I have a hard time saying it, instead i say i need to use the bathroom, and i just try to avoid the person, the dance is on the day after tomorrow. Does anyone know how? I dont want to hurt there feelings though.
2007-06-02 20:56:47 · 13 answers · asked by Marlon I. 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why not just dance? It's 1 night out of your life and you make someone's dream come true!
No matter how you say it, the words no thanks are going to sting. You can tell them you want to go alone but promise to dance with them for a song or two or say that you already agreed to go with someone else.
2007-06-02 21:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry Darling 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say with polite smile and shy gesture: "Im worn out for the night", or "Im fine".
In such an energetic atmosphere (assuming the music is loud), you can use these phrases without sounding rude. The person wont have enough time to figure out "why is he tired" or "why is he worn out". I've been turned down a dance and didnt take it personal--although I was looking good that night....just took a random guy and danced in front of him...his loss *lol*
2007-06-02 23:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Born to be wild 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say "Thank you for the invite, but no thanks."
If you want you can add I am .... going stag (alone), not going at all, or already going with someone else which ever is true...
Running and hiding hurts feeling more than being truthful and declining..
Now for my fathers very good advise for while at a dance (I hate admitting my father was right) "If someone asks your for a dance while at a dance, dance with them once. You may be surprised you may like them... However if you find after the first dance you don't want to dance again simply say "No Thanks." if they ask again..." It takes a lot of courage for someone to walk up and ask you to dance one dance lasts 3-5 minutes so give it a shot...
2007-06-02 21:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best I found, always came with excuses. It just seemed easier that was. Like, "I am to tired right now, maybe a bit later", or "Well, I'm kinda seeing someone, sorry", or just dance with them and get it over with. Why don't you want to dance with them in the first place? Is it because of you, or them? Chances are it took them a lot of courage to come ask you, is it really that big of a deal to dance with them? It's maybe three minutes out of your life to make someone else happy.
2007-06-02 21:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by shawna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make an excuse
-you already planned to go with somebody else
-you can't go
whatever.
Its okay to tell a lie to avoid hurting somebody's feelings
2007-06-02 21:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Gotta ask...Are you say "No, I can't (won't) go to the dance with you"? or "No I CAN'T dance with you"?...There is a difference. If you Do Not WANT to go to the dance with them..say so. If it is 1 dance....do it and smile, be grateful 1 person wants to invite you and 1 OTHER person wants you to dance!
2007-06-02 21:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say that dancing is totally gay and you don't feel like being part of that bastard art form and then moonwalk your way straight out the door.
2007-06-02 21:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tsee Baeng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you won't really be comfortable in that setting/don't much like dances.
2007-06-02 23:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Keyring 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say no thank you... or no I'm not here to dance i just want to hang out and watch the people.
2007-06-03 02:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just kindly say "no thank you." lying isn't the best solution. it could still go either way. depends on what kind of person you're dealing with.
2007-06-02 21:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tha Drizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋