see my parents have this "Thing" about me dating black people. I wouldnt exactly say they are racist but.. There gonna find out soon or later. I just dont know what to tell em.
I mean i go to almost a all black school so.. I am just scared they will throw me out of the house or something?
help?
2007-06-02 12:43:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if they get mad or somethin its commin that parents get mad of they childs dating ppl of other race but they cant tell u who to love so there u go if they get mad u cant unlove ur man
2007-06-02 12:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by El Rey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask them if they're open minded about different races or do they have prejudices. Are they able to see past a persons skin colour to value the person as an individual.
Like all parents they'll like to think that they have an open mind. As soon as they say they are open minded congratulate them because you new boyfriend is a black guy, and that you were a little worried they might not have given him a fair chance, but now you feel reassured.
It's called a sh!t sandwich, deliver a nice compliment to start, give them the savoury news and then finish on a compliment.
2007-06-02 12:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Vogon Poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, you are in middle school. your parents will not throw you out because you definetly have no where to go. they'll get over it sooner or later and if he is a considerate, well meaning person than race has nothing to do with it and they will accept him.
you will date many more people before you find someone perfect for you. if they have a problem with you dating this person then tell them you are just testing out the waters.
invite him over for dinner or something so your folks can see past his skin color. i'm pretty sure your parents have a stereotype in mind so let this boyfriend of yours break this stereotype.
2007-06-05 09:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by [Maria] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that this guy you seeing is a semi-serious relationship because there's no point in mentioning it to your parents if he's only gunna be in your life for a couple of months. It's got to be worth the agro.
You should just carry on dating him (even if it's months or years), your parents should click on that you are seeing someone. When they see that you are happy then everything else will seem insignificant.
If you don't make an issue of it, it won't prevail as an issue. Just go with the flow. If your parents ask you about your partner tell them, if they don't then just carry on as you are.
2007-06-02 13:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by HunnyBunny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's like this, you're just dating him, right? You don't know if it's going to be a 'forever' thing.
Are they rascist or are they not? If you're so scared of being made homeless because you tell them you're seeing a black guy, how do they seem to you? Really?
To be honest, it really shouldn't matter what colour the lad is, as long as he's nice to you, makes sure you get home safe, looks after you when you're out, etc. I would stress how nice, smart, funny, interesting, etc. he is, then mention he's black - after all, it really only is a colour, right?
2007-06-02 13:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have self belief it or no longer, mothers and fathers exceedingly much continually recognize greater approximately issues than their infants.. you will no longer comprehend that until you're a verify. that's totally conceivable that there is greater desirable than one reason your mom isn't all that prepared with reference to the boy boyfriend. How previous is he? How previous are you? Is he's college? working? i will inform you this from journey in my kinfolk: a youthful white couple, no longer able to have infants, accompanied 2 bi-racial babies interior of a pair years. All replaced into large for quite a few years. The problems began whilst the infants began preschool and faculty. the different scholars asked uncomfortable questions and made unsightly feedback. by way of the years that escalated into call calling and actual assaults. i recognize that neither you nor the boyfriend decide directly to journey anthing like that nor could you opt to have infants who journey those issues. you're mendacity to your self in case you think it won't take place to you. i've got self belief your mom needs the appropriate existence conceivable for you. She does have the perfect to set the regulations. i beg you to persist with them for many motives. you notice, a sort of days you will need her to have faith you approximately something. How can she in case you have been under truthful together with her for the final 3 years?
2016-10-09 08:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents seem to have old fashioned values. its not totally odd, my dad is the same, he is a firm believer in same race relationships.
I think you should sit your parents down and talk to them about it, just be honest with them. you say your still in school which means you are still young.fair enough you have a black boyfriend now (this may sound harsh) but who's to say you guys will still be together in 10 years?
Maybe you could make this point to them, you are young, you like this lad, and you would appreciate their approval or at least their acceptance. you sound like a sensible girl so just be brave and talk to them confidently!
Im sure your parents just want the best for you hun, we never see it that way when we are young but as you get older you realise it and you thank them!
2007-06-02 14:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by MissyKGodsAngel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi
there is always light at the end of the tunnel..so go for it and tell them..they have a right to know but also tell them how you feel about this person before you introduce him..tell them you love him and how he makes you feel tell them all his good points...say to them things could be bad if you had fall-in in love with an addict or abuser..but you have found someone who loves you and wants to take care of you Good luck x.
2007-06-02 13:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by lorrie1120000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be open and honest that way they will respect you for telling the truth rather than finding out through some other way..
just find a quite moment,
sit them down and explain..
too be honest you shouldn't need to explain to your parents that your boyfriend is black..at end f day he is human just like everyone else..
also they just gona have to accept it..
imagine your parents go to grocery store and the guy who serves them is black guy,your parents aren't exactly gona say'oo no i dnt want to be served by this guy cus he's black'
because they know they need groceries jsut like every other human.
2007-06-02 14:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Bwabyboi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is Indian, my family weren't exactly impressed.. but they have to face facts.. i like him.. and it doesn't really matter what they think.. they're not the one going out with him! If your parents are that careless with their love that they would throw you out for liking someone.. thats a little bit sad. If you dont make it into a big deal then after a while they will come round to realising that they're being pathetic.... If you really like him.. stick to your guns and don't give in. Do his family have a problem with him dating a white girl?!
2007-06-02 20:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you and how long have you been together.. if your really young and you have not been together to long i would simply not say anything to them for a while..if you have been together for a yr or so and your like 16 or 17 then i would ask them how they feel about it.. your going to a almost all black school .. it is bound to happen .. hell what did they think
2007-06-02 13:14:49 · answer #11 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋