my cousin killed herself last year. of course im not over it and never will be. sometimes i wanna cry but i dont. i dont like to cry cause my nose gets all stuffy plus my mom makes a big deal about it. if im gonna cry i dont want people to feel bad for me. it doesnt bother me when some people ask but when my friends and family make a big deal over me crying i hate it. how do i deal with it? should i let myself cry even if i dont want to?
2007-06-02 12:57:38 · 11 answers · asked by ~redneck~sweetheart~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
at first i was mad at her. her bf at the time told her he was going to get back with his ex wife. he told her he would help her get on her feet and everything. i blamed him for awhile too. she had severe panic attacks and stuff. one of my aunts (my cousins mom) friends has panic attacks ike my cousin did and she said something about shes had trouble too. she says her husband think its all in her head. my aunts friend said if u dont have it u dont understand it. she told my aunt not to be mad at her and to realize
that she was sick and that she couldnt help it. my cousin made a video before she did it for her parents saying she was sorry and that she felt like it was her only way out. im not mad at her im just upset with wat she did. is that wrong? i miss her sooooooo much.
2007-06-02 13:31:54 · update #1
thnx for everyones sympathy and god bless all of you!
2007-06-02 13:35:01 · update #2
Yes, you should cry, grieve like you need to. Your family loves you and they are trying to help you in the only way they know how. Tell them to just hold you and let you cry. It is ok to cry. It is healthy to cry.
Hugs to you. . . I would let you cry on my shoulder and I would probably cry with you.
God bless you.
2007-06-02 13:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural to cry, even if you don't want to. It'sbetter to cry about it than it is not to cry. Forget about how people will feel if you cry. I've never experienced this is my life, but I do know that no matter what, if you get emotional about something then you have to cry about it. Crying is healthier that not. I am a very emotional person. My sister and dad got into a fight the other day, and I wasn't even involved in it, but I jsut started crying. It felt good to get it out of my system. If you have to write or type about how you are feeling. Just start with a blackpiece of paper, or black document and just write about how you feel. You don't have to do anything with it, but it will feel much better getting how you feel off your chest. I hope that you do okay, and I'm really, deeply sorry for your loss. Take Care!
2007-06-02 13:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to cry, go up to your room at night and cry. You will feel much better the next morning. You will still be very sad, because if my cousin killed herself, I would be devastated, and I know you are too. Anyway I am so sorry that happened to you and I hope you feel better.
2007-06-02 13:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by tropicalsarah10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crying will take a big weight of your heart. We all need to cry when someone dies. It's part of grieving, a natural process to cope. Something is wrong with your mother that pretends to keep you from having normal emotional feelings.
If your nose gets stuffy, just wipe it off when get what's in your heart. Then is time to move on.
2007-06-02 13:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss. Crying is a normal part of the grieving process. You will only be able to accept what happened if you mourn properly so cry all you want. And don't feel embarrassed about crying in front of others; they are trying to help you so let them.
2007-06-02 13:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friends sister was found dead at her comp in Dec last year. The friends daughter has had a diffcult time dealing with it cause her parent won't let her talk to them about it.
I got involved and started talking to the daughter. I got the daughter to write a letter to her aunt, writing down all her feelings and such. Afterwards we burned the letter. We did this everyday and slowly the hurt lessened. She still cries from time to time, which of course is okay and whenever the hurt becomes unbearble, the daughter calls me and we 'send' another letter to her aunt.
2007-06-02 17:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by maggie_englehart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YESits okay to cry .Its a natural part of the grieving process.Grief counselling might help you to overcome some of the feelings that you have and a counsellor can help you find strategies to help you deal with people and their sympathy.
2007-06-02 13:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you've got a good reason to cry, cry. you feel much better afterwards and just lock yourself up in your room an before you leave, be sure yu're done crying, cause one mention of it can just bring the tears out again. blow your nose and wash your face until your eyes don't look red anymore and until you can breathe through your nose again.
2007-06-02 13:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by A.J. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cry everyday its healthy to cry i s better for you too! It is so much better if you let things out!
2007-06-02 13:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Geena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by dealing with it one day at a time
2007-06-02 13:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋