I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and it's like we knew each other for years now. We always agree on stuff and we love each other so much. He loves my 3 yr old son too(Not his son!). Last month he asked me if i want to marry him and i said i want to think about it. he said he was sure about his decision because he doesn't want to lose me since I'm leaving for Canada next month. He wants us to get married before I leave. Should i say Yes? I have the fear of losing him too if I'd say no. But I'm still confused. What should I do? 60% of me wants to say yes!
2007-06-01 20:47:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are not 100% sure that you want to spend everyday with this man, you are doing yourself and your son an injustice if you say yes. When a child is involved you have to be even more sure. You would not want your son to think of him as a father and then the marriage not work bc it was rushed. It sounds like you and your boyfriend really do love each other. If it is meant to be you can work through the distance or even make it where there is no distance. You deserve more than just a rushed proposal and engagement bc you are leaving. Ask your bf to take some more time to think about it and if he feels the same way, even after you are gone then you should accept. Then you can take your time and have the wedding you deserve. I think you two can make it work if you just don't rush into such a life altering decision.
2007-06-01 21:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by tired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, Mary and Joseph I certainly HOPE she says no to you. Anyone who agrees to marry someone without any prior discussion of the actual issues that comes up during a marriage is an idiot. Is she incredibly stupid? If so, then she'll probably say yes. You don't just get engaged. If you're actually serious about spending the rest of your life with this woman at least the respect to actually talk to her about it. On some level I kind of understand the whole wanting it to be a surprise thing, but this isn't a romantic comedy. This is the rest of your life you're talking about. This isn't something you do in a big grand gesture. This is something that you discuss like rational adults and make the decision together. Just really really really really don't do this to her. It's utterly unfair.
2016-05-19 01:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U said that 60% of u said yes but I say what about the 40% u should ask your self that if he is suitable for u because u should first of all have to listen both to your heart and to your brain.Because brain makes u the right decision and u should not forget that u have a son whom u have to look for.
2007-06-01 21:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ipsha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously not, if you have to ask yahoo answers whether you should marry someone the answer is no. Also, 5 months is not long enough to be with someone to introduce him to your son. You should be with someone well over a year before you even think about introducing him to your son. You son's well being has to come before you happiness. It's possible to have both but he comes first.
2007-06-02 06:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should say yes to the engagement, but tell him you want to wait to get married. not when you get back get to know it each other more
there are a million things you need to talk about before you get married
like do u want more kids , how many , where r u going to live, if you have more kids who is going to care for them, are you going to go back to work after kids are born , religious ?
there's a million things but
don't be 60% and don't be rushed
if he really loves you than he will wait 4 u
make sure he isn't rushing the marriage because of jealousy they will only lead to bad places.
2007-06-01 22:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by G O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% sure than you're probably not ready. It could very well be that he's afraid to loose you to Canada is the reason he's proposing in such hurry. Take your time. If you guys are meant to be not even time and space could be a factor. Good luck.
2007-06-05 11:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by cappuccino_lava 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say yes and whatever happens just get away from his life. Which is better for himself and you also. Because the person himself is not just the right person for you or anybody else. He is the person who takes advantages for his benefits only not the other person who stands opposite him, Whether they are his friends or the person who depends on him . Only think which matters for him is himself. In other words either he is selfish nature or who can't take decesions by himself . You decide now that whether he has taken the right decesion or not. You will get the answer .
2007-06-01 20:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by ramu s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not yet. You two should be dating for at least 18 months to two years before getting engaged. You HAVE to think of your son, and not just your love life. If it is REAL love (which, sorry, it probably can't be after just a few months), you won't "lose" him if you say no, if he seriously wants a future with you.
And by the way, welcome to Canada!
2007-06-02 01:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to Canada, if he is willing to spend the rest of his life with you he can wait for you to get back from Canada in a couple months. Give it time. 5 months is too soon.
2007-06-01 21:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie- please please dont do it.
You may love him and not want to lose him- but thats not reason to marry him.
Going into a marriage whenyour only 60% sure about it is just a recipe for disaster!
Why not just stay together and then if it works long distance you will truly know that you both are in love and meant to be together. Please dont do this.. you will get so hurt in the long run.
2007-06-02 04:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋