There's this ultra rich and powerful man whose after me and I dont want him plus I'm afraid of his wife -she is pretty mean and I think she can seriously hurt me once she found out about her husband's crush on me. What should I do? He is not taking a 'No' for an answer.
2007-06-02 00:42:06 · 22 answers · asked by aishah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-06-02 00:50:20 · update #1
Hello my dear, I am a retired old bloke and am interested in the problems of youth. I was young myself once.
You have every right to be scared my dear, you play with fire and you will definitely get burnt badly here. I wonder if you have made it very clear to this man that you have no interest in him. If you have and he still is stalking you, go to the police and register your concern. A court order can be put on him to stay away from you.
This is a most dangerous situation and could easily involve murder. Treat it with the utmost care and make sure you are never in a position of being alone anywhere.
Do not delay, as if you do, you may not get another chance before this man takes to you with extreme violence.
I hope you take my suggestion my dear,
A concerned Grandpa
2007-06-02 00:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by Peter F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go live at someone else's house for awhile, without telling this man where you are, someone who does not know this man and this man does not know. Don't tell anyone where you went, unless you absolutely must tell (in case news leaks back to this rich and powerful man).
While you're at this other person's house, think about some possible solutions to this problem. You could try calling the police and telling them to keep an eye on him for you, or try calling some male friends to accompany you when you go out in public? Or you could pretend to already be in love...actually that might not be a good idea as you wouldn't want the guy you 'love' to get hurt by this man..
Just tell the man you don't love him, and if he really does respect you he will respect your wishes. Just because he's rich and powerful doesn't mean he should get everything he wants, or that he is always right.
All the very very best of luck!
2007-06-02 07:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by kimagain90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call his house when his wife is home alone and ask if he is there. When she says he's out, ask her to give him a message. Tell her that the test results are positive, but at least my visitor finally showed up... oh, and that little boy's parents aren't going to press charges until the police question the priest. Then hang up. She'll think its too strange to be made up and he'll be in a lot of trouble.
Either that or hire some dudes to jump him in an alley.
2007-06-02 07:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by mightydragon2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's ultra rich and you don't want him?? Wow! You must be a unique American girl/woman.
How are you encountering him, at work or "play"? If work, then you can visit your HR manager and ask him to intervene cordially; if he doesn't back off, then HR can handle it more professionally.
If it's at play, then you need to sever your encounters and avoid meeting him at any time, one-on-one. But take notes if you choose this course of action just in case the wife confronts you. This will allow you to prove, circumstantially, that you were trying to avoid him and not lead him on to you.
Restraining orders do work!
Good Luck.
2007-06-02 07:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Terry E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new number, if he knows where you live then totally skip him, this seriously is scary, I'd be freaked out. If you ever see him or he talks to you, just act distant but nice, just in case because he might hurt you, you never know. If he threatens you or something talk to the police.
Or maybe call his wife and say he is not leaving you alone, without saying who you are, because if she's mean then things are getting really scary.
2007-06-02 07:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is totally remove yourself from the situation.
I had this happen to me once. There are a ton of married guys in unhappy situations, and because they are weasel cowards, they justify their behavior based on their situations.
Any guy who f's around on his wife is a loser. And, trust me when I tell you, these people never find happiness. Don't believe one word of what this guy says to you....look at his actions. Tell him to leave you alone or you will contact his wife. And, tape record all his conversations, and if need be and he still doesn't leave you alone, then, take all the contact information and send it to his wife. You can get that crud to leave you alone....Just keep ignoring first and see if that works.
2007-06-02 07:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard about Harassment Charges???
It is not up to him to pressure into something that you don't want. You are giving him the power when you can't doubt yourself and aren't able to show that you can't stand up for yourself...
And if you are not interested and have nothing to hide then you shouldn't feel threatened by his wife. I think you should focus on what the problem is here. The problem is not his wife being intimidating, it is Him Harassing You!
2007-06-02 08:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of this situation--face your fears---be in control. Rich men seem to sometimes feel that they can have whatever they want--obviously he cannot have you. He sounds like a pig and a slug of a man. Stick with "NO" for now--stay away from him as much as possible.
2007-06-02 07:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he either backs off or you will tell his wife and go to the police and get a restraining order against him. That should do the trick!
2007-06-02 07:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by shesmore01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my. if you dont want him... he has to know that. dont flirt with him or lead him on in any way. dont answer his calls, dont talk to him, let him know you dont want anything to do with him. Make him take no for an answer, if he doesnt...tell his wife haha im sure if shes that mean she will take care of him....haha good luck
2007-06-02 07:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋