I love him to death. He's all i ever think about, 24/7. Every love song i hear makes me think of him. I'm so afraid to loose him. What do i do if he walks away and it ends? I dont think i could do it because hes the first guy who has treated me right since i was sexually abused. I'm afraid about something that i hope wont happen, but what if it does? I just cant stop worrying about that. He means so much to me.
2007-06-02 11:55:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Megan I'm sry but u don't need to tell everyone the u were sexually abused. and honey who are u talking about if ur talking about ben u know he loves u and I know u love him, don't get ur self all stirred up over thoughts and bad memories!! i <3 u megan don't make bad judgments honey!!
2007-06-02 12:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by K8e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do this with my boyfriend,but it's not healthy...for you or for him. Remember that he may have helped shape who you are and added a lot to your life, but you ARE your own human. You do not need to him to breathe & keep your heart beating. He might complement your life and add something that no one else might....still...you need to live your life like it's YOU who owns it. Not him. You give him that sort of power, he will hurt you no matter if he means it or not.
Remind yourself that you are an amazing person with or without someone. I'm sorry that you have been hurt so badly in your past....it sucks that anyone has to go through that. You have a harder time than most--but, it can be done.
Good luck!
2007-06-02 12:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are you! He might make you a better person but you have had that power all along. If he walks away it is HIS loss. You will find someone else. You just have to believe in yourself!
2007-06-02 12:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by luckyman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is called codepency babe!!!! melody beady wrote a book i think you might want to pick up....its called codependent no more....You are letting your self worth be defined by a man????? who cares if he leaves you??? will you die? no!!!!! and stressing about it doesnt help. if he knows this trust me he doesnt respect you waht so ever. also if he treats you good and you are happy and he is happy jsut go with it and if it works it works, if it ends then it wasnt the right one for you to begin with
2007-06-02 12:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by IM ALLERGIC TO LIARS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are becoming to dependent upon him. Get some confidence in yourself.
2007-06-02 12:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋