girls? about first time?

Question

k i dont care what age you lost ur virginity...but if you lost it around 16 or 17 did you regret it or not??? coz im kinda thinking about it...but so many people say im too young (turning 16 this yr) and that ill regret it...wat do you think?

Answer 1

I was 16 - at the time, it seemed like a natural progression of things, and everyone else was doing it. It made sense that after a certain period of dating, that would happen next.

However, I'm 29 now and I might say I wish I'd waited. Because I wasn't ready for all the stuff that came after it. I wasn't ready for how I'd feel when he didn't call, how I'd feel when my period was late, how I'd feel when he'd discuss intimate details with whomever. It's not to say he was a bad dude, either. It's just, your teenagers. People talk. They "trust" each other. But I tell you this - that first pregnancy scare? That? At sixteen? Hell yes I wish I'd waited.

I also feel that, now that I really care for someone, I understand what it means to "give" someone your virginity. I think sex is phenomenal, but I think it's a very big deal, and should be a very big deal for the person who takes it as well. I wonder sometimes if I'd feel differently about myself and my worth if I'd waited.

Answer 2

I was 16 and looking back, I realize it was too young. I know now that I had a lot of growing up to do, and I should have waited and learned a lot more about myself. I can see now that I did it for the wrong reasons, and that I was looking more for security and comfort than passion. You couldn't have convinced me of it then, though! :(
Another thing I regret, is that starting so young made it harder for me to learn to enjoy sex, physically and emotionally. It wasn't until I'd been married over a year that I started to have orgasms and really enjoy myself.
So if in doubt, don't. You think you're mature enough to handle it, I'm sure, as we all do at that age. It isn't until later that you find out how much growing up you still have ahead of you, and by then the damage is done. Once you do it, you can't take it back, so I really suggest you wait.

Answer 3

Look at it this way - you will always have the chance to lose your virginity, but you will never get it back. You probably have 60+ years left of life to live. Will you regret having sex? The likelyhood is that you won't like this guy forever. If you don't think sex is anything but a biological act, go for it - but since you are questioning whether or not you should do it, it seems as though sex is more than about physical pleasure for you. I'd say wait. You don't know what the future holds.
- a happy 18-year-old virgin =)

Answer 4

I was 15, and I do not regret it. I had dated the guy for a year and at the time we really cared about each other. I was on the pill and he used a condom just ot be safe. I knew I was ready when he and I could talk about all aspects of sex and could deal with the outcome. That means are you ready to talk about having a kid, an STD, and all the emotional baggage that sex brings. If you feel ready and you really care about this person, then I say go for it. If it is not love or you are not ready for any of the above...then I would wait.

Answer 5

When I was in highschool I remember wondering the same thing. As I didn't have any older sisters or anyone to ask, I actually talked to one of my teachers (she was only a few years older then me at the time and really great)

She gave me great advice that I really took to heart. She told me that boyfriends may come and go, but you will ALWAYS remember your first time.

So when you are contemplating if this is the right time and the right guy, ask yourself, is this the way I want to remember it in 10 years, 20 years, etc. If this isn't a memory you will be totally proud of, then why not wait for a bit? Afterall, there isn't any need to rush this.

Also, when you decide that the time is right for you, please please please use a condom. And talk to your partner BEFORE about his experiences, if he could have any diseases etc. And for the sake of your heart, talk about what both of your expectations are. Does he love and respect you or is he looking for a friend with benefits? It doesn't matter so much what the answer is, so long as you both are on the same page.

Hope that helps.

Answer 6

Been there, done that. Afterwards I waited nearly 8 years before trying again (I was very young), this time with the man who became my husband. Regret it? Hell yes! Would never advise such a young woman to try it. It left me feeling used, dirty, and unhappy that I couldn't ever go back. But it had as much to do with the circumstances, and with who, as anything else. Think long and hard, and don't do ANYTHING unless you are sure it is right for YOU. Don't give into pressure, especially if he says "If you loved me, you would" because if he truly did love you, he would wait until it was right for you.

Answer 7

Wait: until u think ur w/the right person. I lost mine at the age of 15 and boy if I could turn back the hands of time and take it back I would b/c I hate the guy I lost it too, matter of fact I don't even talk to him anymore and sure as hell don't care too.

Answer 8

I was 17. I don't actually regret it. But if I had a chance to do it over again maybe I would have done it differently. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you are doing it because you want to and not because you feel pressured. Once you lose it, you cannot get your virginity back so make sure the situation feels right to you. If you have doubts maybe you'd want to wait until you are sure it is what you want to do.

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Answer 9

Wait until you are old enough to know that you are in love (really in love) with the other person. Having sex these days is really risky. You will either end up having a baby that you can't take care about or end up with a disease that you cant get rid of and could kill you. Enjoy being a child as long as you can because once it's gone , you can't ever get it back.

Answer 10

Don't do it until you are absolutely sure you want to be intimate with that person. Its a very special thing, and you don't want to just give it up to anyone. My friends lost theirs around that age, and since have moved on from their partners and into other relationships, they regret it, and they wish that they would have waited and done it with either their current boyfriend, fiance or husband.