This is the thing. When I became pregnant with our son, my husbands family said that it wasnt his baby and they didnt claim our son as their family because they all wanted him back with his ex girlfriend (they were broken up when we met) who he has 2 children with. When our son became 8 months old they began to accept him. Just a few days ago, his ex girlfriend had her new baby (which is between my husbands cousin and her boyfriend, she doesnt know) and everyone in his family including his mother is accepting the baby as their "grandchild" and so excited about this new baby when it took so long to accept our son which really pisses me off. We're to see his family and the ex (they always have her around) along with the new baby this weekend. I 'm on gaurd because i feel that our son who is the real baby of the family will be pushed aside for this child who is not even their blood. what should i do and how can i express my feelings to the family without causing too much conflict?
2007-06-02 06:17:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why are you going? Take your little boy and do something for the two of you!
2007-06-02 06:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think there is because once people are set in thier ways there is little you can do about it................... I would just take my son and let him see everyone and if anyone would say or do something you do not like I would tell them where they could go an what they could do when they get there....................... Because your son is way more important then what other people think or act and he doesn't need to grow up around setting like that............................
I would take the father to court for child support and have nothing to do with the ex or her kids or his family if they treat you an your son that way.... I have been here and went through this and at one point and time you need to think what is best for you and your son and just leave these people alone! You and your son will be much happier that way.....
Good Luck and I hope all works out for you an your son!
2007-06-02 06:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious what your husband feels about the situation. Primarily it is his place to ease the tensions. I would go and not give them the satisfaction of them upsetting me. They have continued the relationship with the ex, and that will not change. The easiest solution is to try to get along and make the best of the issue at hand. If there is mistreatment towards your child then you and your husband need to refrain from the environment all together, and he should handle the explaining.
2007-06-02 06:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by RT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a screwed up situation. I wouldn't care what they thought. They have disrespected you down the lowest of low. Just live your life with your husband. He married you because he loves you. He didn't marry her for a reason. Don't be stressed about his family. You know how they feel...So just live and let live!
Who cares about this other girl...She sounds like a ***** anyway. She should have more respect for you than that. Just stay on guard for your hubby and your baby. If they want their "blood" grandchild to grow up hating them then that's what they deserve!
2007-06-02 06:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Just here. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly feel this way then dont go cause you will be looking at everyone and feeling the hatred . I mean why are they still friends with the ex-g/f ? I dont understand their position on this . And another thing your husband should be standing up to his family and telling them that you and your son are the real family not her . I dont understand how he lets this go on .
2007-06-02 06:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let it go and not worry who they accept or dont accept of how much. You need to use your energies to raise your son and quit wasting it on people you cant change. Next time you decide to marry take your time and take a long look at the kind of family your marrying into.
2007-06-02 06:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, deal as best you can in front of them but don't let them know it's eating away at you or they will make it worse and consider it as ammunition to aggravate you even more..But I honestly feel for you and your situation..Your baby is the true grandchild, but if they choose otherwise then they don't deserve the love from your child they will miss out on anyway..Be strong and avoid their silly uncaring ways..
2007-06-02 06:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by mushpuppie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The EX spouse would be a piece of your lives consistently because of the youngsters. i comprehend this is confusing yet attempt to grant the youngsters as lots protection and stability as achieveable. i comprehend your overjoyed being newly married and having a baby. Seeing their Dad get married and characteristic yet another infant is lots for infants to comprehend. make specific that the step-childrens don't sense like they're being replaced by employing a sparkling kinfolk. assure the youngsters which you like and help them despite their mom does.
2016-10-06 12:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for crying out loud get over it - these are babies!
They love your child...so what if it took them a while - stop holding a grudge.
They have the right to love any child they want...biological or otherwise. They have the right to associate with whomever they want, including your husband's ex...you have no right to say anything or cause issues.
The only thing you have any control over is your own jealousy.
2007-06-02 06:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I wouldnt **** with his family because they sound like ignorant people. I wouldnt even go around them because all its doing is stressing u out and no1 needs stress! Good Luck though in whatever u decide to do and whatever u do, dont stoop to their level. Love you, sista!
2007-06-02 06:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by Skyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say nothing. Don't give them a reason to dislike you. Obviously they liked her and this is why you feel insecure about this. Be as nice as you can be, and hopefully it will all come out in the wash.
2007-06-02 06:22:20 · answer #11 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋