I asked a question and some people wonder why i stayed so long with a nut case..because he is a nutcase!! People who aren't around a real nut case can never understand. If i had left with the kids he would have caused such trouble you wouldn't want to know...and if i would have left without the kids he would have made trouble in any way he could and get them against me as you can imagine..i stayed because that was the least troublesome way for the kids. Trouble all the same but the least. I was 19 when i met him and i was a naive and stupid girl. I am not now. I didn't leave for a long time after the kids grew up because of the ''trap'' i had been put in but now i am more confident and feel strong and for some reason able..It is like a miracle. I can't explain. There is no stopping me. I did turn 50 and am attractive and confident and figured i better not waste any more time..do you think that did it..my birthday?
2007-06-02 11:50:43 · 8 answers · asked by vilot2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i did'nt even read tha whole this but if he is a nut case i juss have one thing to say....tha sex must be amazing cause there no way in hell someone would stay with a crazi person for 20 years
2007-06-02 11:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Class of 2010 BITCHES! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Congratulations,,,,,,,,,,,I admire your strength and confidence. I wish you well and hope that you can avoid falling back in the trap. Promises are nothing more than Sugar Coated Maybes. I often told my Mom that I wished I had a crystal ball to know exactly what to do when. Now that I am 50, it is still hard to get the mindset of being my own person. I know she is in me waiting to be reborn again and she has come close many times. 50 for me,,,,,5 for my grandson,,,,,25 for my daughter. Now that's some numbers for ya. LOL ,,,,,,,,, 50 is the new 20 !!! You go Girl !!!
2007-06-02 19:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I understand perfectly as the nut case I first married nearly succeeded in taking me out so to speak. Maybe at 50 you came to the realization that you could actually make the next 30 years better than the last 30 years. Focus forward and enjoy the years ahead of you!!
2007-06-02 18:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by scorp5543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. That is an awesome story. You are to be commended. Good for you--walk out and do not look back. Enjoy what is left of your life.
Your birthday. Yep. The straw that broke the camel's back. I have found with age--not sure how to word it to convey my meaning--but decisions are a little easier--in some cases. You reach a right time and right place--at 50.
Good luck to you and don't let the "ex" cause you problems or grief.
2007-06-02 19:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Milestone birthdays can change your life. Maybe you subconsciously came to feel that you "earned" your liberation from the nut case. Maybe you feel like you're finally grown-up enough to make it on your own. Regardless of the source of your new-found confidence, act on it. Feelings are meaningless; action is what counts. You didn't say if you're leaving to make a new start. I hope that's in your plans.
2007-06-02 19:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said why you stayed. You gave no examples of why you think he is a nutcase. What did he do? What trap? Something does not sound right. Sorry I can't say if its right or not, only you know. So good luck.
2007-06-02 18:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just some common sense.
2007-06-02 19:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not crazy if you love him
2007-06-02 18:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋