i had left my home b/c it was abusive and full of anger. i went and i lived with my aunt for about a month. just over a week ago, she kicked me out. i am now back in the abusive house and don't know what to do. i am grounded for leaving and am not allowed to do anything. i was always a good kid, i've never done drugs, i don't drink, and my grades were usually decent (until recently- it's hard to concentrate). now i can't take it anymore. i've snuck out twice since i've been home and came back both times. both times were to see my boyfriend, that i rarely see now because of the restrictions. we are in love with eachother, and i hate when ppl say that we can't be b/c we are to young. we are. he's 18, i'm 16. he cares about me more than anything. he offered me to stay with him if things got too rough at home. the second time i snuck out, i came home and was forced to move my room in with my brother. it is now so cramped in there that i have to suck it in to move around.
2007-06-02 05:22:55 · 15 answers · asked by yo. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was taken out of school early- like 11:00 am. when i got home, i was doing chores until 10:00 pm as punishment (ontop of the moving in with my brother). my step mother forced me to give her my boyfriends last name and address, threatening to beat me if i didn’t. my father, who usually sticks up for me when my step mom hits me, came up and grabbed my hair, pulled my head back and told me that he should beat the **** out of me. i would move in with my boyfriend, except they now have his address and threatened to hunt me down and bring the police the next time i left. since i am 16, i can live where ever i want, so this would normally not be a problem, but my boyfriend’s aunt would never allow me to live there. and i don’ t want to get my bf in trouble. i don’t know what to do... help?!?!?!
2007-06-02 05:23:03 · update #1
my boyfriend had problems with his aunt b4 i ever even knew him... his aunt doesn't even know about me. now my aunt kicked me out right after she found out she would not be getting temporary custody of me and therefore would not be getting the social security check that i get every month (b/c my real mom died). she made up a bunch of reasons like i was turning her whole house upside down, and i was manipulating my father against her. that is why i was kicked out.
2007-06-02 06:51:18 · update #2
Sweetie your in a very difficult situation have you tried thoose hotlines or going somewhere for help? Just an idea try 1-800-422-4453 and yes I believe you and your boyfriend are in love I got married at 16 maybe you two could find someone like a family member in a different state to stay with. I've never been in this situation but honey you have to follow your heart.
2007-06-02 05:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If school isn't out you could talk to your counselor. You could also turn your abusive parent/parents in to cps(child protective services) but that might get you taken out of the house and into state custody. While it would be a good thing to get out of the abusive situation I know at your age it might cramp your style to end up in a state shelter or foster home.
Of course the outcome would depend on any proof you have to this abuse.
It's great that you have a bf that cares but I'm with others that say you guys are too young.
You do need to tell someone about this though. A friend, teacher, counselor or neighbor.
2007-06-02 05:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by itsmesteph11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are 16 thats a big issue as you are under age, so even if you want to move out you cant do that they would get you back without any troubles and then they might hurt you also. But there is one thing that you can do which is inform the Social Services near your area and report the issue with them, but the disadvantage of this is that if they get you back by they i mean your parents they would be very very angry. To be on a safer side i would suggest that you maintain a low profile that is not give them a chance to hurt you. Try to not make it obvious that you went to meet your bf. You seem to be a nice kid but i think your parents are messing you up. But i would give you one advise if this continues for long take action call police, tell you teachers, tell the social services, you don't deserve this. I really hate the way your parents are behaving with you especially your dad how can he pull your hair, feel like beating the hell our of him. my suggestion would be to wait till you are 18 the day you are 18 get the hell out of there and start your new life, don't even look at them.
2007-06-02 05:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by james_007_400101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I have dealt with some situation like that..you are only 16 and your bf is 18 there is no question that he will get in trouble for letting you stay at his house because of the age I know things get rough but you are 16 gotta live at house and hope that things get better because if you leave house and go live with your bf and what if he changes...( it has happened to me before omg that was the worst feelings ever) so u gotta take everything in consideration talk to you parents do not run away from house coz you could end up in worst place...i know right now you just probably feel like you wanna get out of the house but think out side of the box.. hope this helped.. all this information was based on my own personal experience
2007-06-02 05:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by nick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should tell someone about your step mom she should not even TOUCH you! Second, why were you kicked out of your aunts house? If you were such a good student/person why did she kick you out? If you are in a abusive home you should tell a school counselor or someone with authority or talk to your dad about it if your comfortable. You really do need to tell someone what's going on and how you feel.
2007-06-02 05:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why did your aunt kick you out? You don't say where you are but here in UK, parents are legally responsible for their children until age 18 and if they run away, can be brought back home by the police or welfare authorities. You don't say why the house is abusive but if you feel under threat, you should contact the nearest child welfare agency and explain the situation
2007-06-02 05:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are really that abusive how about contact another adult or report them to the police and tell your story... i believe you should get out of your house immediately and what u told us about your step mom forcing you to give you boyfriends address is harassment i believe... i think you should move with your boyfriend or beg your aunt to live back with her...... but the missing link her is why did your aunt kick you out of her house? You must be doing something wrong... I suggest tell a police or something tho about your parents..Like talk to even a school counselor... and you have no right moving in with your brother that in a way is kinda of sick and abusive in its own way......girls need there privacy from guys u kno! i wish you good luck tho
2007-06-02 05:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by m.u.s.i.c♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of what you need to do is contact the child protective services in your area.. you don't have to live in a abusive household...specially since its becoming a problem at school i will as well suggest that you go to your schools counselor...they can often be of great help w/ providing necessary info on how to save yourself i know you love your boyfriend but the priority right now is you....don't allow your self to be abused that way anymore...once you are out of that situation then think of your bf and the life that awaits for both...you both are young but that don't mean that it can't last plz do as i say and contact local authorities....
2007-06-02 05:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than the fact that you are way too young to be living with your boyfriend, there are other reasons that running to your boyfriend may not be a good idea: One, it puts him at risk and brings your family problems to him, and two, his parents/aunt are obviously not okay with it, and you are causing trouble between your boyfriend and his family. Don't stress the one good relationship that you have - you can't turn to your boyfriend for help, here. You need to do this properly - you need to find another relative who will take you in for now. You need to focus on what is important in your life right now, and it's not your boyfriend, it's your future - your grades, college. Don't throw away your life for a boy. You can't focus on what's important in the environment that you are in now. You can always go to the guidance counselor and report the abuse. The government will step in and take you away from your parents and move you in with your closest relative (they do not uproot you and destroy your life, as you probably fear for). This happened to my younger brother and stepsister, so I understand the system. You have to make sure that your closest relative will be willing to take you in, in order to keep your life as normal as possible. But they will not send you to foster care if you have relatives who will willingly take you. The relative that you choose, who chooses you, must take classes in parenting and undergo drug and backround checks, so you might want to throw that past them. The government will send them money to take care of you, I don't know how much, but your parents will have to pay it back. They will remove all underage children from the house (so warn your brother if you decide to do this), and your parents will have to talk to police and psychiatrists and take all sorts of classes depending on their backrounds and the surveys taken by the police and child protection services. There will be court hearings and you will most likely be asked lots of questions and be sent to a psychiatrist for an evaluation. BUT YOUR LIFE WILL NOT CHANGE DRASTICALLY FOR THE WORST IF YOU TURN YOUR PARENTS IN. Personally, my father and stepmother were turned in by their neighbors. At first it was really hard because my stepmother was angry with me and wouldn't let me see my brother or my stepsister. But I knew they were safe at their grandma's, and that they were going to the same schools, and that my stepsister had all her friends for support. And the best thing is that my dad has been sober and drug free for almost eight months. It's the most amazing thing in the world. Sometimes, when you have everything taken from you, you realize that you have nothing left to use, and it shocks some sense into you. Maybe this will be that point in your father's life. I know that it helped my father, and I pray that he stays clean, because having him for the past eight months has been amazing. I wish you good luck with your life. Above everything, realize that school and grades and college are the most important things in your life right now, and that you deserve a supportive environment for these things. Good luck!
2007-06-02 05:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Skyla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call cps on your parents especially your step mom she has nothing to say about you or where you go . your dad is the only one that should be saying anything about you and as far as you moving in with your brother that is just wrong cause you are a 16 yr old girl and you need your privacy . I would most definately talk to a school counselor and maybe they can help you . But you need to talk to somebody because you are being abused . good luck .
2007-06-02 05:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋