I am very concerned about a potential problem with a wedding guest. I used to be friends with the giel 10 years ago but we have since grown apart. Upon hearing about our wedding she called assuming she was a bridesmaid. I found this odd as we had not been close or hung out in years. I broke the news that she was not in the party but if it meant that much to her I could fine a place for her doing something else. She started screaming at me and calling me names. I did not speak to her for a few months and then she called again. She acted normal and so I thought we would let it go. I sent her an invitation. Things seemed ok. Then I had a batcholette party and she was invited. She ended up freaking out at all my bridesmaids that she wasn't included and told me she didn't want to come and stormed out of the party. She then phoned me the day after and said it was my bridesmaids fault for planning the party without her. I expained this behaviour was not acceptable and she needed to appologize
2007-06-02 17:24:27 · 24 answers · asked by nakiska11111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She freaked out again and I told her I needed to go. She then e-mailed me saying se is looking forward to the wedding but i need to apologize for my behaviour. I have tried all I can to make her included, she has been very mean to myself and my friends. i really don't want her to come to the wedding and make a scene. What should I do????
2007-06-02 17:26:52 · update #1
I would honestly email her or call and say I am sorry but your behavior has offended me and you are no longer invited to my wedding. Then I would show an usher or groomsman a picture of her and if she tries to come in, I would have her escorted out bc she sounds unstable. Since you haven't really been friends with her in so long, you don't know what this girl has gotten in to. Good Luck!
2007-06-02 19:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by tired 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yu have really answered your own question haven't you. A "potential" problem. That really says it all. This is only real if you let it become real. I would suggest no further contact with her, go ahead and enjoy making your wedding plans, enjoy being the centre of attention and stop worrying about a "potential" problem. It may never happen and you would have worried yourself sick about nothing. This women has a serious insecurity problem, perhaps jealousy? But at the end of the day, that is her problem not yours. If she does get in contact again, keep the tone light, say how much you are looking forward to her coming to the wedding and could you both do lunch together before the wedding.
2007-06-02 17:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to find someone to regulate if she tries to come in. My best friend is getting married in a few days and a family that is close to the grooms family really wanted to be invited and the bride doesn't get a long with them. So the family has joked saying that if they don't get invited they will crash the wedding....so people know to look out for these crazy people that don't care to destroy one of the most important day of the couples' lives. And I say after the wedding I wouldn't talk to this crazy lady anymore!
2007-06-06 08:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems a bit koo koo! One minute she is fine then the next she is screaming at people. She needs therapy or something. You should have someone guarding the door. And if she shows up have them call the cops on her. Or get a security guard. I am not sure how much they are. But you really have to do something. You also should get a restraining order on her because she could be acting like this even after the wedding.
2007-06-02 17:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's definitely a whack job so un-invite her first. Face to face if possible but tell you the truth I would be to scare to do it. If she raises hell on you then it will not be a bad idea to invest on bodyguards for the wedding. If you could provide a reasonable explanation, you could probably get a TRO (Temporary Restraining Order). Make sure you do this ASAP because the last thing you need is extra stress as it gets close to the D Day. If nothing else works, you could always try my crazy idea to plant incriminating evidence on her property and call anonymous 911 on her so she will be arrested at least for the wedding day. (LOL! Don't try this at home!)
2007-06-05 12:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by cappuccino_lava 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Francesca, The key to all of this is that it's something they do. They were a couple long before you were with him and they have a child together. That will always trump your relationship to him. That's one of many prices you will pay for being with a guy that's got a relationship with child/wife that will always be more important to him in the long run than yours. While it's different, it seems to work for them. The only thing you can do is make this something into which it's not your business. He'll just take it out on you. It's a small thing in life. Let it go.
2016-05-19 22:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, is she bi-polar or what?!?!?!?
Assuming it's to late to change the date/time of your wedding (or move out of state!), call her and uninvite her based on her erratic behavior from the other wedding functions. Then have security (if you have them or hire them) very well informed that this person is not allowed in (give a pic if you have one) and tell them they are to call the police if she refuses to leave.
Do not chance just telling her things were canceled or changed, she sounds like the type that will stalk your location and find out anyway.
So sorry, and good luck!
PS. if you tell her she's uninvited and she freaks, let her give one threat and then you can file a restaining order against her and she cannot come anywhere near you without risking jailtime.
2007-06-02 17:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jenni P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, she sounds like she's a little un-glued. However it sounds to me like she's still invited to your wedding, so if she comes she might not feel like she's crashing if she still has an invite. Yes, I know you told her she couldn't come somewhere along the line, but your final word was "she needed to appologize", & that can still be taken by her that the door is still open.
I suggest that you be perfectly clear to her that her recent behaviour has been unacceptable, & you don't want her there at your wedding.
She's a slave to her emotions, & my experience with people like that tells me you need to keep the conversation cut & dry with her. Don't use any terms that are open to misinterpretation.
2007-06-02 17:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get 2-3 very large guys and post them outside your wedding and reception. Instruct them not to let her in the wedding and have them call the police if she tries to force her way inside. But you also need to tell her that if she is going to flip-out at your wedding, she is no longer invited.
2007-06-02 17:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by longhornfan1722 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call her and tell her that because of her behavior so far you dont trust her anymore and your friendship is over. tell her that she is no longer welcome at the wedding and send her gift back if she has already given you one.
Then bring a picture of her to the wedding and show people in charge of the reception place and at the ceremony her picture and tell them NOT to let her in. She is NO LONGER invited.
Never talk to her again. If she calls hang up.
2007-06-06 16:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋