I really like this guy but i don't know if he likes me...what do i do?

Question

i dont wanna just go ask him out because i dont want him 2 say no. i've had very bad past experience and i dont wanna have to go through stuff like that again...

Answer 1

Allow me to start with a poem I wrote several years ago, when thinking of a similar event that happened to me when I was in grade school, and then offer you additional advice:

The Crush

When I, a boy of youthful years,
Filled with frightening, daunting fears,

Did spy a young and lovely lass,
Who occupied my same sixth class,

Allowed my doubts to seize my tongue,
So that I could not tell her once,

How much her presence moved my spirit,
Yet verbalize, I could not bear it.

My qualms controlled me so much so,
She slipped away, I watched her go

With other guys (I envied them),
How could I be a better man?

When I, a man of older years,
Wiser now, with fewer fears,

Saw the same girl, older now,
Who still stood out amidst the crowd.

Approached her now with much more courage,
(Perhaps it comes with years of marriage),

My lips moved freely and with ease,
Articulated I was pleased

To finally tell her how I’d felt,
The crush I’d had, and how I held

Her image always on my mind,
How I lost her far behind.

My speech complete, she did not sigh,
But hugged me close, and then she smiled.

Her last words told me what I’d missed,
“Why then didn’t you tell me this?”

You see, fear restrains us like a binding, restrictive force that it is, and keeps us from enjoying things that could, if we did not listen to our insecurities, our lack of confidence and our fear of rejection.

My advice to you is to begin talking with this person. You don't need to just blurt it out that you like him, or that you have this crush on him, etc., but guys are not that dense to know that if a girl begins talking with him, there is obviously some attraction factor going on.

Don't force the relationship, but let it evolve naturally. If he ends up beginning to like you, good for you. If not, well, don't fear failure, and don't limit your wonderful experiences just because you've experienced negative results. I like to use the example of Thomas A. Edison, who tried thousands of experiements to find the right combination of materials that would produce a light bulb that would burn for an long time. His response to all his failures was interestingly positive. Had he given up after a few tries, who knows what could have happened.

Don't be so restrictive on yourself, and allow yourself the freedom and laterality to fail or make mistakes. That is how we learn, grow, mature, and become wise and interesting adults.

Good luck, and if this person turns out not to be the one for you, don't fret, as I am sure there is this wonderful person out there who is perfectly suited just for you. You WILL find him.

Answer 2

There are two ways to approach this. One you can just approach him and ask him. If he says no then oh well you will find another ( I assure you) but at least this way you know and can move on with your life. the other way is a simple head game. talk to his friend right in front of him. If he gets involved in the conversation without getting invited then there is a good chance he is interested if his attention is somewhere else then he isn't interested and you should just move on.

Answer 3

You should try to be friends with him and get to know him slowly. I find it is better when you get to know someone as friends before you decide to date someone. It is better than trying to rush things.

You can ask him to lunch as friends only. Tell him you like him as a person and want to get to know him as friends, like doing things with him once in a while. IE..... bowling, going out to eat, movies. Tell him you just want to hang out sometime. That way it is not threatening and you both can get to know each other slowly. You can do a group thing also, which is non-threatening also. Have a cookout and invite him along with others. A great idea is to go and volunteer somewhere like at a food pantry and see if he would like to volunteer with you.

Someone who rejects you may not be worth your time. They may have different wants and needs and you should not be afraid of being rejected. We are all rejected at times in our lives and it doesn't feel good. It is not the worst thing that can happen to us. We have dissappointments and then we move on. It just means that there is something better around the corner and that it isn't the end of the world. Be more confident in yourself that rejections will not hurt you.

Just tell yourself, I am bummed, but I will live and I will try again with whatever it may be. Don't let someone who rejects you turn your self confidence down. You are a good and smart person. We all have bad things happen to us. It is up to us how to look at it and go on. You can choose to be negative about the situation, or you can find good in something that has happened to you and move on to do good for others.

I have had bad experiences in my lifetime, but I choose to not let it get me. I am a better person for those things that have happened to me. I do not choose to say poor me, and expect others to always do something for me, as I have met others that do do that.

I know that people who are molested can turn out going out and being promiscuous with everyone. I didn't do that. I could have hated every man because I was raped, but I chose not to be negative and I chose to be an advacate to others with the same type of experiences as I have had. I have learned that to trust someone, I have to let go of the past. I had to forgive those who have done things to me or I wouldn't be able to move on.

Hugs to you for whatever has happened and I know that you will make good choices in your life. Just move slow and expect everyone you meet that they will be just friends. If something else develops later in life, then that will be a pleasant surprise.

Answer 4

everything is all about giving each other times. maybe u should just talk to him. do not ask him to hang out wit you if u really like him that much. thats a guy thing to do. girls should always be speical. do u have any feelin that he might like u too.? guy sometimes just playin around u know. u should always believe in urself. DONT RUSH THINGS.IT WILL ALWAYS BE WORST IF U DO. good luck

Answer 5

I would get to know him better and see if you two have a lot of things in common, and then after a month or so ask him what he would think of you two as a couple.

Answer 6

ah...are not getting that loopy appropriate to the "like" at your image who's established with if he did it via mistake or have a crush on you and he's only too shy to ask you out... the sole ingredient i counsel you to do .... "is to ask him for some help in an equation(or something)" and via which you ll examine his reactions to you, and you ll get on the brink of him, (only locate an excuse to get to renowned him)

Answer 7

There are different levels of "like". Are you both looking for relationships or just fun? Find out from his friends what he thinks. If it sounds good then go for it!

Answer 8

Then you need to get to know him really well like to the point that you two are super comfrotable around each other. Once you get to that point, it will be easy for him to admit that he likes you. And it would be super easy to identify. It works. I've done it before.

Answer 9

Stop being afraid and talk to him. Ask him out later; first be his friend and find out about him. Don't be shy. Sure you may be hurt but it's the only way to find out. What if he may be the one?

Answer 10

Flirt with him repeatedly.Don't be shy. Show him you like him without actually telling him. If he is interested, he will ask you out.