He won't leave the hospital because of his girlfriend jamie is in the hospital. She was in a terrible car accident and she is in a coma but she been showing signs of improvement. Her doctor says if she keeps this up, she will be wide and awake alot sooner. I am worried about my son, he won't leave the hospital, he won't eat or drink. Well he been drinking water alittle, he won't leave her room. He been by her side ever since he got there. She only been in a coma for 6 days and showing improvement already. When i went to check on her, he had her arms around her talking to her. She did move her hand and thats good. Her parents didn't leave ether but they are glad that Jamie has a caring boyfriend in my son, so am i. When her mom called my son's cell, he rushed from work, he wanted to be with her when he arrived, but we had to stop him, he started crying and ran off to a section of hospital, my daughter, his older sister by 3 years conforted him because she can get to him, they r close.
2007-06-02 15:01:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He really loves his g/f jamie, they are in high school, they are juniors but he is in love with her dearly and she loves him. She is approving, what should i do because he won't eat and i am worred. Jamie is beautiful, she is nice and caring and my son would protect her with his life is something happen but the car accident he couldnt do nothin about it. Jamie will pull through because she has my son and theie love will pull her out. She been showing lots of improvement in coming out.
2007-06-02 15:01:18 · update #1
Perhaps you could have the doctor talk to him. You could have him say, "you know, when Jamie wakes up, she's going to need you to be strong for her. I don't think she would not want you to stop eating and get sick when she is better." Something like that. Sometimes, listening to a person who is not your parent, is taken in. Good luck and I hope everything gets better!
2007-06-02 15:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by beb 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain to him that if his health suffers from not taking care of himself, he won't be any good for her when she comes out of the coma. Also, try to explain Jamie would NOT want him to ruin his health over this & at least go home, eat, & get some decent rest IN HIS own bed! I'm sure this is a trauma to him, obviously, but he HAS to take care of himself too. She definately would NOT want him to do this the way he's doing it. He can just tell her he's going home to eat & get some sleep & w/be back as soon as he's done this. Tell him to get a picture of himself & put it right beside her w/a note that he's there for her, just had to go home & take care of his HEALTH so he can be stronger for her. He could leave an article of his clothing beside her also. Maybe put a shirt on a chair for her to know he'll be back. Just something so she can "feel" him there w/her. Thank God she lived, I just lost a 14 yr. old granddaughter in a car accident. She never made it thru surgery. He can thank God he still has her, but he HAS to take care of himself. Maybe let him make a tape & ask a nurse to play it for him while he's not there from time to time. Nurses are caring people, my daughter is an RN, I know she would do this for a patient to help them. I'm sure if the parents are there, they w/also do this for both he & their daughter. At least she w/hear his voice from time to time while he's away. I wish you all the best & like I said, just thank God she lived thru it.
2007-06-02 15:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's intense for a kid so young. Does he feel guilty? Bring him food and drink and let him stay. Bring easy stuff... little nutrious snacks.. Eventually some thing will perk him up and he'll eat. What are his favourites? Keep it light.
I would suggest counselling for him too... perhaps there is someone in the hospital he can talk to?
This kind of intensity is too hard on a kid so young... he needs to talk to someone.
Hope all turns out well.
God Bless.
2007-06-02 15:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your question is extreme i'm sorry yet you're being ridiculous. you pick him to check? Yeah specific, it relatively is regular. yet what he does for the period of his loose time is as much as him isn't it? some young ones are into soccer, some are into LARPing, some are into enjoying the guitar... only permit him %. his very own pastime. he's not starting to be a freak via the way. He could be a "nerd" yet certainly, what on the earth is incorrect with that? Why do you pick him to be a sporty youngster if he's not? Love your infants the way they're, no longer the way you imagined they could be like.
2016-11-25 02:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by pero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to the girl's parent's. your son sounds like a wonderful,caring young man but he's young. maybe if you tell them how worried you are about him they'll understand where you're coming from. if anyone knows worry, it's them. maybe you could work something out with them that he can only come a certain amount of days a week, tell him a little white lie and say it's dr.'s orders.if he wants to be there for her when she comes out of this, he'll need some strength and sitting there isn't going to help him get it. best of luck. i hope his girl pulls through alright.
2007-06-02 15:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack him a lunch sack of some of his favorite things. Tell him that he needs to keep his strength up for Jamie, because when she wakes up she will need a lot of help, and it won't do any good to have him half-sick. Also reassure him that she is going to be okay. Good luck.
2007-06-02 15:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your son's a great guy. just remind him that when jamie comes out of the coma it won't be fun for her to have her boyfriend ill because he hasn't been eating. i hope everything works out!
2007-06-02 15:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by hi everyone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nice story, in a very sad way. Give my best to both. Since she is in the hospital maybe you can talk to some doctors/nurses/counselors ect. to try and get him to look after himself a bit more right now.
If he wants to be there all the time that is sweet and very nice but ask him, "Would your GF want you to get sick because of her?"
2007-06-02 15:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by Fat Boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be proud of your son that he shows he loves his girlfriend like this, and be happy that hes found someone he loves. mention to him on a daily basis that you are a little worried about him eating and drinking...tell him that if he lets his health get bad hes not going to be any good for the girlfriend...that might get through to him
2007-06-02 15:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has Jesus he will be fine.Jesus always makes everything work out for our good,that's what the bible says and that's what I know.No matter how bad it seems at the time.Besides if he passes out from not eating,the doctors around there will give him an I.V.he'll be O.K.
2007-06-02 15:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kay H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋