im a grown adult man who lives with my mother. She makes me think that i cannot be independent on my own. I suffer from depression. She will leave and go with her boyfriend for periods of time then come back she will scream how you can live this way? you filthy pig, im suprised you dont have roaches.. I said you clean it, its your house, she said i dont have time, i just did the dishes. You're disgusting she says to me, she screams curses at me, says how dirty filthy and disgusting i am, what should i do? Nothing I do can please her. I just moped and scrubbed the floor and she came in telling me she is suprised i dont have roaches?
2007-06-02 07:31:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i let the dishes sit for maybe 5 days, i was too busy with other things to get around to it
2007-06-02 07:54:33 · update #1
Move out.
2007-06-02 07:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this? You are an adult. Resovle these issues....
First, you say, your mother says you are not able to live on your own. Can you or can't you? Depression is a disease. If you have one, have it treated.
You live in your mother's house. The space you occupy, you clean it. Your mother is not a maid. She is not required to clean up after yourself.
She is, of course, free to leave her house and come and go as she pleases. It is her house and you are an adult.
I won't say you deserve those comments, because you don't. But, you have your priorities and responsibilities all messed up.
2007-06-02 07:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a adult man why are you living with your Mother? get a job, get a apartment, and get out of your Mothers house. if you suffer from depression get a Doctor he will be able to help you more than your mother and get on your own two feet, maybe that will help your depression staying there sure is not helping any thing or any one get going and live your life.
2007-06-02 07:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by sandyjean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, grow up, get a self esteem and move out. Or move out first since the longer you stay the more you have to hear it and the harder it will be to get a good self image built up. Your too old to blame your issues on being depressed and such. Your too old to live with your mother and have her treat you like a little red headed step child. Once your on your own you will have a new respect for yourself and don't have to listen to her.
2007-06-02 07:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by charlene_mueller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cleaning is a daily task. The components should be divided equally between you two. Maybe weekly you could trade list until you are comfortable with certain components in the cleaning and agree to do these. I think the weekly trade off is the best way for you two.
2007-06-02 07:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dawnita R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step up and cut the cord son. I'm sure mommy is tired of taking care of you. Living with mommy certainly isnt helping your depression, seek medical help or maybe join a support group. Get out and make friends.
Time to grow up!
2007-06-02 07:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out! And if you're living in someone else's house you have to put up with them because they can always hold it over your head that you are living under THEIR roof. So if you are an adult, first work on getting a car if you don't have one, and THEN get your own place to live. Until then, no matter how much she annoys you, you HAVE to keep clean and respect her wishes because you are living under HER roof.
2007-06-03 06:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Aerial 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is to get your own place and pay your own rent, therefore she can not blame you for her own place being dirty, and what you do in your own home is your buisness alone.Did you tell the whole story? waiting days to do the dishes and mopping can result in bugs, that is if you wait til she is to come home before you clean up. but no one knows both sides of the story. but for yoursake, if you don't want to be screamed at then i suggest moving out imediately, she probably is stressed out and your depressed so they don't mix well sometimes. good luck
2007-06-02 07:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by bbw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know why mess you made to know why really i didnt see it. But she should used nicer words. You need to man up and get a place of your own and not be mommys boy and then she cant bother you. You will be surprised how independant you can be on your own and not listening to people
2007-06-02 07:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave and live your life how you want to. be on your own get your self confidence back and then you will realize you are a wonderful person in your own right and no body's doormat. Be happy babe life is too short.X X X X
2007-06-02 07:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by F C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toxic parents huh? yeah i never understood that either. my parents are the same way. what you should do is wash the dishes often, vacuum or what not. just clean everyday, read exercise and depression will eventually disappear. just show that your progressing in something everyday and she'll leave you alone.
2007-06-02 07:45:49 · answer #11 · answered by Damac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋