to do to get through it? (Other than get counseling and stay in the marriage).
2007-06-02 14:34:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Environment ➔ Other - Environment
Be very cautious about your spouse's financial situation. I had to climb out of almost $400,000.00 debt and, honestly, would not wish it even to my enemy.
2007-06-02 15:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking of a divorce and counseling won't work, move out and get your own place for a while and see what happens. If I would have done that there is a good chance we would have gotten back together and not have gotten divorced. If not then try to remain friends. My husband was severely angry at me for a long time and I can understand why but he didn't want to go to counseling. Especially if there are kids involved. We talk to each other about once or twice a week now and are very friendly. We participate in our childrens activites together, go to banquets together for our kids, and even went together to unfortunately put our dog to sleep last week. It was a hard time for both of us but we were there for eachother. Try to be fair when splitting up assets. We sold our house and split the profit 50/50. He took the bedroom suite, I got the dining room suite. He kept the snowmobile, I got the motorcycle etc etc. He occasionally gets angry with me but he has never accepted the fact that marriage is a two way street and he was going the wrong way. It will always be my fault because I left even though he would not go to counseling. There will always be some hard feelings but try to make the best of a bad situation.
2007-06-06 08:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 82 years old and married my fifth wife, two years ago. So, I speak with a little bit of experience.
1. And this is FIRST priority. Try to part as friends. If there are children, this is SO IMPORTANT it needs to be shouted over and over.
NEXT, Think about it. You are probably both disapointed.
Maybe (likely) you are MAD.
But, THAT DON'T HELP ANYTHING !!!!!!
When a crises comes, it is time to just T H I N K. If you just think about it you will come to know that "a good divorce is better than a bad marriage."
In todays world, people may be subject to things that make them grow APART, rather than closer.
TIME, changes everyting. Try to visualize what the world will be like in 20 years, then five years and then ONE YEAR, your will see a difference in how you feel.
Lastly that other person isn't the ONLY CATFISH IN THE SEA.
And a little ADULT quote, "the quickest way to got over one,
is to get under one."
BUT BE SELECTIVE!!!!!
2007-06-02 15:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lester S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think you can be friends in the end. I was way too nice and i got taken advantage of. Now that he has everything he is very unkind to me. This is the same advice my Friends gave me and I didn't listen, I thought my divorce would be different. Next be prepared to go Thur alto of different emotions even if it is you that wants the divorce. Once you make your decision to get a divorce keep telling yourself that you are doing the right thing. If children are involved no matter how ugly your spouse can get don't ever say something bad about him in front of the children. Good Luck it is hard
2007-06-02 15:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by jumpinjill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful who you marry!!! The best time to avoid mistakes is at the beginning. If you have children you cannot completely get that person out of your life. My first husband finally died, but the results of what he did to the children lives on.
2007-06-04 06:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce.
It's sooooo worth it.
And I don't mean that personally. My ex wife is not a bad person - well, she doesn't mean to be.
We're just different.
If you have kids it's tough at first but it can be worked out.
2007-06-02 15:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mess with the women's environment they are less forgiving then mother nature. Kidding aside, don't get into any relationships till at least tree years pass, get it tree years, sorry couldn't help that.
2007-06-02 14:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Document all correspondce..phone calls everything..reciepts..keep a working journal by you at all times..
2007-06-02 15:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the greatest glory is in not never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
never stop being kind and helpful to anyone, even to your ex.just have limits
2007-06-03 03:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does that have to do with environment?
2007-06-02 14:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Maus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋