Moving Delima?

Question

my parents just bought a brand new 2 family house and they rented out the first floor to my sister and her family. my parents said my brother(21) and I (19) could move into the second floor
apartment. its a 3 bed room 2 bath, the problem is they said we could only move if we find a roommate. with out a roommate it would be 600 a month each i could afford it i just have to wait for my brother to get a job. my parents wanted this guy from our church to move in with us but my boyfriend is not happy with that at all. how do i convince him that this is not a bad idea and i dont have any feelings for this guy? we wont share a bathroom i will have the master with my own bath. any tips? only serious responses please.

Answer 1

i would do what i have to do to pay rent. if you know in your heart that you do not have feelings for the guy from Church /i would let him move in.explain to your bf that this is the way it has to be for right now but you hope that nothing will change between you two.

Answer 2

I can understand your parents wanting this guy from your church to move in as your roommate. They think since you have a boyfriend, it would be a 'safe' choice and they think they know this guy. They could be very surprised! There could be a romantic attachment growing between you two because you are roommates!
Your boyfriend thinks this too. He could be right!
Right now you can't do anything because your brother doesn't have a job. Could you get another relative, like a cousin, to move in - maybe that would solve the problem with your parents and your boyfriend both.
It's going to be more difficult than the usual roommate situation because you and your brother have to be really responsible about paying bills and not let sibling tensions get in the way. If you were looking for a roommate situation as good as this one, could you find it? You be the judge of how good a deal this is. Maybe it is not - in which case, find a roommate situation elsewhere.

Answer 3

You and your boyfriend really need to talk about this. I know I did something similar in a 4 bedroom apartment. The original plan was to have me and my brother and one other guy from his college football team and a girl they knew share the apartment. 2 guys, 2 girls, I'd share the bedroom closest to the guys' rooms and she'd get the one up front. Her boyfriend had the same problems yours did and it ended up being me with the front room and 3 to 4 football players (depending on if one room was doubling up). It worked out great for me but I always thought her boyfriend sold her short by not "allowing" her to live there.

Answer 4

Tell your parents its not a good idea for a guy from anywhere to share a house with a female and especially not their daugther. Let your boyfriend know you understand and you are trying to find another solution and hope you can. Don't be rude to him, he matters, but the decision will be yours to make. Ask your parents if they can give you a little break until your brother finds a job. Good Luck

Answer 5

If you can afford to pay $600 a month for rent than you can afford to get your own apartment. We pay $600 for a 3 bedroom house with a garage.

Answer 6

Unless he wants to pay the other $600 himself, you need to find a roommate. Explain to him that you need a roommate to be able to live there.

Answer 7

Three way split. A single person moving in with a couple is never a good idea.

Answer 8

put an ad in the paper for a female roommate

Answer 9

rent the other room to your boyfriend ! On the other hand he sounds to controling if he dont trust you dump him because believe me he will start telling you what to wear who to hang out with and so on and you can not change him! goodluck

Answer 10

There's no convincing on that. You're just gonna have to do it and keep on reassuring him all the time. You'll have to go out of your way to keep him secure about it. Good Luck!