I had this one time fling with a co-worker of mine, and at first he wanted to date and show me a good time but then our hormones got in the way and we had sex. Now he regrets it and i'm trying to as well. And worst he told me he has a girlfriend. I'm really trying to get over this but i can't. And the thought that i see him at work all the time kills me. Worst, I look for him at work. He just wants to be my friend only. Should i have given in or waited to see what would have happen between us?
I want to forget about him but i still have his number in my phone and i want to call him. In someway i'd rather continue that fling thing we had. Relationship-wise i don't care. I just want him. Help?????
2007-06-02 05:39:56 · 6 answers · asked by Marielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's got a girlfriend. To put this in perspective for you: if he cheated on her, what's to say he won't cheat on you if you two should happen to get together?
Karma sucks...
2007-06-02 05:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by BeachBlondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should forget about him as anything else other than an acquaintance. He has a girlfriend and you need to stay away. It was wrong of him to have sex with you and not tell you before hand. If he did tell you he had a girlfriend before you had sex, that was wrong of you.
There are plenty of single guys who will respect you for you.
I always say: You need to be friends first before ever getting involved in a relationship. You have to be friends anyway. If it doesn't pan out, then you just gained a friend and not an ex-lover.
I am sorry this happened to you. You HAVE to sum it up as a mistake and move on. Once you let go of this guy and your desires for him, you will be able to enjoy yourself and move onto your next phase in life.
Always be honest and communicate in every relationship. It is never good to date co-workers either. As you see, it shows how hard it is to see them everyday.
Think of yourself as a better person than that. Smile at him and wish him well, and move on with your life. Pray the pain and desires of this guy ease.
You can get over this. You have to let him go....... Don't hang onto someone that isn't there for you. You really do not want someone who only used you for sex. That is what a lot of men do.
I got to the point of asking guys if they had a significant other and if they had an "ex", were they still married. I dated a guy who didn't tell him his "ex" was still his wife. I didn't have sex with him, thank goodness. I know that it is hard for you, but it is something you simply have to put behind you.
When you let go, God will send you the right person when it is time. As long as you continue to hold on, you will miss out on what is much better. Delete his phone number.
Think about it, honestly. Do you really want him, or who you thought he was???? He apparently is not the person you thought. There will be someone else out there for you, I promise. Hang in there and hugs to you. I will pray for you.
2007-06-02 05:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way...you have to be honest with yourself, you say you want that fling but you really want the guy or else you wouldnt think of him as much. you have to move on for right now if he calls you later and no longer in a relationship then good but for right now just move on and im sure you will find someone else you will like more than this one.
2007-06-02 05:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that never should have relationship at work but even u did that's fine but than he comes telling u that he has a girlfriend and why didn't he think of her when he was going to have sex with u... He did say that he wants to be ur friend so keep him as a friend but with benefits....
2007-06-02 05:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you keep flinging with him you may eventually catch feelings for him and still want a relationship with him but since he has a girlfriend you may end up heartbroken. Be careful!
2007-06-02 05:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kiddo C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a gf, but he had sex with you? Wow, what a lucky guy. He's got punani just falling into his lap, eh.
Well, because he cheated on his gf with you, he is not going to be with you.
And if he does be with you, what makes you think he's not going to cheat on you.
I think he just really likes sex and lots of it. He's a friggin player and you deserve better!
Cheers and grow the hell up, girl!
2007-06-02 05:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋