i think somehow i am cursed or destined to be with the guys like my history with my first real b/f keeps repeating it's self. i dated him for 5 1/2 yrs, we were engaged we had a child then he turned into an abusive crackhead junkie. i finally dumped his *** and fell in love with my next b/f who i was with for 1 1/2 yrs then he turned into an alcoholic jerk who dumped me shortly after his 21st b-day so he could go to bars and meet women he then turned into a coke head. then my next b/f i dated for a week, he was just a drug head bad guy who wound up going to jail. then yeh another guy, i dated him for a month, but he wasn't bad at all, he was nice and sweet and he treated me like a queen but i felt absolutly nothing for him, no sparks no nothing. so i dumped him. so what is it with me? am i attracted to the jerks that i know r going to hurt me? right now i am seeing a guy i know is bad news for me. and yet i still go back. i know if i started a relationship with him i'm gonna get hurt
2007-06-01 18:29:30 · 3 answers · asked by Sweet Tartt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so now i am trying to maybe start something with the guy thats in my last question, the guy i used to work with because hopefully he will be the right guy for me and then i can just stop seeing the guy that i know is going to be bad for me. but lately i really don't know how to choose the right guy. it's like the one guy that was so nice and sweet i had no feelings for but the guy i know is going to hurt me me somehow i have feelings for which frickin sux because i want to be happy for once and i want my child to be happy. i hate being alone that is my main problem so i try to find the right guy and then when that backfires i go to th wrong guy. man someone please help me. i don't know how u can help me just try. please
2007-06-01 18:34:23 · update #1
I know how you feel... I'm asking myself the same question.... I don't know why... Maybe cause we're too good and they take advantage of us?
2007-06-01 18:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but he didn't just turn into a "abusive crackhead", he always was one you just choose to ignore that fact. Your problems are caused by your bad choices. For some reason you choose to look the other way and pick bad men. Fix yourself, stop going after the bad boy and start looking for a nice guy.
2007-06-01 18:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by mcglauflin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋