Everytime I try to play a board game with my girls (ages 8&9) it turns into a disaster, they jump around and yell and throw the cards and bump the table and knock the pieces over, is it wrong of me to not want to play board games with them anymore?
2007-06-01 16:50:23 · 22 answers · asked by pumpkin2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
we were playing Candy Land, they are the ones who asked me to play.
2007-06-01 18:29:01 · update #1
You should give them a couple of warnings when you play a board game.
Try playing with them again and give them Warnings.
1) Play nicely or Mommy isn't going to play any more.
2) Give them Another Warning and tell them that their going to go to their room for a couple of min.
3) Tell them your not going to play any more and walk away.
When they want you to play tell them "Remember the mess you made the last time when I wanted you to play nicely?" and maybe sit down and relax or go to your room.
2007-06-01 16:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by ScarletBloodDoll 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad mom. What causes the disaster, though? Are they not interested in the board games you have? Some are so involved and complicated that kids get bored and antsy. Are you playing at a tense time, like are you trying to multi-task, cooking dinner at the same time as you play the game, or when everyone is tired? Are they fighting with each other? Do they have trouble with competing, winning and losing? (Are there times, at least at first, when you can play a game with one of them at a time? They also may not like the same games. One of mine likes checkers; the other never wants to play it.)
One of my kids' favorite games of all time is the very simple card game Uno.
EDIT: Even though they're the ones that chose it, maybe Candyland is a little young for them and is not holding their attention?
2007-06-02 00:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by TaDa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 10 yr old and a 9 yr old. I have taught them about being a good winner, as well as being a bad loser. In my house, if we are playing a game and they begin to disrupt the game it goes up. The second time the game goes in the trash. * they have to throw the game away together*. Now i can play a game with them, and they know you dont always win, you dont always lose. Its been some time since we threw a game out, after 2 or 3 they got the message. Good luck mom . its time to nip that behavior before they get out of control.
2007-06-05 13:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong that is just feeling frustrated.
You may want to play outdoor games instead of board games . Let them pick the game. If they pick different games then play them one at a time.
Make sure the games are on their level. They may be feeling overwhelmed themselves with all the complex rules.
How about Uno? Either vesion old or new one that spits out the cards.
2007-06-02 00:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shawntay B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they start to act up put the game away. Make them pick up the mess. Tell them (before you start) that you will do this. Explain to them that you do not play games with persons who are acting like this (ie. brats). I would refuse to play with them for about a week. This time period can be increased on subsequent offenses. Personally, I would spank some children who were acting like this, but you should do what ever you do for punishment ( time out etc.) after they clean up the mess. Tell them as they clean up that you are sorry they did not want to play with you. When they protest (they will!) that they DID want to play point out the behavior that leads you to believe other wise. They need to understand that you will NOT accept this behavior.
2007-06-02 00:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by Witchyluck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.
You need to explain to them that the minute they start acting up that the game is over, and they will go to their room(s) and wait there for XXXminutes until they can calm down and attempt to come back and play again. If it happens twice the game is put away.
And follow through.
Whatever punishment you give, or warn them about, always follow through.
2007-06-02 01:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by E's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If they're going to act that way, there's no reason to play games with them; that would just be condoning their behavior. If I were in your shoes, I would try one more board game and tell them if they decide to act out of line again, you simply won't play anymore. Tell them you will not tolerate that kind of behavior and there will be consequences otherwise. Good luck!
2007-06-02 00:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are, I am. She gets one reminder, and then I put the game away - literally, right there. And then no more games for that day. She has gotten much better about using good manners during play, and also doesn't like it when I put the game away in the middle of the game. :)
2007-06-02 16:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to throw away the board game so they will not have anything to throw or knock over.
Why are you allowing this bad behavior to continue? It sounds like they are very spoiled and it will only get worse unless you nip it in the bud now.
2007-06-01 23:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are just exhibiting sibling rivalry. "who gets to be the best"
competing for your attention., whether warranted or not.
Just relax and put it away for now, focus on each of them individually. Bring back the board games when they are 10 and 11 It will be much different.
2007-06-02 00:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Milmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋