my fiance and I are getting married soon but I am not sure if we are ready... financially that is. I want to postpone for a few months so that we could have a really specatular wedding but my fiance doesn't want to. What to do?
2007-06-02 14:31:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Elope!
2007-06-02 14:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't elope. If you wanted a big wedding you may regret it for the rest of your life. Instead just tone down the wedding a bit. Cut out what is not necessary. Uninvite some of the guests (that one sucks but it's the best way to save money). If people get upset for being uninvited tell them that you will be holding a larger shindig on your 5 year anniversary.
If your really that hard up for money I wouldn't postpone because is this problem really going to be fixed in a few months?
2007-06-02 22:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you think you are being a little too materialistic?
What, exactly, is MORE spectacular than the fact alone that you are marrying the man you love.
It shouldn't matter if it is in the backyard with beer and potato chips or a grand hotel...
use the extra money you are talking about to a better use, a savings account, a house, etc....not just on something that is gone in a day...
don't postpone the rest of your life to have one more tier on a wedding cake or a few more flowers...
2007-06-02 21:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Elope! A marriage is not about "the show", it's about the committment you and your fiance have made to one another. If you choose not to elope, then a small ceremony with family and close friends. Afterall, this is about the two of you....does you fiance not want the pomp and circumstance of a big wedding because he doesn't want to be the center of attention, because he's a shy guy...or is he frugal and can't bear the thought of spending that much money.....
A wedding...is honestly, about the relationship between you and your loved one. My husband and I eloped almost 18 years ago. Our ceremony in the JP's office was all about us. No family, some hurt feelings...but NO one was invited! It was all about US. That's what worked for us.
You have a choice to make. Is it about "the show", or....after talking to your fiance....is it about what is right for both of you?
2007-06-04 23:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your wedding. hopefully this one will last forever but that means you will only have this day once. if you want a big wedding and you have to save money, then postpone. dont let your fiance rush you into getting married if you want to take the time to do it right.
2007-06-02 21:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a very small family only ceremony, then save up for a big one later. If you don't want to do that, then just have a simple ceremony. My fiance and I have planned out our whole wedding for less than $4,000, and that's including everything from cake to rings to venue. Good luck!
2007-06-02 21:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go get married in a simple service, either civil or in a church. Elope if you like. Save up for the big show and do it again. You won't need a license for the second ceremony..
2007-06-02 21:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford it you'll have to cut back on some things or extend the wedding date.
If you extend, you could set aside money each paycheck towards the wedding and use your income tax refund towards the wedding as well.
2007-06-03 09:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a simple and intimate wedding without having to spend a lot. It will still me memorable and romantic. It can still be spectacular.
2007-06-02 21:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what u can do becasue at the end of the day all that matters is that you guys are married!
2007-06-02 21:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋