I love a girl who is older then me by 11 months.She also loves me a lot.But her parents are not supporting our relationship because of this age factor.Since I am from India and in my country usually Boy should be older then the girl he is marrying.Now Since her parent had raised this age issue so even she is in dual
mind about our relationship.She is afraid that we may have to face some personal problems in our relationship because of this age factor.I just wanted to know is there is any such issue related to age that might creep into our lives if we marry each other.I am pretty confident that she will be happy with me but she is not able to decide.
Does age really matter if two person's love and understand each other and can keep on well with each other.Is the age gap of 1 year really significant?
I would also like to mention that presently she is 26 and i m 25 years old.
Answers from Indians would be really helpful as they would understand our culture.Others views will also b helful
2007-06-01 20:38:28 · 22 answers · asked by Prakash v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Welcome to the West sweetie! I don't understand a lot of your culture. 11 months? Sheesh, no one here would flinch at 11 years, you married out of your caste, and she had no dowery.
A friend of mine married an Indian woman when he was a US Marine serving in India, 30 some years ago. Guess what? Ticked off her fam, his fam. They are still in love and had 2 wonderful children. Never had anyhing to do with them again.
2007-06-02 00:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Indian, and while I understand where you are coming from, 11 months is hardly something that should tear two people apart who love each other. Perhaps the real issue isn't your age. In fact, a very close family friend just got married, and he is younger than his wife. They both come from very strict Indian families, and age was never an issue for either family. As long as there isn't a huge age gap, there really aren't any good reasons as to why two people, who are close in age, who love each other, shouldn't get married. Honestly, if I were you, I would seek out the advice of someone at your local temple. If they tell you that the age shouldn't be an issue, then you can go back to your fiance's parents with good evidence as to why they should support the two of you. Good luck!
2007-06-02 10:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mala M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a local college who should be able to help. Not sue what the matric certificate is, but depending on what you eventually want to do job or career wise, GCSE's would be a good starting point, which can then lead on to AS or A levels. GCSE's usually take 1 or 2 years to complete, and you can do up to 9 or 10 (that would be a full time week though, not sure how that would fit in with childcare). You can also do part time courses in the day time, or evening course. You can do GCSE's in just about any subject, and if you like it and do well, continue it to A level and beyond. Try asking in your local library, they tend to have prospectuses or maybe even a careers advisor. It really is nver too late to go back to education, and I think you are making a really good decision. Hope it all goes well.
2016-05-19 01:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I am not from your culture, I can guarantee you that an age difference of 11 months will have absolutely no impact on your relationship...unless other people in your family make it an issue. If you love her and are happy, you are always going to regret not marrying her. This is your life and your happiness. Love is love and if you are both in love then you should be together and not let other people change your mind. We're talking about 11 months here! That is silly.
2007-06-01 20:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by DTott 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother married my father when she was older than him by a year, and it was never a problem.
It is unfortunate that your culture determines the criteria for which you must select your life partner.
If I were you I would listen to your heart.
11 months in the scheme of things is a blink of an eye.
Not only that, but women historically live longer than men, and are much stronger in old age, so ideally, if we were to choose a partner on the basis of age, the man should be at LEAST five years younger than his partner!
Honestly, a year is nothing, and I am sure that your family would just be clutching at straws if they got riled up over a mere 11 months!
2007-06-01 20:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by luby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pressure in the Indian culture to get married and follow all the rules seems very strange to Westerners. I find it odd that people do not marry for love. I would say do what you feel in your heart. If you care for her and she cares for you it will not be an issue. As soon as you provide her parents with some grandchildren they will have nothing to complain about. I am sure you have a lot of good qualities that will make you a suitable husband for her.
2007-06-01 20:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by opheliaissaved 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing bad is going to happen, as long as you love her very much and you can see your self having a happy life with her
I am 9 months older then my fiance, and we get along fine it doesn't make me controlling or think that i am the one to make all the decisions just because of 9 months, 11 months isn't that much different it is less then a year
i don't think you have anything to worry about as long as you marry her out of love
2007-06-02 05:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Firefighter_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference is 11 months? I'm marrying a man who's 9 years older than me...
2007-06-02 02:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by baebeecakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age shouldnt be an issue especially that little of a difference. now if she was 11 years older, you may run into issues but that is not your case. i dont understand the culture, not being indian, but the woman being older than the man in most cultures is not a bad sign. good luck.
2007-06-01 20:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, tell yr parents this is 21st century, and 11 months is not a problem. Its not like - she'll whip u or something. Tell yr parents u love her and will marry her no matter what. My parents are indian and my mom's 3 years older than my dad.
2007-06-01 20:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by sexychicklady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋