In February, this guy at work started emailing me and texting me all the time, initially I wasn’t interested b/c I had just gotten out of a relationship (plus he never directly asked me out…he more or less hinted that he wanted to go out). In March, we finally went out. We went out 5 times during March/April and he never made ANY attempts to kiss me or put any moves on me (and I even went to his house to watch movies).
I pulled away b/c it was too confusing (I wasn’t mean, I just didn’t pay him much attention) but then decided to go back to my usual friendly self. Since then he hasn’t emailed/text me which he use to do everyday/all the time! I emailed him to ask why he was being so quiet and he said things were really hectic at work (which is bullsh*t). So I figured he just lost interest. Then this past week a group of us went out for drinks and he brought up in front of a couple of our co-workers (who didn’t even know we went out) that I had “jumped out if his car before it
2007-06-02 13:55:00 · 6 answers · asked by Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
had even stopped” (basically implying that I couldn’t wait to get out of his car…remember, on one occasion, I went to his house, so he had plenty of opportunity to try something) and made a few other comments about things I had done. So now I am confused because you don’t say things like that if you don’t care. Plus, there is no denying that there is chemistry b/w us but he still won’t do anything or even talk to me about it (considering he was the one who pursued me). WHAT IS GOING ON?????
2007-06-02 13:55:52 · update #1
Should I say something? And what?
2007-06-02 14:12:40 · update #2
It honestly never occured to me that he might just be too shy to say something because we get along so well and he is older and more experienced than me...and didn't realize that I may have confused him (pulling away then going back to normal)....somtimes it's harder to see the situation clearly when you (and your feelings) are involved.
2007-06-06 09:45:57 · update #3
Why don't you ask him what is going on between the two of you. He may just be shy, or even confused about the whole thing himself... you did pull away then changed your mind and decided to like him again. He probably told your co-workers those things because he wanted to get a reaction from you.
Listen, if your sure you like him then the two of you need to talk, and tell him whats on your mind... no more head games!! If you don't think he's the type of guy you want to date then be honest about it and let him know you just want to be friends... at least you'll both know where the other stands, Good Luck!!
2007-06-02 14:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a guy, i was in the same situation, i did kinda what he did. i tried to get close to a girl, such as going out with her and stuff. idk ur whole situation but i didn't get the hint that she liked me like that. and i thought that she just wanted to be friend. i did the same thing, go to the drive ins, bowling, watch a movie at my house, etc. so i just thought that y should i keep going if nothing will happen. he didn'twant to kiss u b/c he didn't know (i guess) that u like him like that and didn't want to be disrespectful. because u puled away, he knew the u didn't like him like that, he also pulled back b/c he want to go out with u but wasn't sure if u wanted that. this guy sounds very respectful so just tell him if he was to go out with u, he has a chance and invite him to ur house to show that, watch a movie with him. just take the first step and show him that u have an interest to. only if u do, and u go for the kiss, just once tho. long story short, show him that he has a chance and u have an interest in him
2007-06-02 21:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by coolbowens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't ready to make a move yet, and as far as making
comments at work, he shouldn't be saying anything, so be glad it didn't work out because you now know it would get all over work and you don't want to date someone at work for
those reasons.
2007-06-02 21:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he does like you but maybe he just isnt the type of guy to make the first move... maybe you should try asking him out or try making the frist move so that he knows that you are into him...
2007-06-02 21:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by tink_parrish103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just sick of trying to get your attention. How about you try and surprise HIM with something. There is no doubt he likes you!
2007-06-02 21:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not interested, funny how when he was, you weren't , now that you are, he isn't.
2007-06-10 06:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋