my boyfriend is the best man to his friends wedding and the bride hates me. i am told that after my bf dances with the maid of honor and makes his speech that is when he can be with me the rest of the night. do i even bother going to sit by myself for a while or do i wait for his duties to be over and enjoy the rest of the night with him.
2007-06-02 16:32:55 · 24 answers · asked by Mandy25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, I would sit at the table, meet some new people until your Boyfriend is free...but don't be mad if he's unable to breakaway for a while. The Best man duties can sometimes run long.
2007-06-02 16:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia B 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
If you were not invited, you should not go. It's not up to your boyfriend to invite you if the invitation didn't say "and guest". If the bride doesn't want you there, then absolutely respect her wishes and don't go.
When it was stated that - after he dances with the maid of honor and makes his speech that is when he can be with you the rest of the night - they meant somewhere else, he could leave, his duties were completed as best man.
Why cause the bride anguish on her wedding day by showing up uninvited. Don't put your boyfriend in the middle either, just wait at home for your man, or go out with friends and have some fun of your own.
2007-06-02 16:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For your first question, No. If you don't get and invitation and you weren't invited as "guest" you can't go. Find something else to do with some friends that night. Do not make him leave the reception or harrass him with phone calls, etc all night. Even though he is techinally free after the speechs, toasts; he still is an essential part of the wedding. People will want to get pictures of him and since the two of you aren't married; I'm sure his friend will want him present for the garter toss and stuff like that.
Leave him alone for one day. Call him in the morning before he leaves for all the craziness and than later that night once everything is said and done with. If you must talk to him more than that. Ask him to call you when he gets a free moment between the ceremony and reception.
Let him have this one day with his friend. Do not have him leave early. It's extremely rude for the bridal party to leave early. They should be leaving at the same time/or after the bride and groom. They need to be there to the end.
2007-06-02 18:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you were not expressly invited, then DO NOT GO to the wedding OR the reception..... it was very RUDE of the bride not to invite you since you are the girlfriend of the grooms best man, but it's the bride's choice I guess. If she had wanted you there, you would have been sent an invitation.... The bride obviously is a BIATCH, but that doesn't mean YOU get to go to the wedding where you might end up in the middle of a dramatic scene with the bride.. Stay home that day and do something you'd like to do that you CAN'T do when your BF is around... you have to be the grown up here and stay away from the entire DAY.
2007-06-02 17:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Girl, you don't go to a wedding to which you haven't been invited! What are you thinking?
However, if you WERE invited, you just have to wait and be patient because your bf being in the wedding party means he'll be busy all day from the ceremony, then to taking pictures, sitting at the head table at the dinner, then once the dance starts, he's got to stay with the bridal party for a while - then would be a bit free to spend time with you and dance with you. But don't get huffy because he's busy....
2007-06-03 02:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not invited, you will not attend. Period.
It is rude, selfish and childish for you to be upset that he is going to be away from you for one evening to attend his best friend's wedding. You have every other day to spend with him.Let him attend the wedding, stay at the reception the whole time (NOT just until he makes his speech) and take care of his duties as Best Man.
His best friend honored him by asking him to be the Best Man...the person standing right by his side. Don't spoil that. You will create serious feelings of resentment on the part of the bride and groom, and may very well damage the friendship between your BF and his friend.
Stay out of this wedding, and let your boyfriend attend, don't pressure him to leave early just because you can't stand to be without him for 1 day. Get over it.
2007-06-03 01:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you are not invited, you absolutely should not show up at all. The wedding is for the couple, and is their day. If they had wanted you there they would have invited you. Since your boyfriend (note: not husband) is the best man, he can do his duties and politely leave when it is safe to do so, if he so chooses. One night away from him will not kill you. Go out with some of your friends and don't worry about your boyfriend being with his.
2007-06-02 16:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by pj 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
do not go to a wedding that you are not invited to, especially if the bride hates you. it is her day and if she doesn't want you there i'm sure you can survive without your boyfriend for a few hours. how would you feel if someone you hated was at your wedding?
2007-06-02 16:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're asking. You shouldn't feel like you can't go, because you'd be going as your boyfriend's date. However, on the other hand, did you stop to think that you might ruin the bride's wedding if you're there. No offense. What if someone you didn't like ends up going to your wedding? Aren't you just going to be thinking, "Why the hell did they come to my special day." Once again, no offense, but do you really want to ruin someone's wedding just so you can be with your boyfriend, or can you wait and maybe watch a movie by yourself and wait til he gets home? That's my thoughts on the matter. Hope I helped.
2007-06-02 16:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
What kind of a best friend is that?! She wants to seduce your boyfriend and you call her a friend? Wow. I'd say drop both of them from your life. Let them have their nude beach orgies and find decent people to hang out with.
2016-04-01 12:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go,,,,,,,,,it would be rude and very immature to cause strife on the Couples Special Day . Do not try to control the situation . Your boyfriend has every right to enjoy the special honor bestowed upon him . It is just one day in a million,,,,,,,,,,,,,let it be .
2007-06-03 05:40:30 · answer #11 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋