who will take care of you when you get old?

Question

your children or another place''

Answer 1

nobody

Answer 2

At the moment I have no children and all my siblings are older, so each month I pay money into the family trust, as I've always done and we all do that - it was set up to look after those in the family who have nobody to care for them.

Answer 3

I hope my children will otherwise the state will have to.

Answer 4

I'm a CNA at an eldercare facility. The elderly people I see there are very troubling. One woman will scream for a purse that she believes is missing--- although everyone knows she can't possible have a purse, as it is against our facility's policy to even bring purses to the facility. Another man will argue with someone, although there's no one there he's really arguing with. A lot of the elderly people get confused and get lost at least once or twice during their stay. We're always having to track down people within the facility, because they just wander off on their way to an event. We have to feed, change, bath, and care for these people as if they were oversized babies. I say that in the most loving way, because, while it's important work, I know that it takes away their sense of dignity and self respect, for the ones who do have some frame of mind. When you're talking about a nursing home, this is what you should be thinking of. A place where they will "nurse" you, nurse you as if you were a baby. It's sad, really. And no one visits. Trust me. Friends and family say that they will, and almost everyone swears up and down that they'll be here every day. Then every day becomes every week, a month, a few months... and then they just stop coming. It's sad for them to see their loved one slowly decline along with others. It isn't something I'd reccommend for anyone to go through, on both parts. It just plain hurts, I think.

My great aunt, on the other hand, lives in a retirement facility. The manager in charge takes great pains to look after all of the residents. She has her own apartment style housing in a closed-in motel-type setting. Someone visits her everyday. They help her order her medicine, they have transportation to take her to the doctors, they give her food so she can eat. All she does is tell me how much she loves it. She has friends, her family visits her, and they've got lots of activities for everyone. She really likes being there because she can retain her sense of dignity. My great aunt does not need assistance with daily activities, such as going to the bathroom and showering, etc.

If a family member is in this situation, you need to consider what their level of independence is. If that family member can do daily activities but needs help every once in a while, maybe you should consider a retirement facility. They can give that person the extra help they need. On the other hand, it that family member cannot take care of themselves on a day to day basis, then they really need to be taken care of daily. I would never reccommend a nursing home. I work there because it's my passion to help people, and because I love caring for these people. I know that not a lot of people do care for them anymore. Most of the patients have no frame of mind, most of the staff ignores them for the most part, and it's just terrible. If this were my family member, I wouldn't let it happen. I would take the family member in without a doubt, because if a family member is declining, you should at least allow them a sense of dignity in the meantime. I took care of my grandmother during her decline. She had her hips replaced and removed due to an infection and she was confined to a wheelchair. She was elderly, so she couldn't do any of her daily activities by herself. She raised me as a child, and I remember her watching me bathe as I played with my little ponies in the bathtub. And life just has a cruel twist of fate in that I ended up having to do the same things for her. I moved in with her, and I had to help her use a bedpan, I had to help her shower, and I had to cook, clean, and care for her. It was hard, but it was worth it. It was worth every minute to know that I returned all that she did for me, and it was worth knowing that I stood by her side in her final years and that I did everything I could to have her close to me before she died. And when she did die, she didn't die in a nursing home. She died at home, and she was surrounded by every single one of her family members. I wouldn't trade that for the world. Yes, my life was "severely affected," but everything that I thought would trouble me- changing her, dressing her, showering her- turned out to be moments that I wouldn't trade anything in the world for because I got one final chance to show her how much I loved her. And all I did was show her the same love for me that she showed me as a child.

I'm only 21, and my grandmother died recently, but I never want to be in a nursing home as a patient. The only reason I work there is because I know someone has to do this stuff, and I want it to at least be someone who cares. When I have kids, I hope that I will raise them well enough so that they'll feel the same way and they'll actually want to take care of me as I grow old. And if they don't, then that really will be all I will think about every single day as a stranger changes my diapers, dresses me, and bathes me. The only thought running through my mind will be "I did it for you."

Answer 5

Thats a hard question.
I do not intend to get that old! lol

Answer 6

your children if you respect them now