I'm 16 and I have a boyfriend who is 17. We have been dating for 3 months. Our relastionship is really strong. In fact i live with him, but not in the same room. He asked me if I wanted to have sex with him. I wasn't sure what to say so I just said I'll think about it. I really love this guy and I want to have sex with him. Is it the right thing to do. I already had my period this month but i'm still not sure.
2007-06-02 10:05:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actualy we've been dating for 3 years.That's what I meant to say sorry and it is my first time and i told you I already had my period this month. So i'm not worrying about that. Also he asked me to have dirty sex. He said it wood be fun for our first sex together to be like that.
2007-06-02 10:13:16 · update #1
yes it's legal in my country. I really want to do this guys im just afraid dirty sex or just plain sex will hurt.What if he does it to my butt.What if he sucks my boobs. I'm so new to this.Oh and he asked me to marry him last month. We are getting married in the fall.
2007-06-02 10:19:25 · update #2
if you are ready do it!!!
2007-06-02 10:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by niki_skater 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't do it if I were you. Sounds like you're even not sure about doing it, and your turning to the internet for answers. If you guys are in a strong loving relationship (and live together, wow), then it wouldn't hurt to wait a bit more, at least until you guys are in college.
I know from experience people change after high school or once they turn 18. Sometimes for better or worse.
You guys are young too! Something might not happen if you are smart about protection, but there is still a chance of error (pregnancy, STD's, infections...). You wouldn't want to risk that at such a young age?!
But your saying right above: I really love this guy and I want to have sex with him.
A little conflicting here, but don't it if you still have doubts or question about it in you. This is something you have to figure for yourself and have no regrets about it, because this is a choice that you are making for yourself, from no one else and for no one else.
Hope everything will turn out alright for you....
2007-06-02 10:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by naria143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you do it, you cannot take it back. Many guys will lose respect for you and it could actually end a dating relationship, as opposed to strengthening it. You never know how intercourse will go. He may want it all. Sex should not be dirty. It is intended to be a beautiful thing, not a vulgar perversion. Further, if pregnancy were to result (which, outside of sterilization is ALWAYS a possibility, however small). And abortions have scarred many women.
Sex functions best in a marriage relationship. If he really loves you, he will be willing to wait. in fact, you can see his true feelings. If you decline him, and he gets frustrated or angry and/or says something like, "If you really love me, you'd do this with me" then his feelings for you are actually very shallow.
Bottom line: My best recommendation is to say no. True love waits.
2007-06-02 10:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your b/f rush you into something you're not ready for. You may really love this guy but you don't need to feel pressured to have sex with him because of your strong relationship. If you have to ask if it's the right thing to do, then you know it's not. Wait a while before having sex & if he really loves you & respects you, he won't force you into having sex yet. When you do, make sure you use a condom. Remember" no glove...no love. :)
2007-06-02 10:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...months into YEARS??? weird how you got that confused...
anyway, nobody should have dirty sex, because sex is supposed to just let you give birth. Expecially not anal sex, if he means that. The vagina is stretchy, and made for intercourse, but not the anal part. if you have sex there, you’ll most likely tear it and have peeing problems for the rest of your life. im serious.
if he means that he'll suck youre boobs and lick you, etc., then i would advise against it. sex isn't supposed to be perverted and disgusting.
and if he cant wait until marriage, and is angry and says something about breaking up or a misleading love sentence, then you should be able to realize that his feelings are way different from yours.
Hope this helps!
*~cutie pie~*
2007-06-02 10:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by lostweeaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u first have to ask urself a couple questions: one is ur relationship strong enough to survive having sex, what i mean is that will u guys be able to be the same people before u had it number 2: are u ready to do this just for him or is this something u really want to do, remember there is only ur first time u can never take it back
Good luck
2007-06-02 10:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by M.M R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
howdy female you're too youthful to settle for the household initiatives. do certainly not do it purely through fact your BF needs it. BE business enterprise in what you go with for and by no capacity supply in no remember what. intercourse comes with alot of household initiatives and there'll come to a time once you would be waiting for it. now's not the main suitable time, there is many extra issues which you're able to do to hold mutually. Hats off to you interior the 1st place for telling NO on your boyfriend. maximum suitable me if i'm incorrect, i've got faith your BF is conscious your thoughts. He purely asked you as quickly as.... if it incredibly is real, then i've got faith your courting is on a wright song. a guy has that urge to have intercourse yet while he's familiar with the thank you to comprehend his companions view in that concern is a "super guy". that would not advise you could "DO IT" with him, yet your decision of BF is an especially sturdy one.
2016-12-18 12:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says wait till you are married.
The girls on here mostly say wait
The guys one here mostly say do it.
In two years time if you don't do it, will he still love you? You have to ask yourself that. If you haven't got a relationship outside of sex what have you got?
and by the way is it legal in your country at your age?
I say don't do it
If what you are saying is dirty sex anal sex, that hurts and that is against the Bibles teaching to it;s a sin
2007-06-02 10:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew Payne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should because 3 months isn't a really long time. love isn't about sex if he loves you he wouldn't force you into doing something you don't want to. if you do have sex with him, what if u get pregnant, do u think your love will be strong enough to make him stay with u and be responsible? think about that.
2007-06-02 10:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by aad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have sex, you are damaged goods. You are still young, wait for marriage! Sex does not make the world go round!
2007-06-02 10:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're not ready.
Seconds Stict to the books and then guys are for later.
Third , You don't ask for sex... he sounds desperate
2007-06-02 10:10:39 · answer #11 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋