anything for christmas valentines day or my b-day but we had good times we went out sometimes and he treated me nice but other times he treated me like crap we were together 10 months and just broke up. Why can't I just get over him he's over me. Why can't I do the same?
2007-06-02 10:38:07 · 22 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes when a chapter closes, we romaticize it...thinking we should have stuck out it...it's better than being alone. Trust me, it's not. It's hard right now, but you will get past this and find someone who will truly appreciate you and treat you as you deserve to be treated. Right now it's all fresh and raw. While I know it's hard...really hard...give it time. This will pass. Keep your chin up and good luck.
2007-06-02 11:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by sassyredhead1968 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When woman give their hearts, they really give their hearts. Unfortunately some men are there just for the conquest without thinking about commitment. Others are so immature that they are not really serious. The more they can get the best (some even enter into betting games with their peers). The alarming thing in your situation is that he sometimes treated you like crap. That means a lot. It means that he was already abusing you without even being serious about you.
Give thanks that it only lasted 10 months and not a life time of pain and who knows what kind of more abuse. Take it as a maturing and learning experience to avoid falling for men that relate to women with similar patterns of behavior (abusively). You will get over him with time and by relating to people that really love you. Please try to enter into healthy relationships next time. The more you can keep a relationship in the friendship stage (without intimacy) the best chances for a quality relationship.
2007-06-02 17:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tomi I 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, I've been through this. Dated this guy, I was totally in love with him and he made me feel like he was in love with me, but other times he treated his friends better than me, paid more attention to them. It was a pretty crappy relationship now when I look back on it, but anyway, this is about you. You know, the only advice I have for you is to move on. Find someone else, go out and flirt (but be responsible). Have some fun. That is the only way to get your mind off of him. It worked well for me, and still is. I've been over him for quite some time now, and I'm feeling fine. Just find someone new, and it'll take your mind right off of him.
2007-06-02 17:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with other answers....you love the good times you had with him, not the guy himself. And the reason why he got over you so fast: some guys treat girls like toys. They think it's fun at first...but then they want something new. Some guys don't really know the meaning of "true relationship." So find one that does.
2007-06-02 17:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Hockey Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on the good times. There is a reason you dumped him. Learn from this and move on. There are plenty of nice guys out there ready to treat you like the princess you are.
2007-06-02 17:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by tigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why you miss him is because hes been around whether hes been bad to you or not. but hes bad company no one needs to stay in an abusive relationship. Keep yourself busy by going out having some alone time to yourself. Also you may want to find a support group so you can talk to them when your feeling low about the situation.
2007-06-02 17:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdiamonds18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it obvious. You love him && love doesn't go away that easily. You will probobly love him for awhile or even a life time. You'll soon forgive him for the mean things he has done and you will never forget the way he treated you as if you were a queen. You were deeply in love with him and he has unfortunatley left a scar on your heart, and just like real life scars, it takes awhile to heal.
~*chRisTinA*~
2007-06-02 17:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You miss the good times.....not necessarily him. No woman deserves to be treated like "crap". You can get over him when you realize you're worth more than he has to give. Move on. You can do it as we're all here to help!!!
2007-06-02 17:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People develop a comfort level in a relationship. For you, that comfort may have actually been the fact that he was such a jerk. It's human nature to love drama. Maybe his selfishness gave you a sense of empowerment due to the fact it gave you..sort of a "reason to complain." In addition, wether the experiences both of you had were positive or negative, they obviously left an impression. An event doesn't have to be positive to be signifigant.
2007-06-02 18:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by The One and Only Madd Mizzle! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you miss him, cuz you've been with him for a very long time and probably for the next month or so depending how serious it was, you will be reeling over in your head over the good times and what you could of done to prevent it but the main thing is keep yourself busy perhaps with friends and try enjoying yourself (perhaps go sky-diving or save a giraffe from drowning in a pool of deadly...okay not so deadly quicksand) if you keep busy, in time you will gradually forget him. (he's a guy they don't care, excluding me!)
2007-06-02 17:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋