summer but family is getting on my nerves. The dude's family still did not given me a list and my want me to invite everybody. What really sent me in my room crying is the fact, my dude always say we don't have the money or nobody is trying to help us; but we have a flat screen tv, xbox360, WII & Playstation 3. I don't understand if we can afford this things, why not a WEDDING? Am I, being a spoil brat? I got the rings & the invite, my anut is getting the cake & food. I don't know what to do. We been together for 9 years.
2007-06-02 17:23:48 · 15 answers · asked by JO`NAE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He said we should goto City Hall becase that is what we can afford! I want to get married in a CHURCH.
2007-06-02 17:33:30 · update #1
A lot of ppl (in their answers) are acting like you should just go to the courthouse, but this should be the best day of your life and if it is important to you to get married in a church, then you should. Talk to your fiance and tell him how you feel. Mention the Xbox, TV, etc. Tell him that those things mean to him what this wedding means to you and should mean to him. Then set a dead line with him about when his family needs to get you a list. I hope he respects you enough to listen, bc right now it seems he is being quite insensitive. If he asked you to marry him, he knew there would be a wedding.
If he doesn't respect you enough to want a decent wedding and respect your emotions, you might want to rethink this marriage.
2007-06-02 19:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by tired 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to get married in a church you have very few choices.
If you want to get married this summer, you either need to sell some things to afford the church wedding or go to City Hall and have a ceremony with your "dude". Then have a nice little reception after at your home.
If you want a church wedding and can't afford it now, extend the date to next year. Use the income tax refund towards the wedding as well as set aside money each payday to the wedding account.
2007-06-03 02:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. It sounds like you both over reacted. Yes it is your room, but it is in his house. Like you said he thought he was doing something nice and it most likely never occurred to him that the frames didn't match or that you had a symmetry thing going with your certificates. Who knows why he blew it all out of proportion. Most likely he was hurt when you didn't appreciate his effort. Why these pics now? Who knows, maybe he is sentimental now that you are in college. He definately over reacted by screaming at you. However, you could have been a little more tackful as well. This is life lesson, not just for parental problems. It is one of those times when little white lies are so necessary. Spare your father's feelings (co-worker, boss, etc) then politely move the offensive objects later. Until you have your own home, bought, and paid for people will have the right to intrude on "your" space. If not parents, then co-workers, landlords, and even the janitor.
2016-04-01 12:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a sit down with your man and talk about everything that is bothering you. He might not even know that you have been feeling sad lately. If you want to get married in a church you can, they don't cost that much, especially if you marry in the church you go to it should be free. Then just have a nice reception at someones house. It doesn't matter how much a wedding costs. The most important thing is that you spend it people great friends and family.
2007-06-02 17:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay - how old are you two?
Everyone has wedding jitters, HOWEVER, a flat screen tv with all the game stations, is sending up some serious red flags.
So, YOU'VE purchased the things that show committment, and he's purchased the things that show FUN..........are you involved with the finances of this relationship??? The leading cause of divorce in this country is financial. Are you contributing to the financial aspect of this marriage? If so....stand up and SPEAK UP! If not...pay attention...because you can see right now the path it's taking....all for him, and none for you...unless you ask your family for it, or do it yourself. There's no partnership or teamwork going on here.
Trust your gut instinct!!
2007-06-04 16:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to compromise..but i'd go with what u can afford..just because u have a flat screen tv, playstation 3, and xbox don't mean u can afford a big wedding..and at the end of the day, its the marriage that matters..not the wedding
2007-06-03 11:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by baebeecakes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them a deadline, after which you are assuming there is NO list and you will decide who comes and not - be firm. A wedding can cost a lot or not so much, friends of mine had no monay so they went the justice of the peace route and had a reception - and the deal was everyone who was invited, got to bring something for the wedding or recepotion. It was rreally cool, and we all felt we'd contributed so much more than a wedding gift, that was really special.
2007-06-02 17:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt worry about them.. Do what I did.. Just go get your papers filed down at the court house, pay the justice of the peace fees.. Get married in 5 minutes, (have 2 witnesses) and then send out cards saying you are married and you are hosting a BBQ at the beach, picnic, backyard (wherever) and its a Bring your own party.. Everyone can come if they bring something to eat... Simple enough.. My wedding (if thats what you call it) cost me 15$ and the BBQ about 50$ give or take what the charcoal, drinks etc cost.. everyone else brought food..
2007-06-02 17:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mintee 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No your not a brat or anything... You want to get married bottom line. Maybe he wants to get married less then you do. Your doing all the work and you just want the perfect wedding. It sounds like its taking you over but remember the outcome is picture perfect. This storm will pass soon. Luck sweetheart!
2007-06-02 17:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by mssongstress 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You want lots of people, lots of fancy decorations, expensive meals, etc. For the price of some weddings you could buy a house. Weddings cost lots and lots of money, not just the couple of hundred you talk mention for your home entertainment objects.
Families do not help, things getting really difficult. Solve the the problem and elope.
Families and friends later complain they were not there, remind them of their attitude before.
2007-06-02 17:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋