I've been dating this girl for 4 months now and she's met my family and seen how big our houses and nice cars are... and when i went to meet her family they're pretty poor. i know its wrong to dump her just because she's poor cuz i like her alot but i mean we're just way to different in that area...
what can i say to her to dump her? im sorry if i come off as mean.
2007-06-02 07:09:18 · 27 answers · asked by puablondes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't dump her. Nothing can be as good or as strong as the love you have for each other. I love this girl who is pretty poor too but i will never dump her. And dumping her because she is poor is mean and just wrong.
2007-06-02 07:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by EAN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well things like that can be an issue but is it really your issue, or are you worried about what your family and friends will think? Also,if she is great in every other way, you should reconsider dumping her. I know many rich girls who expect their boyfriends or husbands to keep spoiling them just like their daddy's always did and that can put stress on a relationship too.
Money doesn't equal class. There are many very spoiled, tacky girls who are rich. And many respectful, smart and wonderful girls that are poor. If she is fun, attractive, nice and whatever else you may be looking for, then who cares what her family drives? You could step up and be there for her and show her that not all rich guys are jerks. You may even inspire her to work hard to get to a better place in life herself.
If you really just feel that this is really something you can't overcome, then just tell her that you care for her but for some reason you just don't feel the same way anymore. Break it to her gently and don't even hint that it has something to do with how poor her family is. That would hurt her so much. Nothing hurts more than hearing someone else criticize those that you love.
And next time, how 'bout you try to find out how rich a girls family is before you make her think you really like her for who she is.
2007-06-02 14:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by fitdramamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well was there anything wrong with your relationship before you found out that she's poor? Because if not, maybe you should just ignore that fact.
If you are set on dumping her and you don't mind that you're doing it for a pretty shallow reason, then just tell her the truth. Tell her why you don't like the idea of dating a poor girl.
2007-06-02 14:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by David F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't dump her. I don't see why would anyone dump the person they like because of their social status. My brother, a middle class guy, dated this girl who was poor and he helped her and her family to get a better life. He found her a job that's giving her enough money to support herself and her family. I don't think our social status got to do with anything in the relationship. As long as you guys like each other, that's all that matters. If her being poor is a problem, then help her.
2007-06-02 14:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Hedu A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omgsh!! You cant dump her because she's poor........ she cant help it.......... what I would do is think about the postivite stuff in her.................. like why like her in the first place...... think about all the good times you hard together & all that stuff.... I mean if you didnt know that she was "poor" would you even try to be her boyfriend...... I mean seriously just forget that she poor for one day & do whatever she wants to.....just be careful when you take her out to dinner or lunch make sure you don't go to the SUPER expensitve places ......... you'll end up making her feel small & worthless........ after that one day see why you like her & then decide if you should dump her..
---GOOD LUCK--
2007-06-02 14:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by ALLie_lOVEs_yoU_0702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dumping her becasue she is poor. Its not her fault. Maybe her family is having a bad time. Maybe its hard for them to get a good job. If your dumping a girl becasue of something she cant fix then thats your lost. sorry to say but a relationship isnt about money its about how you guys feel about each other. If your like that then thats your problem. If you are like that then she doesnt derseve you. IF you guys were fine before you found out then igore that one little detail.. its not her fault..
2007-06-02 14:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
thats the most retarded reason to dump a person i have ever heard. you must be really insecure about your self to think that money matters that much. if you were a real man you would suck it up just cause she is poor doesn't mean she isn't a good person you a hole you are one of the reason people say that rich people are snobs. why do you think need to get rid of her you think your parents won't like her cause she is poor wow you are shallow grow some nuts and learn to date people for who they are not what they own
2007-06-02 14:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by D1&Donly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if she told you she couldn't see you anymore because you are rich? How shallow can you be? Money doesn't matter! Do you care about her? Does she care about you? If you answered yes to the last two questions then you have no reason to dump her. Then again, if you are shallow enough to ask such a horrible question, then it seems to me that SHE could do sooooo much better than you.
2007-06-02 14:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean man. But I wouldnt dump her just because of the money thing. If you realy like her, then you wouldnt care, so im guessing you dont like her that much. In which case, dump her.
2007-06-02 14:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by GiorgioArmaniRules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumping her because she is poor is one of the worst/mean/childish/stupid thing you can ever do in your life. Why don't you turn around and imagine yourself in her position? How would it feel? I am sorry for you that you think that way, and I am sorry for her that she knows someone like you.
2007-06-02 14:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Artan S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋