Me and my mom are SOOOOOO different and I feel that everything I do in her eyes is wrong. She just doesn't understand me. I love my makeup, hair, shopping, all fun girl stuff and she is more of the sporty kind. She thinks that I am getting a "plastic" look because of the black around my eyes. I like the way I look and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Any suggestions to keep peace with her and have a better relationship??
2007-06-01 15:59:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah, why don't you try understanding where she's coming from for a change, instead of brooding about her not understanding you. She's trying to instill values in your life by teaching you that looks aren't everything. Learn something while you can.
2007-06-01 16:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindly remind her that she also was a teen once, and that while she doesn't quite like or approve of everything you do, her mom probably felt the same way back then.
This is a normal phase. You're being so newly independent and it might be difficult for your mom at times. And your mom irritates you when she doesn't see the things in the same eye as you do and dare say something to you.
Tell her you love her though, you can never tell her that enough.
And remember one thing it takes years to understand. A daughter WILL at some point separate a bit from her mother and sort of clash, only to come back much closer than ever afterwards.
2007-06-01 23:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by yogi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, so many moms DO remember what it was like to be your age, and how many mistakes were made. Your mom does not have the excellent skills of communicating with you, but I would bet my last cent that she means well.
Or perhaps she is a self centered person who only cares about how you reflect on her.
Your gut will tell you which is right.
I hope the first is right because if the second is, then, she does not really care about WHO you are.
A parents job is to love and support this person who we have been gifted with be a part of their lives. You are not property, but if your mom has her perspectives in order she will encourage you to be you. But she may be very afraid of the REAL dangers in the world and just be trying to protect you.
It is a tough call since there is surely so much more to the the story.
I hope it works out for both of you.
2007-06-01 23:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and compromise can go a long way. Talk with your mom. See what she would like to see of you and tell her what you like.
Remember, your Mom is trying to raise you to be a responsible adult, one day. For now, you are a teenager - I would guess between 14-16 - and you want to things your own way. So, see if a compromise can be reached.
You never know - different make-up might be nice. Or, maybe at least, once in a while, you can tone it down, just for Mom. Compromise. Maybe then, she may be more lenient about your personal look.
2007-06-01 23:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same with my mom and I...except she belives in "simple living" and I don't.I say just let her say what she says atleast you'll feel good about looking pretty and having a life.But still you'' kind of feel bad sometimes so I just ignore waht she says.I mean your not your mom so why would you have to be like her? things have changed now.Live your life the way you want to like.Good Luck.
2007-06-01 23:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥me♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's how every mother stay they r just concern about how u dress and how u look. This might seem hard for u but do what your mom say and have a mother and daughter conversation. Things will be better.
2007-06-01 23:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you two are fighting about? Your style of make-up?
Be glad that's all you two fight about!
OH BTW, you and your mom are not really sooooo different.
If that were true, the two of you wouldn't be so passionate about a difference of opinion on eye make-up.
2007-06-01 23:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents.... they think i wear too much eye liner... and really it is NOTHING compared to others at school... and i dont think i wear that much at all....well she finally has stopped saying anything... cuz i wear it everyday and i guess she figured out it really is nothing bad,
maybe just give it sometime.
and with the relationship thing...just spend time with her.... and although parents can be annoying and talk about nothing you care about.... just pretend that you understand... and care. cuz thats what i did....and BOOM a whole lot better. now it may not be perfect but it is a hell of a lot easier.
soooo hope that helped.
2007-06-01 23:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all normal.
just tell that this is who you are and you're happy with it. both of you are completely different and she doesn't have all the right to change your style.
if you can't talk to her or try to confront her, just don't listen to whatever she says about your style. hahaha!
but she's still your mother. respect her in any way..
2007-06-01 23:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by scooba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk to her for awhile let things melo out you dont wanna fight and regret some thing you said later it feel horrible. just chill
2007-06-01 23:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by derek g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋