I know the traditional wedding for the first time, but not if 1 has been married before and the other hasn't. I am more concerned with what the grooms family pays for.
2007-06-02 13:43:21 · 13 answers · asked by Neese 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If the Groom's family would like to help pay for some of the reception costs or the "bar bill" they are welcome to do so. If the Groom's family would like to help pay for "some of the flowers" they are welcome to do so. If the Groom's family would like to "host" the Rehearsal Dinner or Party (which is traditionally done by the Groom's family) they are welcome to do so.
The easiest thing to do is "find out what each set of parents is willing to do and what costs they would like to assume" before you start making "serious and costly" plans.
You cannot assume anything under these circumstances (a previous marriage). You need a "clear cut understanding" of who is willing to do what and when because each scenario is different.
The Groom's parents are responsible for their own wedding attire, their travel expenses and hotel fees plus a wedding gift for the Bride and Groom.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-03 00:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is assumed the bride's parents paid for the first wedding, it is now up to the bride to pay for her second wedding. The groom's family may wish to make a gift toward the wedding, but certainly is under no obligation to do so. The groom is responsible for his tuxedo (but usually gets it free with some paying groomsmen) and the rehearsal dinner. I would suggest a small, simple wedding for the bride; however, if the groom wants a large first wedding, he should be expected to pay the difference. Best advice: Save your money, keep it simple, and have a buffet.
2007-06-02 15:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case it is expected that the couple pay for the wedding themselves, the grooms family is expected to pay for anything. Although they may decide to contribute in some way but it's voluntary and not obligatory. But when either of the parties have been married before it is then customary for the bride and groom to take care of all the financial responsibilities. Either way these days most couples are paying for their weddings on their own period regardless of tradition.
2007-06-02 13:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More and more nowadays, couples are paying for their own weddings. Even if a bride has been married before, I've never heard that the groom's family's responsibility changes.
2007-06-02 13:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your options are either that you two pay for it yourselves, or you act like a first marriage in which the brides family pays for the wedding and the grooms family pays for the rehearsal and booze.
2007-06-02 13:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, people only marry one person, and remain widow(er)s if the spouse dies. So, you don't have tradition to dictate you. Screw tradition and decide, as a couple, what who will pay for - you guys will be paying together for a long time (hopefully - the bride isn't Britney Spears, is she?).
2007-06-02 13:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Wings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on which one of you was married before,
If you already walked down the aisle in a white dress then
discuss with him if that is what he wants to do.. Some guys
do it just because it is tradition but they could care less.
If the man was married before, you tell him you want the
white dress and traditions (unless you don't) as far as who
pays for what. Your parents and his parents can hash
out the details. If one of you is missing a set a parents
then you both sit down and discuss it with your-in-laws
2007-06-02 13:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually second weddings(for either) are paid for by bride and groom equally, together.
2007-06-02 13:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by emrobs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you are mature adults, and you should be paying for your OWN wedding! You shouldn't be needing or requesting family help at all! Plan the type of wedding you want on what the two of you can afford.
2007-06-03 02:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think it changes if you are married once twice i still think that the brides family should pay their half and the grooms family their half.
2007-06-02 14:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Robin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋