okay well my x boyfriend now one of my friends is on drugs, hes 14 and has been on them since he was like 12 he smokes and drinks too. he doesnt see anything wrong with it, he says its the only time he is happy. i told him that he needs to stop cause its bad. he says they cant hurt him. but can they? i dunno how they can but i need a good reason to make him stop even though he doesnt want to. he is athest so the fact that god thinks its bad means nothing. he doesnt care if he dies he want to be dead and is like suicidal. i dont know what to do. i want to help him but i can't. he can only help himself but he doesnt want to. his dad died when he was 10. he cant remember stuff that happened yesterday he never sleeps more than an hour a night. he is clepto and pyro and depressed. can someone please help me. he hasnt told anyone but me. i dont know what to do. i have no idea...
2007-06-01 16:53:16 · 12 answers · asked by nicole 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
kay the fact that he could die doesn't matter to him. he freeking tried to kill him self with a shoe lace! what am i suposed to say to him?
2007-06-01 17:04:31 · update #1
besides the fact that you can die from it. . .
you can(and will) get arrested and it can affect your future kids, your grades, and so much more
life is so much better without drugs
he has to realize that he isn't just hurting himself, he's hurting you and all the other people around him who care about him
he needs to understand that a temporary "happy" feeling is incomparable to the real thing which is living a long and healthy life to spend more time with the people who love you and you love
tell his mother, and get him some help. i know its a hard thing to do, because you will feel bad for turning him in, but sweets he will thank you later. trust me as i've been in a similar situation, the best thing for him right now would be for you to get him some professional help, you shouldn't have to deal with this burden alone.
try an intervention. it doesn't always work, but you have to try and make him see that he's not only hurting himself, but he's hurting everyone around him.
i hope everything works out
2007-06-01 17:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by xsupergirl245x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's self medicating his depression. He needs to get help for depression. I would mention it to his mom or a counselor at school and tell them it is serious. If he gets help with the dpression, the other behaviors might go away on their own. And if he deals with his drug use with the counselor, they can't report him to the police because of privacy laws. This is too big a problem for you. You have to tell a responsible adult or he may spiral into suicide.
Some drugs can cause permanent brain damage (for example, meth.) Others cause cancer (smoking pot) and some others can react with certain people's chemistry and cause death even though other people do just fine. Also, street drugs aren't always pure, they get other stuff, sometimes poisonous stuff, mixed in. A younger person doesn't have a fully developed brain, so even alcohol can mess the brain up so they never develop their potential. Actually, it is proven that a brain isn't fully mature until age 25.
Please tell a responsible adult who can and will do something to help him!
2007-06-01 17:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay wow i can kinda commit to u on the whole Friend depression thing but. reasons not to do drugs; a hefty fine+jail time = soap with rope, (your Friend at the age of 14) your brain doesn't stop developing until your well over 19. I am 16 have been a druggie been arrested for smoking 2 times chaught over 8 times and people will shun him for it. Ive done almost everything except PCP, tcp, and meth (nonperscribed) and it would mess with your mind i used to be great at remember peoples names but now nothing and i regret every drugg ive done. So if you have to slap him. Tell a adult because hes 14, theyll get him the help he needs for the druggs. The suicidal part theres nothing you can do he most likely is trying to get attention from you or from someone else, trying to fit in with what he thinks is cool (so just ignore this or if you realy think he might [and if hes sayin well i dont want to live just ignore it] or If your realy worried tell some one who will do what needs to been done). As for the pyromanica thats okay =D just tell him to watch what he burns and make sure its not illiegal.><
2007-06-01 17:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Inquizitive Kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you and our ex have never seen a homeless person sleeping in a doorway or a prostitute working a street corner? Most homeless people are drug addicts or alcoholics. Most prostitutes sell their bodies to make money to support their drug habits. A good percentage of our prison population are there because of crimes committed to support drug or alcohol habits.
Where is your friends mom? Can't she see the destructive road that he is headed down? The only thing that I can suggest is that you go to your school counselor and tell him or her the whole story you just told us and possibly they could contact the right people to get him into a rehab center or into some serious counseling to help him out. Your friend is going to be lucky to make it to 18 if he stays on this destructive path.
2007-06-01 17:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
glad to hear he is just your friend now. too much drama there. his family needs to help him. not you. help yourself by staying away. if his family doesn't know about his problems, decide on a way to tell them. i knew a guy who didn't get help, he overdosed on lsd and suffered permanent brain damage. now he wears a skirt, drools and urinates in public. he can't hold a job, he is actually mentally disabled. your friend does want to live and does care. if he didn't he would have already done himself in. so, he wants attention, he is sad about his dad's passing, etc. he is numbing himself because he doesn't know how else to cope. a good psychologist can help. he needs to stay in therapy for a while.
2007-06-01 17:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by irenekanderson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once you start drungs, drinking, smoking etc. its really hard to quit especially if you have depression problems and other issues which makes it really hard on your friend. YES drugs, alcohol and smoking are very bad for your health. ifs hes serious about being suicidal you really need to talk to him. no one should feel that way about them selves. He definately needs to quit and start thinking straight and possitive about himself, he should care if he dies because it will not only effect him but other people who care about him. he needs help and you should definately talk to him, or find someone who can talk to him. just make sure hes comfortable
Good Luck
2007-06-01 17:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by alah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his mom she needs to know shes responsible for him if any one can MAKE him stop its her. If not her rat him out to te cops on a drug buy or something. He will end up dead or in jail if you dont
2007-06-01 16:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will suffer brain damage from using drugs, if he doesn't die from it. It is a slow agonizing death
2007-06-01 17:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can kill you and also give you cancer. he needs some help from a doctor you should tell some it is for is own good.
2007-06-01 17:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by candiekisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋