I have a new friendship with a (Army) soldier that I would love to nurture and see blossom.
I feel that I am strong enough to be a warrior's woman, traditional and old-fashioned.
So...what type of support do you like to hear when your training or deployed?
What keeps it fresh and strong for you?
When he's not working in the field, we have nightly conversations and phone sex, and I always try to incorporate new situations to try when he returns to me...
But what other things can I do for my soldier currently 600 miles away from me?, and then in the fall he'll be deployed (3rd tour) for 15 months...please help and thank you for your time - and of course - your service to God and Country!
2007-06-01 16:15:46 · 11 answers · asked by ndngrlz 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The most important things he can receive from you is love loyalty and trust. If he knows that he can trust you, the rest is easy. If he knows you love him, the miseries there are easy.
While I don't recommend telling him all the everyday details of how the boss is a problem (pales in comparison), keeping him abreast of things is a good thing. It's a balancing act. My ex went overboard on both ends of it, first complaining of every little thing and then telling me nothing.
In the end, your true self will shine through without the words. All you have to do is allow it (and you'll have hard time hiding it anyway).
2007-06-01 17:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by John T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been deployed so many times in the 22 years we've been married that I lost count. Gunplumber has it right though, he needs to know that you can stand on your own two feet. My husband tells me that when he is deployed he doesn't have to worry if I'm falling apart because I can handle it. I have seen women run up credit cards, cheat, neglect children, cheat some more, and even drugs. One of my husband's men came back from a 13 month deployment to his wife and a two month old son at home. (You do the math)
While he is gone, send him lots of cards and letters. Once he has an address for you go online to motomail and register. I believe this can be used by all branches of service. You can write him and they print the letter out for him there. He can get a letter in less than 3 days. Keep it light though. He doesn't need to constantly hear how miserable you are without him. Tell him you miss him and can't wait to see him. Let him do his job and come home. The homecomings are WONDERFUL.
Good luck.
2007-06-01 16:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by jbdb2494 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Simply let him know that he can trust you. There is nothing worse in an honest soldier's eyes than a woman who professes love to a soldier, and when he's gone, she is out with someone else. The worst thing psychologically to happen over there is to believe that there is nothing to come home to. That knowledge of trust is worth more than anything else to him.
2007-06-01 16:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Speaking strictly for myself - independence. She needs to be a fully functional human being.
I was fortunate to find a woman who is capable of standing up to life on her own, since it was impossible to run home and fix every little thing when I was living in a tent on the other side of the world for many months at a time. Being ex-Army herself, she already understood that service to the nation comes first.
2007-06-01 16:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by gunplumber_462 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If your man is serious about you. He would want you to continue loving him no matter how hard it gets, be FAITHFUL to him, trust him, be honest to him & to yourself, be supportive every time he gets deployed, no matter how long, understand his job in the Army, accept it & keep in touch with him constantly while he's deployed, by writing him letters, sending him pictures (NO RATED R pictures please) be a lady & respect yourself, although sexy to him behind the curtains, remain CONSERVATIVE. Don't forget to focus on yourself, your goals, your education, your future, always have a positive attitude & have faith in your relationship.
2007-06-01 17:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, im in the same situation with my soldier and so far ive found that to just be there when he needs me and be understanding because work is his life. When he does leave, dont just email him send him letters. dont be overly possesive but dont be a doormat. Happiness and Health to both of you!
2007-06-01 16:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Meg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a woman n i'm shy til u get to be attentive to me. i will sit down at college quiet n no longer consult with all of us n wen ppl consult with me i'm getting frightened...... yet while ik u n have been acquaintances i'm so plenty extra outgoing .... I merely get frightened around extra present day human beings n i'm getting scared..... adult adult males continuously calls me cute n cute cuz i'm shy, short, have been given a effective physique, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......
2016-11-03 09:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont do the pearl harbor thing... Where he stays alive because he wants to see his girl again and you cheat on him.... Just tell him how much you love him and for each rag tag he kills thats one b-lowjob token... rofl wow.. shouldnt of asked guys
2007-06-01 17:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be there when he gets back.
You might be the one thing that keeps him going.
Just be there.
2007-06-01 16:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by The Great Northern 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-01 18:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by T 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋