My husband has been addicted to vicodin from a back injury which is long gone by now. He has now moved on to oxycontin and I've recently found out that he's injecting it. He has deleted all of our funds, we are financially ruined because of this. I have tried to get him into rehab but he loves doing the drugs and has no intention on stopping. He also is driving without a drivers license, has a warrant out for unpaid court ordered child support and drives under the influence, obviously. I want to leave him but he always takes the vehicle and leaves me alone and I have no family here to help me. I want to get away but he'll never let me leave. If he were making a drug deal and I tipped off an officer where he was while buying drugs to arrest him I could have a chance to leave with him in jail. How long would he be in custody if nobody had the funds to bail him out? Is this wrong of me? I think it might be the only way to save his live..and maybe mine. I'm scared and need help.
2007-06-02 13:44:10 · 11 answers · asked by Fed Up 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
All of the drugs he buys are illegally bought. He has no prescriptions, his doctor had released him because of his addiction. He is bipolar and is becoming borderline violent, very verbally abusive. I see no hope and do not want to go to some shelter. I can get out on my own with the help of my family but I need him gone. I'm trying to figure out a way to help me and to help him. Maybe an arrest would scare him into sobriety, regardless, our marriage is over. Thank you for all responses.
2007-06-02 13:46:50 · update #1
I'm sorry you are in this situation. You definitely need to get out. Can someone from your family pick you up when he's not home. You need to have a plan - you can't just try to wing it. . Noone should have to live in fear - you deserve a better life. Start making a plan NOW, not later.
I'm serious when I say this - if you live in S. Florida - please let me know and I will definitely help you - I will come and pick you up and do whatever I can to help you
2007-06-02 13:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You actually have a few options, none of them will be easy but I'm sure you are at the point where you need to act. If you were to tip the police about his activities or when he has the illegal substances with him, he should go straight to jail. You should coordinate this with your local law enforcement agency (Narcotics Agent) They'll jump on that in a minute. Or they should... Now if he isn't a career criminal then more than likely he won't spend a lot of time at the detention center (jail) depending on the system you have in your area, he could even get out that same day and you wouldn't have enough time to really do what you need to get away. The option I would recommend is looking up a program called "sister care" in your area. This program will help you get your stuff in order and get you going to where you need to be (away from him) Everything they do is secret and they specialize in this type of situation. You have to remember that your Husband is not who he use to be and there isn't much chance at all that he is going to change unless you make changes for yourself. I wish you the best of luck and please stay strong in your decisions.
2007-06-02 14:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by rsantiago800 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i also take vicodin 10 for back injuries. i am a retired deputy sheriff.you have to ask yourself a few questions. do you love him?do you want him to stay alive?do you want him in prison?i know the answer to the first 2 are yes.the third question is one you will face if he is caught and goes to prison.we have had a few officers go thru the same thing and it is a no win situation on both sides.i can offer a few suggestions but the ultimate is up to you.do you and him have a very close mutual friend?if so try to get them involved.if this does not work then your answer is simple. he saounds as if he is to some extent becoming dangerous to himself as well as others.he may take the car but you still have access to a phone.people strung out on prescription drugs are very very dangerous to all a round him. they can not and will not make good conscious decisions the drugs will impair their thoughts.there will probably nothing hestop him.almost all departments have a programs for officers like this. you need to call the dept and tell them what is going on,. you will save his live and probably others.if i can be of help just email me. good luck
2007-06-02 15:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by charlsyeh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a warrant out for him it should be easy to just turn him in to the local PD. Give them a call when he's out driving around and give them the license plate number of the vehicle he's driving. The best thing to do though is call the local family abuse or women's help line, The local PD should have it or you can call the national womens safeline at 1-800-799-SAFE or 314-531-2003 They can set you up with a place to stay and a lawyer to file for a divorce if needed. Good Luck!!
2007-06-02 14:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by SGT. D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there is a warrant out for his arrest then why don't you just turn him in? That would do to get him locked up so you could get away.
Contact your family and have a plan in place to get away from him. You can probably also find resources in the yellow pages or through the Dept. of Human Services in your area to help you.
2007-06-02 13:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by El Scott 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first let me say no matter what you do you cant make him stop and he wont until he is faced with total rock bottom meaning he has nothing left and no one to help him clean up his mess. if he is violent like you say then you need to leave him now. take only what you have to have and get the heck out of there while he is on a drug run or passed out... dont wait til its to late. and i would advise you not to turn him in he wil know its you then who knows what. he will get caught if he doesnt stop soon . if not he will continue to kill his stupid self and that is HIS PROBLEM NOT YOURS you cant fix him and you cant cure him God knows we have all tried that. if it were that easy drunks and druggies wouldnt loose everything. all you need to do is focus on YOU and what is best for you and dont worrie about him anymore... get yourself to an alanon meeting also you will learn alot and help to heal the damage he has done to you.
2007-06-02 14:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just turn him in for possession and they will come pick him up. Call the police and tell them that you are afraid and tell them where he keeps his drugs. That will give you time to get in your car and drive off. (He will probably held for a day).
2007-06-02 13:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be hard, but if he's addicted to Oxycontin, he should get help, possibly through rehab or something like that. Also, it may be hard, but turning him in for possession might help to get him off his addiction.
I'm sorry to hear this and wish you and your husband well.
2007-06-02 14:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just wait til he's out passed out take the car, pack your stuff and go to your family, snitching him out how's that help you get away? he needs professional help not legal problems.
2007-06-02 15:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by beachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow and i though i had it bad, i feel for you stay strong , get the car when he is out cold, oh get some money for gas first
2007-06-02 13:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by smoothopr_2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋