Help With mom please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My mom and me have been fighting for about two weeks she has not called me so i called her and she hung up on me, so i called her back and her phone was turned off. So i called her back a few days latter and we had a huge fight about how she is trying to run my life when she does not even know how to run her own. She is living with an abusive guy who does drugs and she has my brother in the home what do i do i am trying to tell her to get out of the relationship but she will not listen so what do i do?

Answer 1

Your mom sounds immature, and unable to face her own problems. However, if you are concerned for your brother's welfare since he is being exposed to drugs and abuse (maybe) you have to do something.

Is there anyway you can get your brother out of that situation? Do you have other family members you can call on? Can you call the police on the bf for the drugs and the abuse?

Sorry for giving you questions, when you are searching for answers...I suppose they are just ideas...

Answer 2

I think your mother is very lonely and wants any kind of company. If her boyfriend is doing drugs, it depends on what kind of drug addict he is...if he is very abusive and/or rude, then yes you are right. She needs to leave, but if he is kind and addicted, perhaps she can help him.

More importantly you should get yourself situated...stay with your grandparents, or a good friend until she can come to her senses, and in good time try to bring your brother over to you. If your mother is confused, you absense will make her realize what she has lost. That should be a strong enough wakeup call.

If worse comes to worst, you should give Child Protective Services a call and see if you cannot life in a foster home, away from all of that nonsense, but that is that absolute last straw. I say, do what you need to do to succeed. Work hard in school and grow into the type of person that will one day be able to rid your family of those who try to bring you down.

Answer 3

You gotta remember. Its her life. Yes yes, it may be plain to see that the relationship is totally wrong for her, but she will never really let go until she sees that for herself. If she does leave him in her heart it'll say "i left him cause of my daughter". however, if she leaves on her own will it'll be "I left him cause he does drugs and is abusive". Try talking to her in person, you won;t get your point through over the phone. trust me. Another thing. If she gets mad and retalliates, dont fight back. whenever people get mad, theres ears shut down and there mouths open up. Just stay calm hear her side and say "look mom, i know we haven't been getting along these past couple of weeks and i know i haven't been helping any. Listen i may/or may not know what your going through right now, but i just want what is best for you. In the end its your decision mom, but i jsut want you to know what your daughter thinks of this ...(Say what you need to say here). be reasonable, dont raise your voice, and be caring. after all that if she still puts up a fight, say i love you and walk out the door. your point will have been said and recieved and all you can do is wait. Remember growing up, we all wanted freedom. just for the record, i hope your mom leaves that guy and sees the truth, good luck with everything :)

Answer 4

Your mother is just scared. She doesn't know what to do. If her spouse/boyfriend doing drugs, aware the police that there is an abusive man in the same home of a child. Trust me, people can and will get arrested for that. If you want the best for your mom, then please. For your mom's and brother's sake. Do something with that man. Things should settle down with your mother after that Becuase she wouldn't have to worry about him. After that, try finding a prefect match for your mom (only if she had setteld down)

Like I said. That man it horrible. He shouldn't lift a finger towards your mom.

Good luck and Best Wishes

Answer 5

You can't help your Mom until she is ready to be helped. However, you do need to help your little brother.

Tell your Mom that you will no longer interfere with her life uninvited, but that she has to get your brother out of that household. Either take him yourself, or have him sent to a mutually agreeable relative. Tell her that if she does not cooperate, you will report her to Child Protective Services. Be prepared to carry through on the threat or don't make it.

Good Luck and God Bless.

Doc Hudson

Answer 6

There really isn't a lot you can do, as far as her...but you didn't say how your brother felt about it..or his age.Could he stay with you if it's that bad??? ..It's hard to watch someone go thru this..I know..Just let ya Mom know you love her, sounds like she could use the emotional support maybe she will open her eyes!

God Bless!

Answer 7

i have a mom who is in the same situation, the best thing you can do if the man is abusive to your brother or mother is call child services , i had to with my mom, the man she was with almost beat my little brother to death... now my mom and brother are being supervised and my mom has relized , that she screwed up

Answer 8

watch the 700 club - mon -fri 11:00 ch 49

joel osteen - sun 12:00 ch 49

Answer 9

maybe she does know how terrible her life is. and does not want the same for you ,think about it don't walk into the trap she has herself in. just another worried mother i think that wants the best for her child don't be so hard on her she seems like she needs someone especially her child to let her know she is loved

Answer 10

no matter what cherish your mom! you never know when you could loose her. maybe you could take her out for dinner and talk to her about it. but when you talk to her dont say "you" say "I feel" because it will put her on the defensive!