Are anti-depressants my only choice now?

Question

I'm in a bad relationship which I'm trying hard to patch up. Might be bad from my end only. Either way I'm feeling like everyone blames me for their problems. That because of my past faults, I can't make it in life. Everyone tells me I'm a failure so I know I am now. Recently, my doctor gave me some antidepressants because I broke down and cried in his office. Now here is where the problem is. I don't believe in taking medicine to fix my life but rather work hard and make myself happy with myself. But anymore I feel people are coming down on me so hard, I can't smile anymore, I don't laugh much now. I feel like nothing will be better and life is a dull drag on to carry until the end. I'm not suicidal, but I feel like life is boring, uneventful, and no one gives a crap about me anymore.

see. I'm not on the antidepressants yet, I don't want to start something that a) wont help b) i will rely on or c) has side-effects I wouldn't like ..

I was given a paxil type of medicine... I know my nephew (not blood related) took this and he went wacko after about 3 months..

Answer 1

I have that problem too. But you have to keep on going through hard times and live life that way you want too. You need to lose those people who make you feel bad and let the ones who make you feel good it. You are made for a purpose you just got to find it. You must stay positive and no one should have the power to make you feel low about yourself since you don't live for them you live for you and only you. No one should have that control over you since you should be control over your life. Even ways I won't use anti-depressants since you can get addict easy if you use it too much. You should go to group sessions since you won't feel that you are alone and the can help you get your feel out. Plus everything not your fault and if is their problems it is their fault not your. Even if you did things in the past that is in the past not now.

Answer 2

This story is all too familiar to me as this is where I was at several years ago -- it may not be that you would use the meds to 'fix' your life, you may just be better able to deal with things if/when you take them. I got on medicine when I was 19/20 (bout 6 years ago give or take) when I was in college. I recognize that I've had the need for them since I was about in middle school, but this is when things got the worst -- I got divorced, was in school because I couldn't think of what else to do, ended up right back in an unsatisfying relationship. I was miserable. The medicine didn't fix everything automatically -- it just helped to quiet the constant negative inner monologue that was making everything worse.

Now -- the first medicine you try may not work. Don't be afraid to ask for something different.

I have anxiety-based depression so I take Effexor (also took Serzone and loved it but it's off the market). My husband took Wellbutrin because he doesn't have the same prob w/ anxiety as me. Something like Prozac doesn't touch my problem at all -- I need that extra 'something' for anxiety.

Pair the medicine with some counseling and you might very well be on your way to brighter days.

Some don't have to take meds as a long term solution, but I recognize that I am someone who will (depression, etc runs in my family, bla bla bla, etc) and I'm ok with that.

Don't feel guilty about whatever you choose -- it's your life and you have the right to do what it takes to be happy -- whether that comes from 'within' (people were always telling me to 'know myself' 'love myself' and all that junk but no one could ever give me directions!! :-), without, or a little bottle from the drug store.

:-)

Answer 3

As much as it will hurt you, break off the bad relationship. Forget about patching it up. You are only trying to patch it up because you are believing that it is your own fault that the relataionship is bad and you don't want another failure. What you need is to get rid of all the old BAD stuff and get a totally new look at life. So get rid of all your old clothes, your old boyfriends pictures, anything that reminds you of old failed projects. You have to start new, you are a lady, expect those around you to treat you as such and do not put up with less. Get your self-esteem back and your confidence. Keep a good mind-set. If you don't think the President or the Queen of England would stand for such stuff then don't you take it either. Treat yourself great, don't think bad things to yourself, you are a good person, so start treating yourself good. Get yourself a guy who will treat you great, a giving person, stay away from the takers.

Answer 4

Maybe what you can do is this: think about what others have said about you and consider if it's constructive or destructive.

If it's constuctive, work on improving yourself. It's ok if you've failed in the past or if you haven't exactly been a model of good behavior or what nots. Everyone makes mistakes. What ultimately matters is whether you're able to learn from your mistakes and move on with your life.

However, if the people around you have been putting you down to make themselves feel better or just for the fun of it, I suggest you put a distance between yourself and these people. It's not healthy to be associating with such people anyway because if they were truly your friends, they would not be putting you down so badly.

Instead, find people who make you feel good about yourself but will not hesitate to remind you when you go off the path. Do things that you know you're good in or even volunteer your time to charity organisations.

Whatever you do, you mustn't be too critical of yourself. You have to learn to forgive yourself and know that when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.

Don't think too much if it ain't gonna help matters and as for your relationship problems, perhaps it's time to sit down with that significant other and talk things out. A relationship needs two hands to clap and you shouldn't be the only one trying to patch things up.
Ganbatte kudasai!

Answer 5

People do care about you or they would not be concerned enough to even comment on your life...... You need to be on your meds.... You have a chemical imbalance nothing wrong with that you just do..... Usually it takes a few weeks for these drugs to start working some can take as long as 4 weeks..... So if you just started taking the meds give them time to work.... And call your doctor and let him know what is going on you may need your dose changed or a new med. You should not have to feel this way...... Talk to your doc Good luck!

Answer 6

I've been there and I occasionally come back for a visit. I agree with you on the medication thing too, I made myself better by myself through hard work and forcing myself to have a positive attitude. One way I found self worth (besides having kids) was to volunteer to help those in need, you see people in situations that are much worse than yours and when you help someone out of that situation or even if you make their life a little bit easier it is very rewarding and helps you remind yourself of your self worth.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

any sort of depression can be tide over by faith in GOD and sincere prayer.

Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation

Answer 9

Pills alone will not cure the depression you describe.

But the depression you have spoken of can cloud your mind and judgement and emotions and dreams or abilities to see your future in positive hopeful terms. It can cloud your mind, discernment, and hinder your ability to make choices and decisions and actions.

Here's an analogy.
Having depression is like having a flat tire.
Leaving the car in it's depressed-down position it's next to impossible to pull off the flat or to fit on the spare.
Jacking-up the car with the use of the jack / medication, allows space for the flat tire to slide off, and the full tire to find its way into place.

In much the same way, the medication assists you to level-out and works to stop the downward spiral of thoughts and emotions and abilities. Once stabalized (on the jack) you are more able to view your areas of need and to address them, making decisions and acting on them to regain your health.

Answer 10

Antidepressents are just a tool to help you feel better and more able to deal with life. Combine that with you working on yourself and you will start feeling better. Stop worrying about people who are judging you. You are better than they are because at least you aren't putting others down. Find better friends and surround yourself with people who will support you and not tear you down.