We are having a wedding at a festival next year it is a theam wedding.I an looking for a way to let every one know that we are only having cake and punch. The place doses not have catering and out side food is not allowed. Now food can be purches at stands.The food is very rich and are things like turky ledgs beff stew bread bowles and chillie bread bowles.We have a few reasons not to pay for every ones food but the biggest reason is health. we have people who are diabetic 2 high suger 2 low , 3 cases of Iritable B and 3 ulsers.So most people can't eat there.
How do i let them know what is going on. do isend out a card in the invite that says cake and puch searved only or do i send a note when they rsvp and i send them there ticket in to the fair. My bf just said to do it by word of mouth. Please only serious awnsers
2007-06-02 09:55:08 · 16 answers · asked by movievixin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would like to thank the people who put real answer. There are a few things i would like to add it is not about money it never was . For the people who are going to that please do not awnser. I can not change what they make at the fest or how thy make it. With all the health problems only about 10 people will be able to eat there. I can not even eat there. We have a few people who are to proud to admit thay can not eat and will do it any ways . It could lead to sickness and in somecases trips to the hospital. It is the same reason no alchol is not allowed.
2007-06-02 10:36:53 · update #1
This wedding is not about food or presants . It is about two people comming together.
2007-06-02 10:38:35 · update #2
I think cake and punch is quite acceptable. I think the person above who says you have to send it with the invite to let the people know they won't be getting fed is totally selfish and a bit bitchy. Just include something about a small reception immediately following the ceremony and leave it at that. Anyone who makes their determination about coming to your wedding or not on food isn't someone you really want there anyway.
2007-06-02 13:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would mention somewhere on the invite what it is. "John and Mary invite you to join them in getting married. cake and punch reception to follow."
Send the tickets and directions with a timeline to those who RSVP just to make sure they still are not expecting a full meal. You can do something really cute with clip art icons and it will help people know what is going on. If you can get the info also make a little bochure with some information about the fesitval and what will be available. "The Garlic festival has been held annualy for 6 years. Garlic is a herb........" then on the back have a list of vendors that will be there seperated by type "Joeys Hot Dogs, Maries Pretzles, The Screamer, a show by The Band"
1 pm couple arrives
2 pm father daughter dances
3 pm first dance as man and wife
4 pm toasting
5 pm cake and punch
6 pm dance till we all drop
etc., etc., etc.
I understand having dietary restrictions, I have them myself. Perhaps instead of food you can talk with the fesival coordinator about having "tickets" for favors. You can put them in pretty bags and people can use them to eat or for attractions and won't feel left out because of their health issues. Most festivals already have a ticket system in place so you can just buy a bunch the day before.
2007-06-02 10:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cake and punch receptions are very common and the way they are done is on the inviation you put at the bottom:
"Please join us for cake and punch after the ceremony" or something like that. Then when you send out the tickets, you can include a small fact sheet with some information about the venue...like you can add the number and type of food places available and you can even add price ranges for each place(which would be a subtle and tactful way to let people know the food is their financial responsibility if they want to eat.). That is really all you need to do. Good luck!
2007-06-02 13:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by emrobs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Create some type of "information" letter or newsletter for your guests, and then each time you receive a RSVP you can mail this "letter" to them. You can staple the festival tickets to the inside of the newsletter and that way you will get their attention. The newsletter should include directions to the festival, the parking area, the location of the ceremony, AND what food is going to be served after the ceremony (punch and wedding cake only). Be informative as possible so no one is disappointed, mad, lost or confused. A well informed wedding guest is a good guest!
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-02 11:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that this is an issue about money, Its about a big ole party at a festival, but I personally wouldnt go. It would be too confusing for me. I dont like attending parties at places that is going to have hundreds of other people (or even thousands) Because I personally would get lost.
Now If I were to do it at a place like that, I'd have to talk to the groundskeepers about that day. See if you can put a sign up that says Wedding ---->that a way. and so on, But I certainly wouldnt expect anyone to show up at a festival for a wedding. There's going to be extra people you dont want to feed cake too. There's going to be onlookers that say, hey free cake! and you're going to have a mess on your hands. I'd get married outside of the festival, have a small reception afterwards at maybe someone's house, and anyone who'd like to join you at the festival afterwards is more than welcome. Something to that affect, but if you are expecting people to party with you at a festival, i'd feed them at least some sandwiches or something before the festival. Then they dont have to pay $30 for food that isnt going to fill them up, but give the a belly ache later in the day. Its just not smart in my opinion.
And Im NOT BEING MEAN. Im being honest from another persons point of view on this kind of wedding.
2007-06-02 10:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by mannasox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the invitations include a directions list plus at the bottom put something about "Held at festival. Only cake and punch will be served". And maybe mention that it is really just a ceremony and no real reception.
2007-06-02 15:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the bottom of the invite, I would put "cake and punch to follow". Then on the RSVP card I would put "A Cake and Punch Reception" You can also add it where you are informing them that it is a theme wedding.
2007-06-02 10:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you send people their invitation have a little card inside the invitation that simple states: Cake and punch reception immediately following the ceremony and where the reception will take place.
2007-06-02 10:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by wedchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the invitation state immediately following the ceremony cake and punch will be served and where. Then put "To continue or celebration we are asking you all to join us in a festival" Then on RSVP card have:
____Number of Guests
____Will attend ceremony and enjoy cake
____Will attend ceremony, enjoy cake and continue to
festival
____Sorry Unable to Attend
2007-06-02 10:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by bella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going one line (and print out) or asking the festival for brochures and include them with a small note inside the packet with your directions. Or send out a wedding newletter. It's easy to do, I did one twice during the plannign of our wedding. Just include things like what's happening with you and your fiance', the dress code, the food situation...my family and friends loved hearing what was going on and it kept them informed about everything, so they felt special and included. HTH, sorry it's so long.
2007-06-02 10:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Christina D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋