coz he also got the truth recently,i so afraid that he will marry the mother for his daughter's sake, i couldn't face it,i told him im gonna stay by his side,but things just happened too sudden,i'm really lost now.
he is the guy i want,and he knew that,but he don't know i am so scare and upset now, he thought i wanna dump him.
2007-06-02 15:58:16 · 11 answers · asked by moonrider 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i not marry any body ok but i take care of my little girl
2007-06-02 17:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If the kid's mother didnt tell him five years ago she didnt want him around.The most probable reason she told him now is that his daughter wanted to meet her daddy.Getting married or staying amrried for the sake of a child is a bad idea.Children are smart and they know when mommy and daddy dont love each other.He can be in her life without marrying his baby's momma.Tell him that you freaked because you thought he would leave you.Let him know that you love him and want to be a part of all of his life.Including his children.
2007-06-02 16:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by john s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The vast majority of marriages done just because of a child end in divorce. He would be foolish to marry this woman just because of the daughter. You need to see what he wants to do and go from there. Just because you love him, doesn't mean he is the right one. This recent development might mean you need to move on.
2007-06-02 16:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that could be some scarry news. thats sad that he's just finding out too. just cause he has one child doesnt mean leave him alone. if he's mature about the situation everything will work out well. this man did not have to mention this fact to you had he not chose to, but he obviously has feelings for you to make you aware of whats going on in his personal life. however you do need to be cautious because you dont know why the mother of his child is just now announcing this to him. think about that too. i really hope the one child is all he really has. you could end up in my position..............finding out he has two children already 2 months after he knocks you up, only to find out that another female is 6 months pregnant by him also. then you leave him. he then moves on to another female and knocks her up too!
2007-06-02 16:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is the same guy I'm talking to as well, trust me when I say I know him well enough to know he won't rush into a marriage, but he will take responsibility for his daughter. but in general, just be honest with him about how feel about it... I'm sure it's quite a shock to him too and he is going to have to adjust. email me if you need to talk, I'm good at listening and I'll help if I can :)
2007-06-02 16:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really gotta ask yourself if this is ok with you. If it's what you want, then it's fine. One thing that worries me is the little girl getting attached to you then you and him breaking up. Give it lots of time and see what happens. Good luck!
2007-06-02 16:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just found out. give it a week or two. He needs time to figure things out, too. You all need to explore your feelings about this, separately and together.
2007-06-02 16:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go unless you are ready to tackle the responsibility of being a step-mom. Not to mention taking a "back seat" when she is around.
It's hard for anyone...
2007-06-02 16:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by khanoldfriend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget about men and concentrate on your education. You are a hardworking concerned person, but you need to grow. No men, education. You can do it!!
2007-06-02 16:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Saladmaster22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should dump him if u JUST "found out" he has a daughter....why didn't he tell u from jump?
he's dishonest and deceitful. withholding something this significant (a daughter)!! is unforgivable ...ok well unacceptable at best!
2007-06-02 16:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by lanna 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋