How can i be less shy/quiet?

Question

I often find myself in situations where i dont know what to talk about with a girl because im of a shy nature.Its just me.What should i talk about too?

Also, im doing dance classes and my partner thinks im cute and i know she wants to go out with me but i have to show her who i am and its hard to talk during practice. Suggestions?

Answer 1

Being shy/quiet is the way some people are. It is their personality. Try thinking of some things to talk about. It will be easier to start first around the people you know well. If you're going to a party, think of some conversation starters before you get there.

If you are naturally this way, accept yourself. It is hard to change your personality.

Answer 2

One easy way it to get involved in something you enjoy, like a hobby. Interacting with other people will gain you confidence. Start out with small things. This takes time and when you are just starting out you don't want to have bad experiences to ruin what progress you have made. Once you start getting more comfortable, maybe go into a sports bar. If you notice a game on TV go up and ask someone the score. Just try to make simple conversation to get this going. You will be surprised at how fast people will just keep on. LOL. All in all, just hold your head high and show everyone you are confident and just try to meet new people. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are suffering from self centered fear; shyness. You are far too concerned about what you think other people think you should be. Dare to be yourself. If someone doesn't like you for yourself, then you don't need them anyway and you can leave them behind. There are a lot of people in this old world and there are plenty of people who will like you.

Coming out of self centered fear is not easy and takes a lot of courage. You have a lot more courage than you think. Something that helps me is a saying that goes like this "It's none of my business what you think of me, it is my business what I know is true about me."

Also when you are with other people, instead of worrying about what you think they are thinking about you, concentrate on what you are thinking about them. Then you won't worry about what they are thinking about you.

Self acceptance is the key. Accepting your self for who you are right now. That you are okay today just the way you are. Yes you are learning and growing everyday, but you are okay now. God made you unique and gave you gifts and talents that are special to you. You don't have to have everyone Else's acceptance, what is most important is that you like your self.

Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself and you will be a winner. Be brave you can do it, you can come out of your shell.

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are, but I used to be VERY shy. People thought I was stuck up because I never talked to anyone. It may or may not work for you, but I took drama classes(in middle school). That actually helped! I really learned to talk with all kinds of people very easily by just being myself. I'm in college now, and people describe me as humorous and friendly, thanks to my drama class.

I suggest that if you are in school, take a drama class, or pay for one at you local community college. It forces emotion, even if it's fake, out of you.

Answer 5

why so shy. confidence is all you need. love yourself dont be afraid to speak up. but dont be all too much confident you know just right were people today wouldnt think youre wierd or anything. give them that perfect real act NOT fake. be yourself!

Answer 6

Be confident in yourself. You just have to know that you are capable of coming out of your shell, and when you do, you'll start to feel more comfortable. When someone is talking to you, listen to what they have to say, ask questions, compliment them. Goooood luck! (;

Answer 7

Talk more to people... Friendly one in the beginning who shares similar interest to you so at least you have something to talk about.

Answer 8

speak whats on your mind, don't be afraid to get out there, don't be afraid if you talk that someone might not like you, they don't like, then their not worth your time, just be yourself, and talk around little by little, just talk to people evne if you don't know them don't matter thats how you make new friends, and meet new people and who know's you never know who you might me ;) maybe that special someone =)

Answer 9

just speak. be more confidential. its okay, once you get the hang out talking louder, it will be cool :)

Answer 10

make confidence