He keeps dropping hints like am I taking it, how is it going, and only when I told him to just come out with it and say it, he did. He was not man enough to say out right! Then he said its the lowest of the low to be like girls he knows, who claim they made a mistake on the pill, and thet he would never trust me again.. But there was no cause for no trust in the first place.. I am so hurt that he thinks that of me. Pls only serious answers as am very upset. x
2007-06-02 05:30:33 · 23 answers · asked by Bluebird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it's really upsetting. Coming from a mans point of veiw he shouldn't be treating you like that at all. Are you sure he's the right man for you? Men should realize that their woman are actually smarter than them and that they should treat them like the princesses that they are. I'm sorry but you can do better and I hate to tell you that cuz I know it might make you mad
2007-06-02 05:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First I'm so sorry what happened because i've some what have been in this situation however my bf didn't flip. I think what you need to do is maybe let him cool down for a while. I think he's just upset about what was said.. So he's just really hurt right now.. Try and maybe give a little while before trying to contact him. Sometimes guys need some space to think things out. I think after he's mellowed out he'll be more likely to listen to what you have to say. Just let him know that the last few days have been a little hard for you because you're use to him being a certain way. Tell i duno if there's anything bothering him or anything that might be affecting his behavior. Just let him know overall that you love him and you want to be with him. That you don't care what your friends have to say.. at the end of the day the only thing that matters is that you love him.. and that he loves you back. Good luck hun! i hope this helps out and that it works out.
2016-05-19 04:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your hurt but least he is being as responsible as you by asking .I do suggest he also wears a condom and not to leave birth control just down to you .
Many girls and woman do lie about taking the pill to trap a guy . You hear about it so often. I can't blame him for asking you . 8 months is not a long time in any relationship trust is built up over time . He clearly is being very responsible and stating that he does not want a child just yet .
Have a good chat with him and just be honest and tell him you feel untrusted .
2007-06-02 05:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by scorpionbabe32 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your being hurt over this, but perhaps he has a friend who's been caught out this way before and he finds it hard to just leave it alone - 8 months isn't so long to be with someone, and he is obviously terrified of getting you pregnant. If you reverse things, would you really, really trust a guy who said "I'm infertile, it's safe" or (and I know it's not available yet) "I've had the injection, we'll be fine"? It's not personal, but you could point out to him that he's hurting your feelings, and that if he wants to use condoms too, that's fine by you.
2007-06-02 05:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is not ready to be dad and is probably concerned that he may be duped into becoming one. Thus reassure him that you too are not ready to be mum. Also tell him if he doesn't trust you then he should wear a condom. He also needs to be taught as well though that the contrceptive pill is not 100% protective and that it is unfair for him to think that all women who become pregnant on the pill were not taking it properly - even someone who takes it regularly and at almost exact times everyday can become pregnant.
2007-06-02 05:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are upset, its only normal to feel that way. I can also see from his side that he is worried incase you fall pregnant. I don't think it is as much a trust issue more of him becomming obsessed with the possibility that you could get pregnant. I think the easiest way to resolve this is for you to continue taking the pill but also use a condom, this way he can feel he is also taking responsibility for your birth control.
2007-06-02 05:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by gypsyeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sound like he's psyching himself out about fatherhood.
Sit him down and tell him that you're constantly taking the pill and that you're not going to stop taking it without telling him about it, and that if he loves you, he'll trust you. Explain why you feel upset and hurt by his accusation. Ask him why he reacted that way, when there were no grounds for his accusation.
If he continues on like this, he isn't worth your time. If he's not going to trust you when you've given no reason for him to act this way, then you're better off just leaving.
2007-06-02 05:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well from my point of view i would not wana get pregnant any woman other than my wife, or my future wife I'd love to have kids with her lol.. but if he has doubts maybe he isn't that serious if I knew I am gonna marry this woman I would do what a smart man.. but if I know I am not gonna marry this woman be careful with her because she likes me a lot and might try to get pregnant by me I will always keep my guard up.. but the decision is your to make sorry that you are upset...some guys are dick I know..
2007-06-02 05:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset - he's only trying to protect both of you from the terrible problems an unplanned pregnancy brings with it.
And, to be blunt, many girls DO lie and deliberately become pregnant for all the wrong reasons. I'm sure that he knows this, and it frightens him. Try to understand that he's SCARED, and to be open with him when you discuss this, k?
2007-06-02 05:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Moxie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PUSSYCAT, DON'T FEEL BAD. ALL HE IS DOING IS MAKING SURE THAT YOU DON'T GET PREGNANT. BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT KIDS. NO KIDS! IT'S UNDERSTANDABLE MANY GIRLS TELL GUYS THEY ARE ON THE PILL, BUT TRAP THEM BY GETTING PREGNANT. BUT TRUST ME I HAVE HAD FRIENDS DO THAT AND ALL IN ALL THE GUY ENDS UP LEAVING THEM OR CHEATING ON THEM. BUT TELL HIM IF HE WANT TO KEEP IT 100% SAFE TO WEAR A JIMMY. NOW HAVE YOU BEEN TALKING TO HIM ABOUT HAVING KIDS, THAT ALSO MAY HAVE HIM ASKING. REALLY DON'T BLAME HIM I'M A FEMALE AND I AGREE WITH SOME GUYS NOT WANTING KIDS, BUT WOMEN END UP GETTING PUPOSSLY PREGNANAT TO KEEP THE GUY.
TALK TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW WHERE YOU STAND.
P.S
HAVE YOU CONSIDERD TAKING THE DEPO VERA SHOT? IT WORKS GOOD FOR THREE MONTHS AND IT'S 100% SAFE FROM PREGNANCIES. TALK TO YOUR OBGYN.
2007-06-02 05:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋