can find an apartment, to stay, while your "Parents" freak out. That will make them lose it. Then after the do that they will just forget about it and probably think, why where we so mean? Then they will figure out what they did. But, you have to consider moving with you bf and moving to Michigan.

Hope this helps, and he is 18 so he could make the decision of moving away from his fam.

Answer 3

So you don't want to follow any rules and you want to do what you want to do, but you don't want to support yourself. I'll bet your parents are tearing their hair out. I am not a believer of forcing kids to do what they don't want to when they get to the point where they think they know better than their parents. My guess is that your home life sucks because you think you are entitled to do what you want with no repercussions, and well darn it, your family expects better of you.

So here are your choices. You can leave and be the grown up you think you are and support yourself, and probably your b/f because he sounds like a loser who is going no where. OR you could apologize to your parents and ask them to put you in counseling for your feelings of abandonment that is causeing you to act out. If you don't think you are doing this, then tell someone what you are doing, mention the fact that your mother died and see if they don't tell you the the same thing.

My father died when I was two, and it haunted me all my life until I finally figured out that he didn't do it on purpose and I had nothing to do with it. The man died young, it happens. Your mom died young, it happens. However, she left you alone and my guess your father has probably not dealt with his grief let alone yours.

Honey, you can either struggle all your life or you can live happy. Lose the attitude and oh poor me stuff and stop making your families life a living hell. Ask for help. If your folks can't help you, then go to your school counselor and ask for help. Go to your minister and ask for help. Go to a free clinic and ask for help. And lose the b/f. If he was worth anything, he would have a job and be supporting you right now. Your dad is, but the b/f isn't. Think about that. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

OK, now if you don't do anything now,your parents could abuse you to the point of ER or death bed. You will regret it for the rest of your life for not taking some action.

My Advice:
1. FORGET about your boyfriend. (as hard as it may be)
2. Get OUT of that house. Maybe an apartment FAR away.
3. POLICE!! POLICE!! POLICE!! Explain the situation and they'll probably take your parents away (I know you'll feel bad but you did the right thing)

Act now please.. don't mess your life up

Answer 5

It's no one business or decision except for the bride. Some brides choose to use coverup makeup on their big day (and maybe at a church wedding the priest might be very old fashioned) and others wear their tattoos with pride. It's a personal decision and one only the bride can make for herself. These days nearly everyone has a tattoo so it's not a big deal like it was 30 years ago.

Answer 6

Your sixteen and no you arent allowed to live you where you want and your parents could put your boyfriend in jail hes 18 your not, your a minor. It sucks you are in a tough position, you cant go live with family? You can get your grades up and get a good education a scholarship, you have two years till you are 18, then you can live and do what you want. Stick it out sista child. Time will fly. You shouldnt be dating an 18 yr old when your 16 anyway. Your dad and mom or step mom are wrong for cussing at you but i just think there is more to this story..........PS its dangerous to sneak out there are crazy people out there plus good kids dont sneak out .........

Answer 7

Call the cops. Next call child protective services. Next forget about the boyfriend until you have a safe place to live. Remember if your stepmother and your father are abusing you they are most likely abusing the other kids in the family too and you will be protecting them from further abuse. Do whatever it takes to protect yourself.

Answer 8

You sound like you are in a very bad situation. You need to call child welfare or go to your guidance counselor at school. Tell someone what is going on. There is help out there for you; you just have to find it. If you go the guidance counselor route they will report it to the proper authorities for you. Good luck and please get some help before you are hurt!!!

Answer 9

Forget living with your boyfriend. You need to go to the police. This is not a normal family situation and the police needs to investigate.

Answer 10

if your houseis reallyrun like tyhat then you should be the one to go to the police! and if they go to the police then u can backfire what they had in mind and tell what goes on in your house. also you do have the right tolive where u want to because ur 16 and the police cant do anything abouit that!