For awhile now my b/f hasn't been able to see his daughter because his ex is not letting him. Her excuse is its the kids decision if she wants to go or not. THE KID IS 5 YEARS OLD!! What kid would want to be away from their mom at that age. He doesn't pay child support and he has no problem paying it if he had too. He just wants to see his daughter! Can anyone help with some ideas or laws that you know of to help our situation. PLEASE PLEASE!!!
2007-06-02 08:50:35 · 11 answers · asked by laurabug07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just to add to peoples comments I'm not in the middle of it and have no intentions on being in the middle he wanted ideas of what he can do and I told him I was going to ask people
2007-06-02 16:39:00 · update #1
I MEAN MY FRIEND IS in the postion, atm and it is hard i do agree that if u interfere it would make things worse so just support ya partner make sure he is doing everything he can do see his child then if nothing else well its legal matters after that im afraid
2007-06-02 08:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always paid my support and STILL had to get a court order to see my daughter. Have him file for visitation. Everyone here is telling you to stay out of it...I disagree. You may not have any legal rights in the matter but you CAN give your BF a kick in the butt to do what he has to do. He is going to end up paying support at some point. He's better off to start now before the bill gets out of hand and he can still be a part of his daughter's life. Just make sure he talks to a lawyer and gets the ball rolling. Time is passing and every day he waits, the less chance he has to have a good relationship with his child. Also, make sure any support he pays goes through the state.
2007-06-03 09:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he isn't paying child support then I wouldn't let him see my child either. The child support is not dependent upon him seeing the child, it is for the child's well being, he is being irresponsible. It is his child, pay the damn support and if he wants to see the child, go to the court and get court appointed visitation. And at 5, she can make that choice. I had a 3 and a 4 year old by my ex-husband and neither of them ever wanted to go with him and they would cry and scream to not go. A child knows when he/she is feeling neglected and unloved. You need to quit blaming the ex and focus on what your boyfriend is doing ( or in this case NOT doing) what right does he have to withhold benefits for the child he produced...He doesn't. He is irresponsible. If he WANTED to pay child support he would, he isn't and that tells me enough right there. My ex didn't either, he just didn't feel like it. Well guess who suffers, the child. If he is such a stand up daddy, then he can get his butt down to a lawyer ( most take payments ) get visitation rights, that she can't go against and pay child support like a real man would.
2007-06-02 15:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is hard but unless you and him are married then it is really none of your business BUT If you want to help - if he has paternity on that little girl ( His name is on her birth certificate and he takes responsiblity for her) then take the mom to court. She can NOT legally keep him from seeing his daughter ESPECIALLY if he is a fit father. Do some research talk to a lawyer - if he cant afford it there is a mandate called Paupers Affadavit that states he cant afford court cost so the state will step in and pay it for it. As long as he doesn't do drugs, have a record, and is a FIT FATHER then she can not keep him from seeing HIS KIDS. BTW he needs to start paying child support because unless not - she has more reason to keep his daughter away from him. Take her to court and if you need any other info - email me My brother went through this and he won - so let me know
2007-06-02 16:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by wildkuntry07 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only thing he can do is take her to court either for partial custody or atleast visitation. Paying child support will definently be a plus for his case though. There may be a reason for her keeping the child though, I don't know the situation.
2007-06-02 15:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has to go to court...and he HAS to pay support. Even if he is not paying support he will get to visit, but, it's just wrong. She may really not want to visit dad, because mom is telling her things. For her well being, he needs to show her he loves her enough to fight for her. She may not appreciate it now, but, she will resent him in the future if he doesn't.
2007-06-02 16:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is none of your business and you should stay out of it. He needs to start paying child support and be a responsible adult. He should talk to an attorney and find out his rights, but he should also grow up.
2007-06-02 16:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well for one there is nothing you can do it is his child he will need to go to the police and may end up going to court but if he wants to see his daughter then it will problay take that. they will usually do a dna test and then go from there. good luck and tell him to go and see a lawyer.
2007-06-02 16:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to take her to court to get visitation rights and he needs to start paying child support even if he doesn.t see her. That child still needs food, shelter, etc. And you need to push him to do it.
2007-06-02 16:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean but, you need to stay out of it, that problem is between him and the mother you can be there for emotional support as his girlfriend but you having a say in their matter would only heat things up and put you in a position where you dont want to be.
2007-06-02 15:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋