Please help!!- dream question?

Question

the last 4 nights in a row I've had dreams that my boyfriend and I break up, or broke up. They have seemed like nightmares and although they have been different dreams the pattern was the same- we break up- I go out and be promiscuous- I realize he's what I want- he won't take me back
everytime I've woken up crying
we have been having some problems lately, and he's moving to a college far away...please help!

the part that scares me is that after we break up- I want him back SO BAD.

Answer 1

To me it appears to be an expression of your anxiety about him leaving... and somehow you seem to be blaming yourself (being promiscuous in the dream).

We like to be in control (or at least have the illusion of being in control) of our lives and his having to move away is an uncontrollable fact. It appears that you are trying to bring control to the situation by blaming yourself subtly for his moving away.

It looks like your subconscious is telling you to accept that it's not your fault. That things do happen for which you are not responsible.

Just a stab in the dark - did the problems in your relationship arise after you came to know that he has to move away?

Here's another interpretation:
You seem to understand that long-distance relationships are difficult to maintain. It is a tough decision for you to continue in the relationship. You may even be worried that the distance may cause him to wander. By wandering yourself (albeit in a dream) you pre-empt that and make it his decision to end the relationship.

In either case, I think you need to give yourself permission to accept that you will be apart from him for a while. The relationship may or may not survive and that is certainly a cause for anxiety but what do we really know about the future anyway?

Answer 2

This kind of seems like an easy one. It looks as if a part of your mind is preparing you for the inevitable break-up. It's not so much a nightmare as it is something that most likely is going to happen.
If you have been having "problems" lately, that is most likely your boyfriend subconsciously trying to ease the pain he will most likely feel as well, by pushing you further away.
And lastly, the fact that you are promiscuous in your dreams and you wake up feeling bad about the whole thing shows that this is not the way you really want to react.
Good luck...

Answer 3

Seems like you have guilt conscience in some way. Projecting the feeling of wanting back shows how guilty you are in reality. Something may have happened recently about the relationship.

Either that or you may be feeling emptied and therefore you are projecting break up in your dreams. The pattern is the same because somehow you are not over with your subconscious mind. That may be due to guilty feelings of something you have done or felt in reality

Answer 4

quote:

Break-Up

To dream that you break up with your significant other, indicates that there is something in your life that you need to let go no matter how hard it may be.

To dream that you did not break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, suggests that you are still in denial about the break-up. Your mind many not have accepted the notion that the relationship is over.

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Answer 5

maybe it means its time to set up some boundries like a marrige/relationship will always go wrong if they stay to close for to long u need space sometimes a man needs space sometimes try to set a aside 1 2 maybe 3 days aside a week for u n ur girls to go out or him n his boys to hang out u no get some girl time for u and some boy time for him it will be a stress reliever and ull have fun

Answer 6

Dreams could be images of the thoughts(fears) we have in our mind. This dream represents the fear you have in your mind of separating from your boyfriend. Just try to get out of this fear,try to think positively as such nothing will happen to your relationship even though you won't be together physically.

Answer 7

awe you poor girl your probably reinacting how you feel in your dreams..... Real life can have that affect on your dream patterns tell him how you feel I'm sure he will understand and care if he really loves you. Just tell him...

Answer 8

let him go, he's not for you and your promiscuous behaviour to try and keep him is tantamount to sorcery....just let him go and find someone more suitable for you!

Answer 9

this it your body's way of telling you that you dont want him to leave. thats all. if you want him so bad, tell him, stay in touch, organize visits, that sort of thing.