Why do parents NEVER allow thier kids to get any peircings?

Question

I remember having to beg my mom for years, just to get my ears peirced!
It's your childs body, and as long as they're not doing it becasue thier friends are you should let them do it. It's not expenceve and chances are the kid will take care of the healing process. If you dont let them get it done they will probaly try it themselfs, wich could have horiffic results. I just dont understand why parents don't let thier kids change thier own bodies. I would be totaly cool if any kids of mine ever wanted peircings, unless it had a chance of sinking back into thier skin, like neck peircings. Wich you cant avoid, if its going to happen it will happen. Now rents, tell my why you dont want your kid to express themselfs? ITs just a tiny hole..gawd.

Answer 1

IMO, a child's not able to make 100% of the decisions for themselves until they reach adulthood. I would NEVER allow my daughters to get a tatoo, but when my oldest turns 11 she will get her ears peirced for the first time.

Answer 2

It's not a tiny hole it's a fashion statement that is totally disgusting the only piercing their should be is in the ears. I can understand not having them for a while but eventually allowing a child to get their ears pierced when they're able to take the responsibility because at the time you may not have been responsible enough to take care of making sure the piercing was sanitized correctly to avoid infection. When I see someone with a lot of piercings whether it's on their stomach, lip, back of the neck, etc.... It's just a complete turnoff.

Answer 3

I'm with the majority, in saying it depends on the movie. It does sound like your mom was overly strict, and your future mother-in-law a little on the permissive side. I think it's very cool that the ratings now, unlike the system when we were kids, explain why the rating was given. I'm most likely to veto movies with gory violence or sexually explicit content, and least likely to forbid movies with swearing. Older movies are sometimes rated R for no reason I can determine. I'm also more likely to make exceptions when the movie is very high quality, or there's educational value (the violence and nudity in the Amistad is an example.) My kids are 10 and 13, and I allow my daughter (the older one) to watch a few, prescreened R movies, but only at home. (things are much scarier on the big screen!) I think I've let my son watch one. Because we watch them on DVD, I also have the option of skipping a scene. We also talk about the movies--especially anything upsetting. Of course, even some PG movies can be plenty upsetting. I still remember seeing Tess of the D'Ubervilles when I was 10. Yes, it was from a classic novel, but it was more upsetting to me than any horror movie would have been! So you still have to police it, even with the help from the ratings board. Sorry for the long answer--fun question.

Answer 4

It's not the child's body. That is a grave mistake.
The parents made it, gave it life and most importantly: They are responsible for it.

If the child hurts itself, the parents are responsible and accountable because they should have looked after the child.

It's a bad idea for a child to drink paintstripper, or to get pregnant at 13 years old.
If the child decides that any of these things are a good idea, the child has just demonstrated it is incapable of making such decisions.

By the same token piercings involve a lot of extra factors: How society looks upon piercings. Risk of infection. How much peer-pressure is a factor.
Children can not judge these things.
All they know is that they 'want' something.
It is up to the parents to protect children against things they don't fully oversee - even though they 'want' it.

Answer 5

Well I am pregnant with my first child. I have always said and still do that around 15 or 16 I will allow my child to start having piercings other then their ears. Personally I don't mind piercings, because they can always be removed. I myself have snakebites and just took my belly ring out because I am pregnant. However, it also depends on the maturity of the child. This is how I feel now, but who knows 16 years from now my opinion may very well change. Tattoos I will not allow my child to get until they are 18. Tattoos can't just be removed like a piercing if the child gets a job or decides they are all of a sudden bored with it.

Answer 6

well once against i'm odd parent out. I would not mind if my child wanted a piercing. My only stipulation is they have to be well educated on taking care of them, the risk, and would have to explain why they wanted them * because so and so did is not a reason*. As far as tattoos i dont see why not again if they are educated, and can explain why they want one. Age would play a factor they would have to be over 14 yrs of age to get anything other than ear pierced. I am all for self expression, as long as you know what your expressing. I have a tattoo on my left shoulder on a tombstone that says cowboy up. I also have a tattoo on my ankle of a snake biting a black heart with red tear drops. I can explain what they mean to me. Why i got them and what they represent. IF my children can do that then i'm all for it. The only tattoo neither will be allowed is a person's name. I remember when i was in high school girls taking a razor blade and carving the boy of the week name into their body. I found that too be ridicilious and immature. It is their body, and as long as they respect themselves, and me i dont see the harm.

Answer 7

Hi
OK from a momma's opinion, FIRST anytime you invade the skin you are creating an area that can easily become infected and most piercings are on the face, head, tongue,area close to eyes, ears, brain. These can become serious and even deadly very quickly, because most teens don't want their parents to know that there is a problem they hide it until it has gotten very bad.
Did you know that under your tongue there is a vein that goes directly to your heart? so an infection in your mouth could kill you?
and number 2 honestly too many ear piercings don't look good, belly button piercing are fine,when you are at a certain age like 18??? or older. why would you want other piercings to ruin the beautiful smooth skin God gave you, believe me time will put enough scars and wrinkles on it that you wish you could remove *smile* wait until you are a legal age and then if you are still dead set about this then you can make your own choices but know what you are doing BEFORE you do it. make educated choices. take care

Answer 8

I had the opposite problem lol. My daughter was terrified to get her ears pierced. She's 12.5 now and finally got them done for her last birthday, but only cuz her stepdad went with her and got his done at he same time. I can't pierce mine that's why I didn't take her. I agree with you that piercings are just holes and if left alone can close so if the t(w)eeneager decides they no longer wants them they can just let them close. I personally have 3 tats(first one at 17, currently 31) that are in places that are usually covered(upper arms and shoulder) and wouldn't have a problem with my kids getting them, provided they paid themselves(or as birthday or christmas gifts) and did the research on how to take care of them and really put the thought into what they were getting.

Answer 9

...There's "self'expression", & there's noise; static; & confusion. To many parents, piercings look like so many more "holes in a kids head"- not exactly what they wish their child to portray to the larger world. Eventually- when that kid becomes totally Independent- he or she can get all the piercings, tattoos & whatnots they desire. But as long as the Parent has the power of the purse, and has to look at the kid they worked so hard to bring up, take care of & love, most of them don't want to have to deal with that which they don't believe in. So the kid has to deal with it- or move out & take their chances. That "tiny hole" can't be THAT tiny- if everyone's making such a big deal about it (including you). :)

Answer 10

These are my rules. As long as you are under 18, you are not allowed to have any piercings(I have boys, ears are out of the question) or tattoos..they are tacky and disgusting. I spent four days in labor, have a hip to hip gash across my stomach, I still get to choose what you can do with your body.

Once you turn 18, you can do whatever you want with your body.

Answer 11

Because kids tend to be irresponsible and if they get an infection at the site of the piercing it could lead to major trouble. I have a girlfriend who had to have the skin around her navel completely removed and skin from her leg grafted on and restructured to make a navel because her bellybutton piercing became infected and she didn't have it taken care of until it was too late. My rule of thumb is not responsilbe enough to take care of it you're not going to get it piereced or tattooed. It's NOT just a hole...it COULD be an amputation.