Should I keep my baby or what......??

Question

There was this boy named Todd in my class. He was the most cutest boy in the whole school. At the begging of my sophmore year, he would always tap me on my shoulder, wrap his arms around my waist and stare at me during class. I gladly gave him a chance & we started going out and after about a month, I decided I was ready to give up my virginaty. He was the perfect person to start with. The sex was good. He knew wxactly where to place his dick to make me scream & moan and eventualy, I became pregnant. This wasn't something I had planned. What went wrong? I was so confused. I didn't tell my mom & she still doesn't know today. When I told Todd about my condition, he turned WHITE. He didn't say anything. I decided to let him be for awhile because I knew how shocked he was. Anyways, a week later, I heard he decided 2 move to Los Angelos with his father. He abandoned me when I needed him. Well, I am currently 3 months pregnant. I can't do it on my own. IDK what 2 do. Should I keep it or not?

Answer 1

If you are asking if you should abort. I say no. If youre asking about keeping the child after its born or giveing it up for adoption thats up to you. There are open adoptions. Whatever your choice you need to talk to your mom and get to the doctor. Please talk to your mom soon...if you decide to keep the baby you need to get prenatal care asap to ensure the health of you and the child.

Answer 2

As you are 3mths pregnant u will have to go through with the pregnancy as abortion is out of the question. You should tell your mother, yes she will be disappointed and angry with you, but at the end of the day she is your mother & she loves you
Discuss with your parents what you should do after the baby is born, should you keep it & bring it up with their help. Although Todd has moved out of you life & left you to face this alone, the coward, he should help with financial support.
On the other hand you may feel putting it up for adoption is the answer, think of all the childless couples out there who would give a baby a stable & loving family.
What went wrong ? You did not use contriception.

Answer 3

what went wrong, you ask? 1) you're to young to be having sex in the first place. 2) you're still in high school. 3) you had unprotected sex. 4) mr cutie is a prime example of the young guys today, they're out to have a good time. he don't have a job and not ready to be a dad/father this early in his life. Also he is not mature to be responsibility of his action. I wondering how many girls have he did this too? 5) you need to tell your mother and get over the aftermat. And she can help you, it will be hard but she will do what she can. 6) I hope this teach you a lesson to keep your panties up on your butt and legs close, keep your nose into your books. 7) This Todd (the cutie) you go over to his parents house and let them know about this child and not let him get away without paying his due of being a dad. 8) I would said keep your child, so this be a strong reminder to you about having unprotected sex. But, you alone have to deal with this and its totally on you to make that call.

Answer 4

Well, first of all, that was a big mistake you did, giving it up in your sophmore year. You didn't know the consequences. Yet if you did, now look what happened.

You need to tell someone, not strangers on the Internet. This is a life you're dealing with. Not a toy. Imagine the child growing up to not even know his dad, or the wedding story, or anything. I don't know what you should do. But this is about you and the choice you made.

Answer 5

I am getting this strange feeling this is a joke someone is playing. so--o much info. ( smiles) Just in case it is not a joke... Pray to Thee Father-God, Clearly He can hear you. I am a parent of three children and it is thee hardest job I ever had..All my children are now adult age and I know they would come to me if they were pregnant...that includes my son. There is nothing too big and too difficult for The Heavens. I did not always believe that. Go ahead do not be scared girl! If you can go to your parents, Auntie, do that. Use a condom from this point on and make prenatal/ birth control counseling appointment..Be Courageous! It is in you! call it forth my dear! Call it you Courage! Choose the path of the least amount of resistance...There will be resistance but you have the power to choose the least amount or more..Be the blessing

Answer 6

I was 17 when I got pregnant and 18 when I had my son. My parents were supportive of me and helped me with my child even though the father took off. I won't lie to you it is hard, VERY HARD. I am very glad I did keep him, I wouldn't have it any other way, but I had help. Without the help I don't honestly think I would be a good mom today. my parent were wise enough to see I needed time to grow up and raised my son for the first couple of years and slowly I took over as I got older. What you need to ask yourself is not what is going to be best for me but what is going to be best for the baby. I suggest talking to your parents. My parents were really upset, but once they got over the initial shock they were strong and wonderful to me and my child. Hope this helps you hun. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Your going to have to think about this on your own, personally for myself I could never give a child up for adoption, but my 17 year old cousin who happens to be pregnant also and is only about 3 weeks behind me has decided to give her baby up for adoption. Do what is best for you, but if you do decide to keep this baby, you do need to do something about your ex, he will need to know that he can not just run away from a situation like this. Go to his mother, or if anything go through legal matters, request a paternity test that way he will know for sure that, this baby is his as well and he's going to need to do his part

Answer 8

too much information. but it is your responsibility to take care of this child. a baby is a living person no matter how small. You have to grow up now and take care of it with or without this TODD. You have to tell your parents because their support will help you get through this.

It's going to be okay. The important thing is to know that God doesn't put you in a situation you can't handle. He helps you find a way out of chaos. You have to trust Him. Take care of yourself, take your prenatals, and remember that there is going to be some people who judge you because you are young but don't listen to negative comments. Do what you have to do to make this work.

Answer 9

i think you need to take the responsibility of being a mom because you need to learn the price with sex you opened then for some guy that left when you were pregnant you need to tell your mom about it and also if you do decide to not keep the baby and its sad that you would give something that beautiful theres always adoption

Answer 10

My mother always said don't believe anything man say. There are programs that help unwed mothers now like in the old days when you had to drop out. Do not give it away. Ask for help food stamps low-income housing. you will regret giving it away do you watch life time, give it away years later you will want it back. There is not any love like a mothers love. you will always wonder if is being treated fair. oh yes next time use CONDOM or the PILL.