wat do u do when ur bouyfriend wants 2 get an abortina but u cant leave him?

Question

im 16 and im pregnet but my bouyfriend want me 2 get an abortan or adopt it out one but i cant do that i want 2 keep it how do i tell him no

Answer 1

Oh sweetie...you've got quite the issue on your hands. I got pregnant when I was 17 and the father wanted me to get an abortion because he didn't want t a "kid" but I wanted to keep it (she is now a gorgeous 4 1/2 year old)...what you need to do, is leave your boyfriend. If he is going to treat you like that, think of how he will treat the baby. It isn't his choice if you give it up for adoption, and if you decide to keep the baby and stay with him, you're going to have a rough life and that baby will too. Think about this...be alone, but with a healthy, happy baby who will always love and appreciate you for saving her/him and keeping her/him; OR be with your boyfriend who is going to treat you like sh*t and eventually leave you anyway, but have to give up this beautiful life that you've created.
I really hope (for your sake and the babies sake) that you make the right decision and leave your boyfriend. I had to leave my baby's father and my life is more than I could ask for :o) My baby is my Angel and she saved me from a horrible life that I would have had with her father. PLEASE go no without this boy.
good luck to you! and please email me if you want or need more advice :o)

Answer 2

This is why teens should not get preg. it's your body so he can not make a decision like that for you. Where are you parents? Even if you wanted to get an abortion your too young without the consent of a parent or legal guardian. Even if your boyfriend is over 18 1st they would lock him up cuz i believe in most states that's considered statutory rape, nor you can't get an older friend to take you. So you may not even be able get an abortion if you wanted to. You don't sound to sure you want even keep the baby. You need a grown up to help you out even if you keep the baby you will still need help with insurance for the child food clothes etc. a lot to think about 1st make sure you get your check ups for you and baby's health and then find an adult you trust to help decide what your options are. Abortion I'm not for but adoption maybe an option worth at least considering. Good Luck Hun!

Answer 3

I was in the same boat you are in almost 15 years ago. I was 16 and I made the choice not to have an abortion. My daughter is now 14 I eventually left the, well I will call him sperm donor. I got married to a wonderful guy who adopted her.

Think of the future...If you have an abortion, where will your daughter or son be in 15 years from now... Right now mine is resting on the couch. She will be getting ready in about 15 minutes to play her 3rd softball game today because she is in a fast-pitch softball tournament. She is the starting catcher. Just think if I would've aborted her team wouldn't have a wonderful player and friend.

They say abortion is a woman's choice. If you had an abortion and it was a girl... that woman would've never had a choice.

If you are not able to take care of your child financially, take adoption into consideration. Adoption is the most unselfish choice a mother can make.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Think about this - at 16 you may think you can't live without him, but you can, you won't disolve away and time will move forward. However, your child can not live without you, and you are a mother now and it's your decision what to do - you want this child, then you keep this child. How many people do you know that are married or even still together when they dated at age 16? The divorce rate is high enough so even if your older and married there are no guarantees that you will be with someone forever. How he treats you now will show his true colors and if he is not compassionate toward you at this time, he is probably not worth it. What I'm trying to say is make the decision for yourself because you will always have to live with the choice, him or your baby.

Answer 5

First, if you have a good relationship with your parents, talk to them, or another grown up that you trust. Also, if you do not want to get an abortion, you do not have to. Adoption is an alternative, especially if you cannot financially take care of a child. This is not a simple decision. As far as not leaving your boyfriend, what is the reason? Is it because you are living with him, are afraid of him, or that you love him. This is a very big decision and one that you cannot make easily. Are you in school or working? Sit down with an adult that you trust, if you do not have one in your life speak to someone at a hospital clinic and they can direct you to a counselor to talk to that will not judge you and help you make an informed decision. Good luck. I hope things work out for you.

Answer 6

You are 16, you obviously can't go back and change what has occurred but you can control your future. At such a young age, you need to speak to someone who has experience such as your mother. If you don't have a great mother figure or you feel you can't talk to her, find someone you feel that you can trust. There is also professional help out there for you. Go to a planned parenthood and explain your feelings. It is normal to feel torn. I was 27 and scared to death so I can imagine how you feel. Do not let this man tell you what to do with your body, life and child because in some years from now you will look back at this man and realize he was the wrong one for you. One last thing...the one thing I have learned in life is always follow your heart and your heart tells you to keep your child. There are so many resources out there for help. Ask for help.

Answer 7

You should do what is best for you and you alone. If a baby is best and something you can handle alone, then do it. But, if your boyfriend ditches you and pays only the minimal child support you need to be able to provide for this infant. You need to figure out what you would do with this pregnancy if your boyfriend had fallen off the face of the earth. If your decision is what is best for you, then it won't matter at all what he says. You will do what is best for you... don't let him pressure you . Also, don't let your imaginings of a beautiful happpy life together with your baby and boyfriend make this decision for you. You will most likely be raising this child alone.
Good luck, I hope you make the right decision and use protection from now on.

Answer 8

Do what is is in your heart! It is easy for them to say since they are the ones who can walk! If you are pursuing an education or want to, remember a child is an ongoing and expensive burdon to carry in life. Plan for child care expenses, schooling, rent, clothing, food, transportation, doctor care coming from your pocket unless you have a well paying job. Most young people don't. Next time, tell the daddy he can be a loser or he can be the man he thought he was in the moment he decided to make his own. Stand up and claim it or he's OUT! Next time obstain before doing something regretable again. It is not easy, but life isn't either!

Answer 9

I do not want to sound judgmental but where are your parents? I think you should discuss this with them. I know you came on here looking for help so I will not pull any punches. You are sixteen! Your relationship with boyfriend will probably not last forever. So, you need to get in the mind frame of thinking for yourself and your child. No one can make decisions for you but you should consider talking with someone who has children or spending time with them to see what their life is like on a day to day basis. No mother 16 or 40 has a clear grasp on exactly what it is like to be a parent until they become one. Newborns are very cute and cuddly but they are a lot of work and they do grow up. I think that you should explore all of your options and then decide what is right for your life. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 10

You simply tell him no and do what you feel is the best for you! I just had my first, and I am a single mother, and let me tell you my daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If he does leave you..you will find a way to make things work and there are so many programs out there to help single moms. Any man who would leave you while you are pregnant isnt worth having in your life. BE STRONG!