what can you do so people have more respect for you?

Question

i think i always been too nice with everybody and people are sometimes using me without giving me back the same attention.its happening with girls,my friends,family sometimes... lm always there for them,never angry at them but i am at a point where l'm tired of being used. but at the same time i like to be there for them and i don't want to be selfish. i feel its hard to find a balance. any advice?

Answer 1

I hear you loud and clear and you know you have a kind heart like me and it's great to be there for people and I use to be there for everyone but like you I didn't get the same respect back period and I was so sick and tired of it. It was like when I needed someone's support there was no one there but yet they didn't have to ask me twice.

So what I did was just said **** this ****, I'm not doing it no more because people just don't appreciate **** and they just take advantage so i just learned to say no sorry I can't do it this time and I'm very sorry but I have things I need to take care of myself.

We all have things in life that we need to do and when we are so nice to our friends, family, etc and they have no respect for how far you put your heart out for them you have to stop right there.

I do things for people and help them out but not as much as I use to and by cutting them off and looking out for me and my family first when I do things for people anymore they really appreciate it and if they don't respect me or try to play me for a fool, I don't centre them out about it I just know better the next time what to say when they ask.

You need to just be strong with words that come from your heart and no matter how that person tries to make you feel stand strong in your decision and think about yourself first don't let people walk all over you because trust me if they know they can and get away with it they will never have respect for you and appreciate what you do do for them.

I don't know if this helped any but I have been there and I'm no weak link like I use to be, I have a heart but I limit my offerings.

Cheers.

Answer 2

Are you really being used in an abusive way, or are you just keeping score and feel like you're coming up short? If you're being abused, you have to give more details. If you're keeping score, the way to earn respect and admiration is to stop keeping score. If people think you're genuine, they will reciprocate eventually, unless you only hang out with very selfish people.

Some people will just take, take, and take, and you need to learn to identify and avoid them. That can be tough because the clever ones can make themselves attractive.

Answer 3

you are completely right... it is hard to find the balance. but there is a difference between being a doormat and being always there for them. a doormat has no feelings and gets stepped upon. but being there for someone doesn't mean never getting angry and giving all you have to help them. i'm really sorry but i can't help you by drawing a clear balance line, each person must draw their own line. it might help to figure out your priorities and remember it is ok to say no at some point.

Answer 4

1. Show respect to others.
2. Show intrest in them.
3. Listen what they have to say....with intrest
4. Give them.......sincere and honest compliments...(dont loose any opportunity of doing so).
5. Dont hv any kind of prejudices abt them......accept all type of characters you come across!!

Answer 5

Carry yourself respectively, by walking tall and proudly, it makes a difference. If you are female carry yourself gracefully!

Will S

Answer 6

i know how that feels and i think that u should tell whoever using u how u feel or just learn to day no to them they will get over it

Answer 7

now you're like a shinning star. don't let it drop into mud....
you are on the good motion....keep on going....