my friends want me to do this with them, but I'm not too sure. When they asked me I was really emberassed, i felt really uncomfortable, but they called me a "nigge*" and said it was ok. I'm shocked and appalled, what should I do?!?!?!??!?!
2007-06-02 18:46:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't do it if you feel uncomfortable with it....are these so called friends that said this to u white or black....either way that was disrespectful in thinking that because u are african american its okay to be in an orgy.....I have a lot of black male friends that do that a lot and the girls that they bring in ...they disrespect and talk about as if they hoes.....I would tell them....I don't get down like that...find ya a new girl ta do that with...I ain't the one.....good luck
2007-06-02 18:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mama C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't engage in behavior that shocks and appalls you. No matter what your so called friends say. There is a reason why people usually frown upon orgies and "swinging" and today many of them have to do with the health risks associated with them. Look, do you really want to look at pathetic as Paris Hilton and Brittany Spears do??? If your mother found out you had sex (even with your boyfriend that she likes) she probably would be a little embarrassed or just wouldn't want to think about it. Imagine how she'd feel if she found out you participated in an orgy. Is this something that your boss would think would look good on your resume. Probably not. Pay attention to your feelings. They are there for a reason - to guide your behavior and help you make good choices. Don't compromise with what you know is right.
2007-06-03 01:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a reason why you are really embarassed and feel really uncomfortable about this whole thing. Don't feel guilty or shameful for having those feelings. They tell you that this is not you.... that this is not something that you want to do or would enjoy doing. Do what YOU want to do, not what others want you to do or are pressuring you to do.
These don't really sound like good friends. Find things that YOU like to do with people who also like to do those things. Don't change your unlikes to likes just to fit into a crowd. Stay true to yourself. You be you, and that's all that counts. I say to pass on this.... you may feel like you are being left out of something fun, but really, you are making a WISE choice. You can always do things.... there are many opportunities.... but you can never undo things. Find some new interests and some new friends.... or do things that you like that some of your other friends like to do also. But I don't think this is the crowd for you. First of all, it sounds all wrong to me, and 2nd of all.... you are a wise person who has a good head on your shoulders and listens to your heart as well as feel "warnings" and "red flags". They are there for a reason. For your own protection. I have them too.... and there is nothing wrong with that. =)
2007-06-03 02:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by blueskies 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously this decison is completely up to you, however seeing as you did feel embaressed it probably means you are not comfortable with the situation. Think it over. Is it something you will regret? Are you just going to do it "to fit in"? Just remeber to be true to yourself and not let others determine the person you are.
2007-06-03 01:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sense&Sensibility 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, thats probably a chance of a lifetime and well if you guys are really close then there is nothing to worry about but always make sure to use protection.Ultimately the decision is yours and no one can force you to do anything and if they are really your friends then they will respect ur decision.
2007-06-03 01:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by ragnarok4 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're a virgin..you're running with the wrong crowd. Stick to your beliefs and find new friends. You don't need that. Ignore their comments as hard as it is..Bring them up to your level, don't lower yourself to theirs. Be proud of who you are!!
2007-06-03 01:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a sticky situation to me.
I think I would not.
2007-06-03 01:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if they're pressuring you do something you dont want to, then they're not good friends now are they..
and as far as calling you that.. they're still not good friends
2007-06-03 01:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by steff 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it and stop calling them your friends.
They are not.
2007-06-03 01:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tyson boy's dad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow
if you feel uncomfortable dont do it.
dont do something you might regret later!
2007-06-03 01:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋