My sister & I are two years apart. I'm older (but not the oldest) & today was her 17th bday & I ruined it because she didn't invite me & she'd been planning it for a month. We live in the same house too. Everyone else in our family plus ten of her friends were invited.
I knew about less than 24 hours before it started. I don't see myself ever getting over that I'm happy I embarrassed her because she's been emotionally abusing my family & I for the passed 4 years.
She had her boyfriend's sister (she's 20 yrs old) move in with us & now they act like they're sisters and always going places together & I never get invited anywhere. I mean I have my own life, but an invitation once in awhile would be nice.
My sister thinks she's older than me & I constantly have to try & put her in her place.
Where do I go from? When I say I ruined her party I'm talking about bringing up all her dirty laundry in front of her friends & our family.
2007-06-02
20:20:40
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When I say "put her in her place" I mean tell her that she's younger. She's always trying to talk down to me and act like I'm just a kid and she's so much smarter and cool.
2007-06-02
20:45:03 ·
update #1
Life is too short to hold grudges. Nobody ever regretted mending a relationship.
Good luck
2007-06-02 20:24:24
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answered by Anonymous
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I see your point in the respect that it would be nice if she spent more time with you. But you can't turn a brick into stone. If she's not family oriented, like my sister isn't, then you can't make her want to spend time with you. My sister spends all of her time with her boyfriend, or at work, or doing something else. For the past 2 years the only time I see her is at night when she comes home to sleep. The thing is, thats just the way it is. I can't make her invite me to do stuff with her, and I wouldn't want to be around someone who doesn't sincerely want to be around me as well. I think you need to let go a little bit and let her do her thing. It doesn't mean stop speaking to her and stop being her sister, just don't expect much from her.
2007-06-02 20:30:06
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answered by c3345 3
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She might be asking the exact same question! I think you both did bad. I think you both need to avoid each other for a while. When things cool down, if you can, you might want to say "I'm sorry for what I did, but why did you invite everyone but me?? Do you hate me that much? You had to know how that would hurt me." But wait a while, and ignore her. She might approach you first. Good luck, and I promise you, this will blow over eventually. In the meantime, live your own life and be happy!!
2007-06-02 20:35:39
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answered by LadyLynn 7
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I think the sense of repsect in your home is out of whack. As a part of the family you should be invited to any function going on in you own home.....however--the fact of what you did---i would never invite you to anything ever again. Remember the old adage "two wrongs do not make a right". And all you are proving is that both of you are immature and jealous of one another. I recommend being the better person and try to be civil to one another. Family means you have to love one another (not like each other)--but loving means sometime distancing yourself from their actions and pettiness. Good Luck!
2007-06-02 20:34:14
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answered by pmbrundle74 3
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You should know better, after all you are the oldest of the two. It is understandable you feel left out and even more so after she didn't invite you to this get together, but it was very immature of you to divulge all her dirty secrets. You insulted her also, and in front of other people. I say you two need to grow up and start treating each other as what you are... SISTERS... Family matters are always complicated but don't get to extremes.
2007-06-02 20:25:46
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answered by Anonymous
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Well it seems like you need to get out and breath some fresh air. Let it cool off for a while and ignore them. She is trying to manipulate you to get you angry. Be the better person and just avoid confrontation.
Since your 19-20, why not move out and get your own place? You shouldn't have to worry about that kind of stress unless you have to.
2007-06-02 20:26:07
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answered by Dunkel 2
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confident. yet its somewhat diverse for me. My fiance's aunt use to love me a lot. then at some point at paintings (we worked at the same time) she merely flat out stated as me racist and yelled and screamed at me. i dreaded going to easter and issues the place i comprehend she'll be at. yet she acts all effective and stuff, and that i merely shop my shield up. i'm well mannered (VERY diverse from pretend effective) yet i'm no longer buddybuddy anymore. I nevertheless dread issues bc under no circumstances comprehend f shes going to coach out lower back. She's additionally lashed out at my fiance; he's merely about finished together with her too. this is incredibly no longer difficulty-free on him, they have been so close. I comprehend. i don't experience in the slightest degree unhappy.
2016-10-06 13:13:39
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answered by ? 4
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people put too much emphasis on family, they are just people who are on the planet with you, when you grow up you are free to walk away and avoid the BS. life is what you make it, so don't let an old school label like "sister" or "father" force you into a relationship you don't want to have. there are 1.6 billion other people out there you might just like better.
2007-06-02 20:26:45
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answered by stan in china 3
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You didn't...Jeez, if that's how you act, I wouldn't have invited you, either. You do realize that either of you could be hit by a car and die tomorrow, right? And never have a chance to fix things? Is it really worth it?
2007-06-02 20:27:20
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answered by Alice K 7
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I hope you will not regret what you did (one day).What ever happened you two are sisters,she will come back to her senses and appologise , my sister got engaged and did not invite me,it hurts but no problem.
2007-06-02 20:26:42
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answered by maram 4
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